Such as if someone has a girlfriend they married super fast. She seems like a nice person. He tells you how she’s his soulmate and all this stuff. But you just have a feeling maybe things aren’t what they seem to be.
And, you're probably right! See you're not seduced by her and under her influence... you're looking at her with an objective eye still. I would ask who pushed for marriage super fast, but I'm going to take a wild guess that it was most likely her... and that being my final conclusion is based on, is she a basic bitch or is she like super hawt or something? Men will tend to push for it to lock down the pussy if the chick is super fucking hawt. Women push for it if they just want complete control, restrict his other options, and take control of his assets.
So with all that said... you're the one there, not me, which is it brah?
I think its pretty easy to see that when you are the one on the outside , I've seen it many times and ( sadly ) I've not had a prediction that is incorrect to this point , as in , all of the relationships / marriages have ended.
I think its easier to see from outside than inside.
If one marries someone from a toxic family with a lot of trauma like domestic violence, cheating etc.
One might seem like a good choice of partner, but as long as they get triggered they start showing their toxic behaviours. So basically, when someone has gone through a lot of trauma, especially in their childhood.
That's why checking someone's family background is very important when searching for a life partner. I'm not saying that you can't be the bigger person and help them heal, but generally people with similar trauma are best together so that they can heal together.
s Usually that feeling is right! Just asked a question similar to this.
My cousin always picks bad guys how do I tell her that man is trash?
Really all you can do is shrug and lightly bring stuff up! Not they are bad person just they are manipulating them some.
Really they won't ever figure it out and friends and family will be easily able to notice
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Sadly we can’t , we can assume someone is in a bad relationship and try to give them advice on their relationship , but the truth is only they can make that decision , it comes down to them, there choice on what they want to do. We can all be judgmental when it comes to other people’s relationships and think to ourselves , that’s not a relationship I would tolerate or be in , but the truth is , it isn’t your relationship. I usually stay out of other people’s relationships because of this reason , the only way I would try
To step in , is if I witnessed some crazy shit happening behind their backs , like cheating or backstabbing or betraying , things that aren’t normal in a committed relationship , I would express my feelings of concern to them but leave it up to them to decide on what they want to do , So if I feel something is fucked up in someone elses relationship , will pull them aside and ask them why are they tolerating this kind of behavior or do you know what your partner is doing to you behind your back , and just give them advice but I can’t force Them to side with me , you should never try to interfere in someone else’s relationship , you can give advice but you are best to stay out of it because it can backfire on you and then you become the asshole. I have witnessed some relationships that I just SMH to and think How in the hell are they still together lol It’s their decision their choice , not yours
You usually have to know that person at least a bit to be able to tell. Otherwise, you're usually assuming.
YES omg.
I went on a double date with this girl and her fiancé, she was my friend. We had been together for a few months, and she had been with him for yearsss. But when she shared stories about them, and when I saw them interacting with each other, it was more like they were friends. Like, it was clear they weren’t compatible and shit. He would raise his voice at her and just show 0 affection.
Like, I’m all for people managing their own relationships but she was engaged over a year. Me and my mans could both tell he was trash.
Isolation is a BIG one, and is often the first step in toxic or abusive relationships. If they spend all their time together and stop seeing friends or family. Also, if their partner is rude or mean to you or friends/family while hiding it from the one they're in a relationship with. Manipulative or controlling behaviour is a big red flag too. Also, if they move super fast at the beginning. This usually means that there's some love-bombing involved. Normal relationships are slow-cookers; they progress at a healthy rate, where the two people involved really get to know each other before deciding to commit. And the commitment comes in stages, such as moving in after at least a year of dating. So if you know someone who's moved in with their new boyfriend/girlfriend weeks or months after meeting them, big red flag.
I definitely believe in MOST relationships, someone is the leader. And keep in mind I’m saying MOST, obviously not all of them.
But definitely there’s one person holding something over someone. The hotter most attractive partner is definitely in power in most cases. Wether that’s an attractive man or attractive woman.
The sexually attractive one, of good genetics and good health. Will have all the power. Unless the man is rich. Therefore he might have some power too. This doesn’t mean that women won’t go find a bigger castle or richer king 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️. Generally, the attractive man or woman has the power.
Hmmm, I have been right in guessing that a relationship is going to be a bad one, but just going off of what you have said, no. You didn’t give any evidence of warning signs at all. You said she’s genuinely nice and he seems happy. Unfortunately your feeling can be entirely influenced by your own experiences, trauma or opinion of how long a relationship should go on before moving forward. I’d say just give it time and see if there’s any real evidence that surfaces. Be careful about meddling. My brother in law had a friend that was always saying little comments about his wife being too controlling. It really escalated the situation and resentful feelings. They almost got divorced. When he ditched the friend and they got some good couples therapy to work things out, they are so happy now.
Well first you’d need to find the reason it seems off people in the early stages of love don’t listen to reason especially if there isn’t a solid reason. when you find out why you can revisit it main thing to take note of is to avoid being hostile towards their relationship or her unless something crazy comes about even then to be supportive. My close friend was in a long bad relationship with a cheater but he felt overwhelmed by the hostility our friend group was displaying towards her and the relationship it wasn’t until we simply said we don’t support this relationship but if you want to continue go ahead but we want nothing to do with her because she makes you unhappy and us uncomfortable that things started to change and she began trying to cut us off because we didn’t want to hangout with her or simply spoke up if she said something to make us uncomfortable. Be respectful and mindful of yourself and your friend he may be more open to hear you out that way.
I saw a friend of mine dating a man she hardly knew.
They were so incompatible from the get-go.
I warned her that I felt bad vibes from him and about their pairing.
She didn't listen to me.
He turned on to be very violent and, therefore, physically hurt her numerous times.
She left him not because of their tumultuous relationship but because he was arrested for being a drug mule.
If the other person has anger issues and they go in circles when your friend tries to communicate with them
if you see your friend wince or tell you they’re scared.
If your friend states clearly they did any of the following:
stalked them
hit them
cussed at them etc
Stressed, quiet, unhappy, clearly in thought. If the couple argues a lot, he doesn’t seem to communicate well. If you see them together and there’s no affection, not eve a hug or kiss when they greet. Body language will tell you what you need to know. They may even talk badly about one another behind each others backs
If you have genuine concerns for your buddy/friend and feel that things don't look as smooth or good as they should be that could be a possible sign. Other signs are if he/she shows disrespect to you or your friends & family or shows signs of simmering violence like violent tendencies e. g. snapping back at you for no reason.
Unfortunately sometimes we have no way of knowing about how people really are until after the marriage.
Moving too fast is never a good idea, especially as a man in these modern times. You, as the man or the woman, should both relax and let things flow. If things naturally move fast, then that's the way it will be. But that's only one out of 1000 where things move fast and never crash.
I would first evaluate his or her previous relationships if possible, and try to see a pattern.
infatuation or the possible need for constant companionship, can lead to being trapped inside a bubble, which makes it challenging for one to self evaluate.
When one partner is doing all the pleasing as well as making excuses for the other's behavior, that would also be as sign, in my opinion.
People said that about me and my wife when we got married. We laugh about it 10 years later
If they married super fast... It's a Russian roulette. If She seems nice to You, it's unlikely She's got some explicit bad intentions. The problem is... Every single human has their shortcomings. They haven't got to know each other well, and these shortcomings will come to light after the marriage. They might decide to pull it off regardless of any problems they might face, but a much more common trend recently is to have a divorce.
If you have concerns about someone's relationship, pay attention to signs of isolation, changes in behavior, or if they become overly defensive about their partner. Trust your instincts, and consider having an open and non-judgmental conversation with them to express your observations and offer support if needed.
Maybe they were just ready and able to do it.. A fast marriage doesn't always mean it'll turn out bad.. Now if they virtually know nothing about each other and find out things along the way that they don't like.. Might be a different story.. LOL..
Poor communication, lack of honesty and no touching or sex
This happens so often and sometimes makes me cringe
When you are not in the relay, ur sense is actually accurate and trustable as u are not ‘blinded by love’ hence sometimes we can notice it well as compared to those who are in ir
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