I need advice. What am I doing wrong?

[Anonymous]

Ok to start off I am an 19 year old girl. I just started going to college. I started two weeks ago and made quite a few friends already. And already three of my guy friends have asked me out/ confessed to me. I’ve known them for less than two weeks and they are already telling me that they have feelings for me? Without even asking to hang out after school first? I don’t know what I’m doing. I don’t think I’m flirting I just have a naturally friendly personality. I’ll literally talk to anyone. I don’t want to date anyone. I never have and I don’t think I ever will. I don’t like romance I just want some good friends to talk to and hang out with. Is there anything I can do?

[caring__1]

Just be open and truthful with them. If you're asexual and only want platonic friends, state that. If you want to put relationships on hold till after you get your degree, state that. Just don't state one thing and then do the opposite, or they'll lose all respect for you. It doesn't matter what your preference is, never allow people to invest when there is no hope for them. If you're clear from the start, people will either accept you as you are or look elsewhere if they're seeking something different.

[Chris9087]

Yeah just tell them that you're not interested in a relationship right now.
Make sure you use protection if you hook up with guys especially if you don't see a future together.

[riidges]

Just be upfront about how you are and what you're wanting.

[msc545]

Be kind but firm, and set boundaries for these guys. Tell them you don't want to date - directly.