Break Up & Divorce

Need advice, and support. What do I do?

sophialov

Hi y'all. So I have been on and off with this man we will call him A for a year. This summer was a rough patch for him he failed out of school, quit his job, and moved back home with his parents (we are 22). He would always play the it's not you it's me card and break up with me, or push me away at least once a week. About 2 weeks ago this happened, and he told me he needed space so I got fed up and got with one of his old teammates (they only spent one semester on the same team). The next day A decided he wanted to get back with me, but received a call from his teammate S saying that I got with him. A then decided that this is cheating even though he had broken up with me the night before. Given I know I should have admitted it happened I didn't want to deal with the slut shaming so I denied it all, and said I never got with S. A then broke up with me officially, I spiraled tried to kill myself and spent a week in the hospital. I just got out to see I haven't recieved a single call, text or anything from A who knows I was hospitalized. Instead he's been driving out from Jersey to our school (the one he failed out of) in NY and didn't even think about giving me (who is at that school) a call or visit to see how i am doing. I am so heartbroken I really loved this guy I feel like I did everything wrong and i feel guilty, i know i didn't cheat, i know i shouldn't of lied but i was trying to protect myself. i finally called him today he didn't pick up but he texted me and he said he didn't reach out because he didn't want to make things worse. KEEP in mind by the way this man has actually cheated on me before, and i forgave him, but he doesn't ever want to be with me again. what do i do? i need guidance

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