Can your partner say "I love you" too much - too often?

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Does it get on your nerves? Then if you tell them, they quit saying it. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Yes they can and if they do it means you aren’t exactly compatible. Or at the least: the energy and level of passion/ affection is not mutual.

Well clearly, right? If one is saying wayyy more than the other. The one saying it more- IF GENUINE! ☝️- means it more. Than the one who is not saying it as much, or at all, or gets annoyed by the previous one’s “enthusiasm.”

If one has trust issues, they can also be unfamiliar or unaccustomed to hearing “I love you.” At all or so much, that they will feel cynical of the other’s emotions and if it’s true, that they really love them.

If one finds joy in complex activities or deep thought. Repetition could be a trigger and the words could feel shallow at a point.

This could be especially so if they have different love languages and it’s not at all in verbal or affirmation and such.

I just think while there can be some reasons for this disconnect or aggravation/ tension for one, it mostly would mean or indicate (in my opinion) that they’re not compatible or equally excited about each other and the relationship.

When all GOES WELL- you can never say “I LOVE YOU.” Enough.

It is an overused phrase in some places and by certain people, so that could potentially make things challenging or so, but the term itself is expressively endearing so it being said is being affectionate (AGAIN- when genuine) so it shouldn’t ever really be a problem amongst lovebirds.

sunflower00 · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend used to get annoyed because he thought I said I love you too much.

I think it’s just different ways of being brought up. Every time I ended a call or left the house or said goodnight to my parents I always told them I loved them and them to me. Even if I was just going upstairs. I don’t think he was the same even though he has a very nice family. So I guess I’m just used to saying it often and he’s not. He claimed it loses meaning when you say it so much but I just prefer to let people know and also because you never know what is going to happen.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Girl I grew up with and we were childhood friends/sweethearts, i was kind of short a bit shorter than her. Anyway she was 14 and I was 15. I had been away from January to September as my Dad had a job abroad for a few months and by the time I came back puberty had hit us both.

I had grown from 5ft something to 6ft2 and she was still the same height and I literally towered over. Though puberty didn't miss her as she had grown giant tits too big for her skinny frame.

We had always been friends and had talked on the phone every week but it was obvious to both of us that we weren't going to be just friends anymore from our kind of shy embarrassed conversation, her marvelling at my height, me checking her boobs out and then my embarrassing erection and her teasing me about it. She saw me for the first time as a man an I her as a woman.

We dated until she went off to college. Probably the best time of my life and probably the best sex I ever had.

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

A few times a day would suffice. Repeating it several times an hour would make me sick of it.
When I had someone, I'd tell her first thing in the morning, a while later when we'd go our separate ways for the day, probably again when we met up again, most likely at least once more during the day and then last thing at night. Also at least once when we'd fuck. That's plenty.

Avicenna · Answer

Yeah, but it would really have to be a lot of times before that would become "too often".

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, you can say “I love you” so often that it becomes routine and automatic and meaningless.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

everyone has a different definition of  too much , so yes, it can happen and for sure happens in both directions too often or not enough often...

electromagnetic · Answer

My partner use to say it a lot when we were away from each other. It did sorta bother me because I knew he loved me but he kept saying so all the time. Do I stopped and only said it back in moments that I felt were necessary to do so. He caught on after a week.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Yes. The girlfriend who I dated for 3 years said it far too much. The way it was said and the times it was said, were real creepy to me and I found it to be annoying most of the time. It wasn't coming from a good place and it seemed to arise from clinginess and insecurity. I know it might sound mean of me to say this, but if you were there you'd probably agree. It was weird.

b_lova · Answer

Yes they can say it too much when their actions don't match the words.

Think about it this way, if you say you love me, but then nag me to change, you don't love me, you love the person you think I can be, so hearing you say you love me becomes upsetting over time.

soe11 · Answer

We say both each other. We showed our love practically.  We always polite and gentle each other. We share all sorts of task together.

DishLady · Answer

If it's meaningful, I'm fine with it -- when I say something, I mean it and I'd expect an SO to be the same... If it's just logorrhea (saying it just to say it or to fill the void) then there's no point to it.

RetroReviews · Answer

Everything can be too much got to have some balance in your life regardless of what it is

molonski2 · Answer

If they say it all the time , they are simply needy and pathetic , its not real , the problem is with people who do this.. it can be said FAR too often , for sure , anyone who does this has a problem.

Alex-Snow · Answer

As long as it is sincere one can't say it enough

exitseven · Answer

I never get tired of it. Even if she wakes me up during the night to tell me.

Gochogirl · Answer

Yes, smothering is a real thing. If you're not on the same page as your partner, you're going to be uncomfortable with how little/how often they express love. It's a sign.

sheenagwapa · Answer

in person or just on texts which is more of a standard operating procedure. if it's in person you can just tell them sayinh ily too often loses its meaning or impact on you in a nice way

Tyler2 · Answer

If you are married or engaged then NO. OTHERWISE probably yeah.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I had an ex that was obsessed with me.  Being too mushy was getting to be awkward & nauseating.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Nothing wrong with telling someone you love them but the meaning/authenticity can be diluted if you say it too often.

strateguy632 · Answer

saying every day even once loses value, like i say because it was on my to do list.

sheikalana · Answer

We don't really say 'I love you' all the time of every day but I can see that as something that would annoy me.

sawno · Answer

Never been in a relationship where it was to much.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Yes, too much of ANYTHING can be a pain! Well, almost anything but wrong category for that! :P

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Wow! Women are too much you tell you love them it too much you don't say it then it's not enough. This is why men now a day don't want a relationship at all

Likes2drive · Answer

I guess it can get over used and not feel meaningful if you say it so often

Juxtapose · Answer

I grew up with my mom saying that pretty much every 3 seconds so that would not bother me.

impalabill77 · Answer

A couple times a day will do. You can say it to much?

In_Trance · Answer

I suppose it depends on the dynamic of the couple but I don't think it could be said too much

AngryCarl · Answer

In theory yes. In practice it's unlikely ever to happen.

perpetualsadnessss · Answer

No, I think its really nice 😂

alonewithsilence · Answer

It varies depending on the size of the relationship, it would be ridiculous if it was new.

madewithingredients · Answer

yes. the more you say it the less it means.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Yeah. It loses steam when used too often.

rosemilk · Answer

yes, it starts to lose it's believability

serious_miss419 · Answer

No! Love is important with a healthy relationship

FakeNIK · Answer

Nope, depends on her mood

Kelly6 · Answer

@sage2021 yes he can and I would love it

TeraGER · Answer

Yes.. I prefer more quiet partners

godfatherfan · Answer

Never.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

I would think that he is horny.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, that happens.

dudeinohio · Answer

Doesn't bother me.

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