How far should you plan ahead in a new LDR? (Page 4)

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So how far have people planned ahead to visit someone if they are in a long distance relationship? 2 months? 4 months? Longer … thanks

Brucewayne123 · Answer

I’ve never been in a long distance relationship but I would think a couple months would be good. Also a surprise visit would probably be cool for both… or you’d catch them creating. Either way I’m sure it would be interesting.

edmwarrior · Answer

I’ve never met anyone from an LDR. The one that came closest was two states away from me. I would’ve planned months ahead because that’s just the way I am. I need a lot of time to prepare for things, financially, mentally, and physically.

SotiCoto · Answer

I got the letters mixed up for a moment and thought you were talking about the Docklands Light Railway...

Really though... long distance relationships all fail sooner or later. Plan on finding someone else.

Evsisa · Answer

We planned one visit at the time and did 1-2 trips per month.

Daniel707 · Answer

Well there needs to be constant communication and a strong sense of trust and loyalty for it to ever work long term

1WildBeatlejuice · Answer

Let s don’t work for me is like fairy tales to me I can’t get enjoyment from licking the pixels on my phone 😛😂

JuliaCartorez · Answer

that really depends on the situation, I would say plan a few months ahead to meet and have a plan incase things don't go as intended.

ShivaniPandey · Answer

I think LDR does not succeed. They have to meet once per month minimum to stay in relationship.

LauraJ00 · Answer

1 month for regular activities. 3-6 months for trips. Anything more will make the relationship too high maintenance to keep up with.

AyChingao · Answer

Took a year to get from Texas to Suffolk UK to be with my girl, finances and logistics kept getting in the way.

Verbano1 · Answer

It depends on what you're planning to do and on the distance; if you want to call him/her you don't have to plan ahead

LifeHitMeandRan · Answer

You don't. These relationships fail most of the time so you shouldn't waste your time with them.

HellGeist · Answer

You have to have serious plans to visit/meet in person, in my opinion. If you can't see yourself building a future with someone, then what is the point even if they live next door?

itsannalee · Answer

I have LDR relationship across the continent. Mostly he lives far away from me about 2-3 months, then comes back for 1/2 months here.

Kabluie · Answer

Usually been 2 months or when the travel becomes convenient if it's me that visits first. I travel for my job for regularly so that made it easier where it doesn't cost me anything.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Military family so, 2 or 4 months is laughable. You don't have to plan... life goes on without them in the picture physically.

coolbreeze · Answer

It takes a lot of money and time and patience to make any long distant relationship to work. Also a lot of trust.

Anonymous · Answer

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP is ridiculous and absurd. It’s a false relationship. I’ll never accept that as you being in a relationship. I’m gonna think you’re trolling or just flat out idiotic

lisafkit79 · Answer

LDR should not exist we don't in anything about the person we are talking to in real life they could lie or tell truth but how do we know it's like boating alone in deepoceans in high waves

Anonymous · Answer

I know a lot of military guys who's wives and girlfriend's chested on them while they were deployed.

I think it all depends on the people involved. I think cheaters will cheat eventually regardless of the situation.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

How long have you known them? If your just planning your first physical meeting I wouldn't put a deadline in it depending in circumstances. But don't plan anything beyond that until after it.

serious · Answer

LDR's in my view are bad and are not long lasting. It is also too stressful for the people involved.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I would wait to plan anything until I actually had the time and money to go. Then I would just talk with my partner and we’d figure out a time that’d work best for both of us.

sage2021 · Answer

It depends on how much you miss each other and want to see them and get hugged by them. I couldn't wait longer than two months or maybe sooner.

Lisaasker · Answer

Give it 3 to 6 months I would say as it takes time to travel.

jkreuger95 · Answer

If you want it to last then as much what if this happens preparation the better. Most don't work out

MySunflowerSophia · Answer

I would say roughly 4-5 months so that you know it's coming and you know how much time you have left with your partner.

KaiidiraX · Answer

Can much really be planned other than when you are going to communicate?

Snowbunnyalex · Answer

Depends on both of your schedules. Communicate with them to figure out an appropriate timeframe.

Darklydarkened · Answer

No such thing as Long Distance Relationships. They're emotionally invested letter partners at best.

Debby7810 · Answer

people do engage in relationships whether LDR or simply a communication method that dont require physical presence because they want to establish something outside of that.

Raam1994 · Answer

LDR is completely different for each relationship and each person’s perspective. I have tried it and it went for nearly a year and she got married to some other guy

SolitarySolace · Answer

I wouldn't. LDR very very rarely ever work out. They always cheat. Always. That's been my experience. But that's been my experience with majority of women

Sweety_Torneeya · Answer

I think 1 year is enough to know a person if you are not a fool orherwise meeting an unknown person is a foul act which can be transformed into sadistic consequences.

standardguy · Answer

A ldr is something you can have besides to your normal life. It's okay to know somebody better in a slow way. But after 3 or 5 months you should visit the other person to check out if it is possible in real life to be with the other person.

Wayneg89 · Answer

I don't think there is a right answer. It'll vary relationship to relationship due to no two relationships being the same. There are tons of factors such as distance, work, etc that have to be accounted for.

dragoblack · Answer

Best not to do LDRs, they never work out (especially if you have never met them in person) LDRs are just internet roleplay relationships, missing all of the physical aspects that all it a proper romance relationship.

Dou1994 · Answer

As someone who just recently ended a long distance relationship after being together 1 year and 5 months (only seeing each other twice) not only trust and communication is key.. finances and mental toughness is key as well.

foxsquirrell · Answer

I find this idea ridiculous. I mean how can you be in a relationship while you are living far apart? If you decide to be in a relationship to me it means that the two should live together.

Not even going to try to answer your question.

Veronika_p · Answer

avoid planning too far ahead until you've spent more time getting to know each other

Quiet_Man · Answer

what do you mean plan? it's not like you are supposed to keep secrets about your life plans.

Intelligent_Lady · Answer

First build consistency, then build plans. In LDRs, stability matters more than speed.

TurkishGuyy · Answer

I think it should be planned at least 3 months in advance.

bowenw · Answer

As much time as possible. It also depends on the circumstances, for example if vacation days must be booked at work.

Tyler_with_Questions · Answer

2-4 months is common. Shorter or longer as needed.

Anonymous · Answer

@finfin1981 I'm very much someone who likes to be a forward-thinker. Yet if that show HIMYM taught me anything, it's not to be a guy like fictional Ted - the character is too into wanting to get married as if it's an urgency. Lol

Axel1969 · Answer

I planned 12 hours because I only decided tonight that I'm going to drive 7 hours to go and get a piece lol.

juleyboo74 · Answer

LDR's are hard, so planning ahead is crucial.

queenofcardio · Answer

Not far in advance. I did it once and I wish I never did

On_cloud_wine · Answer

You won’t find me in one unless I was dating someone in the military

KylieKitten · Answer

Hmm never been in a long distance thing before 🤔

Anti_Trump · Answer

I always plan less than 1 meter. Just manage to fimd a method to rub one out.

Hellfireandcandy · Answer

I think you need to figure out how long you'll be apart then add 6 months and plan for that.

Lostgirl611 · Answer

Depends. I would as soon as I know I can do it

NoDecision · Answer

Why is this question 7 months old and still in the feed?

incorrected · Answer

LDRs are a waste of time unless it's temporary and there's a fixed time limit on that.

electromagnetic · Answer

I love seeing this much opinions being shared.  I don’t plan.

Cumbelly · Answer

Try to establish an end point to the LDR if u can, to keep spirits up

Anonymous · Answer

If it’s LDR after being in person ok, if you met online na. I’ve done it 3 times, one girl I dated online for 2 years, felt like I met a complete stranger, and she did weird things in person, and looked different.

molonski2 · Answer

Don't put a time limit on it , just play it by ear and see how things go first..

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