How far should you plan ahead in a new LDR? (Page 4)

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So how far have people planned ahead to visit someone if they are in a long distance relationship? 2 months? 4 months? Longer … thanks

weebbutt · Answer

Don't plan the relationship like that, only plan to meet. I will say, I'm pretty skeptical of any relationship that goes on for longer than 6 months without meeting's chances.

summiter · Answer

I think a lot depends on how far apart you are from each other, how long you want to meet up for and working around job schedules. I also guess it depends on how horny each of you are!

naartjie · Answer

I try not do that but I don’t know what the future holds. They seem too complicated… not for me. I can’t even date a guy down the road for me so I don't know

midnightmoon05 · Answer

1 yr. Will one be able to move within a yr. Yes. Then get marry… otherwise wasteing time.  I was in LD with my now hubby… was not easy but we committed and am married.

Anonymous · Answer

I can go by with a life time if she is as loyal as me.

I have seen people being single just because they love one and only one.
I think I am one of them. 😂
Right now I am in love some one who is never going to be mine in any universe.
So ya it sucks but what I can say, I love her.

Everynight I dream of her to be mine. And every morning, I hope that today she might call me and say I love you too.
That call never came, now I am moving to UK.

privateperson · Answer

2 months for weekend visits 4 months for longer visits and notable occasions and trips to get the better travel rates and save money.

Laws-Of-Existence · Answer

Plan constantly. As soon as planning stops you lose everything. So, plan, plan, plan, and never act.

Tigress1039 · Answer

As much as you can life is high unpredictable and if your relationship has a huge influence in your life it would make sense to sit down and thoroughly plan it to avoid future risks

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

How far away are they my now husband and I lived 2 hours away and one of us would drive down to see each other once a week for a little over a year we did that

RavVid · Answer

Well depends on how long distance the LDR is. Overseas quite a bit. Other side of the continent - you just skip the visa step. Next door state not much.

lightbulb27 · Answer

my wife and I met on GAG and planned maybe a month in advance. we were 9hrs drive apart.  good luck, no shortage of exceitment.

Brucewayne123 · Answer

I’ve never been in a long distance relationship but I would think a couple months would be good. Also a surprise visit would probably be cool for both… or you’d catch them creating. Either way I’m sure it would be interesting.

edmwarrior · Answer

I’ve never met anyone from an LDR. The one that came closest was two states away from me. I would’ve planned months ahead because that’s just the way I am. I need a lot of time to prepare for things, financially, mentally, and physically.

SotiCoto · Answer

I got the letters mixed up for a moment and thought you were talking about the Docklands Light Railway...

Really though... long distance relationships all fail sooner or later. Plan on finding someone else.

Evsisa · Answer

We planned one visit at the time and did 1-2 trips per month.

PixieFairyBtch · Answer

Months and months ahead just to make sure you have time to save up, make sure everything is set in stone, and to be sure that you can pack and or tidy things up before you leave or move. :)

Interstate · Answer

TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME!!! Never plan too far ahead, as we all know life throws monkey wrenches into plans.

SouthernBarbie6 · Answer

You should go back in time and un-plan starting it, but I'm a real downer on these things after I tried one.

Daniel707 · Answer

Well there needs to be constant communication and a strong sense of trust and loyalty for it to ever work long term

1WildBeatlejuice · Answer

Let s don’t work for me is like fairy tales to me I can’t get enjoyment from licking the pixels on my phone 😛😂

JuliaCartorez · Answer

that really depends on the situation, I would say plan a few months ahead to meet and have a plan incase things don't go as intended.

ShivaniPandey · Answer

I think LDR does not succeed. They have to meet once per month minimum to stay in relationship.

LauraJ00 · Answer

1 month for regular activities. 3-6 months for trips. Anything more will make the relationship too high maintenance to keep up with.

AyChingao · Answer

Took a year to get from Texas to Suffolk UK to be with my girl, finances and logistics kept getting in the way.

Verbano1 · Answer

It depends on what you're planning to do and on the distance; if you want to call him/her you don't have to plan ahead

LifeHitMeandRan · Answer

You don't. These relationships fail most of the time so you shouldn't waste your time with them.

HellGeist · Answer

You have to have serious plans to visit/meet in person, in my opinion. If you can't see yourself building a future with someone, then what is the point even if they live next door?

itsannalee · Answer

I have LDR relationship across the continent. Mostly he lives far away from me about 2-3 months, then comes back for 1/2 months here.

Kabluie · Answer

Usually been 2 months or when the travel becomes convenient if it's me that visits first. I travel for my job for regularly so that made it easier where it doesn't cost me anything.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Military family so, 2 or 4 months is laughable. You don't have to plan... life goes on without them in the picture physically.

coolbreeze · Answer

It takes a lot of money and time and patience to make any long distant relationship to work. Also a lot of trust.

Anonymous · Answer

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP is ridiculous and absurd. It’s a false relationship. I’ll never accept that as you being in a relationship. I’m gonna think you’re trolling or just flat out idiotic

lisafkit79 · Answer

LDR should not exist we don't in anything about the person we are talking to in real life they could lie or tell truth but how do we know it's like boating alone in deepoceans in high waves

Anonymous · Answer

I know a lot of military guys who's wives and girlfriend's chested on them while they were deployed.

I think it all depends on the people involved. I think cheaters will cheat eventually regardless of the situation.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

How long have you known them? If your just planning your first physical meeting I wouldn't put a deadline in it depending in circumstances. But don't plan anything beyond that until after it.

serious · Answer

LDR's in my view are bad and are not long lasting. It is also too stressful for the people involved.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I would wait to plan anything until I actually had the time and money to go. Then I would just talk with my partner and we’d figure out a time that’d work best for both of us.

sage2021 · Answer

It depends on how much you miss each other and want to see them and get hugged by them. I couldn't wait longer than two months or maybe sooner.

Lisaasker · Answer

Give it 3 to 6 months I would say as it takes time to travel.

jkreuger95 · Answer

If you want it to last then as much what if this happens preparation the better. Most don't work out

MySunflowerSophia · Answer

I would say roughly 4-5 months so that you know it's coming and you know how much time you have left with your partner.

KaiidiraX · Answer

Can much really be planned other than when you are going to communicate?

Snowbunnyalex · Answer

Depends on both of your schedules. Communicate with them to figure out an appropriate timeframe.

Darklydarkened · Answer

No such thing as Long Distance Relationships. They're emotionally invested letter partners at best.

Debby7810 · Answer

people do engage in relationships whether LDR or simply a communication method that dont require physical presence because they want to establish something outside of that.

Raam1994 · Answer

LDR is completely different for each relationship and each person’s perspective. I have tried it and it went for nearly a year and she got married to some other guy

SolitarySolace · Answer

I wouldn't. LDR very very rarely ever work out. They always cheat. Always. That's been my experience. But that's been my experience with majority of women

Sweety_Torneeya · Answer

I think 1 year is enough to know a person if you are not a fool orherwise meeting an unknown person is a foul act which can be transformed into sadistic consequences.

standardguy · Answer

A ldr is something you can have besides to your normal life. It's okay to know somebody better in a slow way. But after 3 or 5 months you should visit the other person to check out if it is possible in real life to be with the other person.

Wayneg89 · Answer

I don't think there is a right answer. It'll vary relationship to relationship due to no two relationships being the same. There are tons of factors such as distance, work, etc that have to be accounted for.

dragoblack · Answer

Best not to do LDRs, they never work out (especially if you have never met them in person) LDRs are just internet roleplay relationships, missing all of the physical aspects that all it a proper romance relationship.

Dou1994 · Answer

As someone who just recently ended a long distance relationship after being together 1 year and 5 months (only seeing each other twice) not only trust and communication is key.. finances and mental toughness is key as well.

foxsquirrell · Answer

I find this idea ridiculous. I mean how can you be in a relationship while you are living far apart? If you decide to be in a relationship to me it means that the two should live together.

Not even going to try to answer your question.

Veronika_p · Answer

avoid planning too far ahead until you've spent more time getting to know each other

Quiet_Man · Answer

what do you mean plan? it's not like you are supposed to keep secrets about your life plans.

been_burned_b4 · Answer

That would depend on the distance and, the cost of fuel (which affects nearly all transportation) ... thanks a lot trump

Intelligent_Lady · Answer

First build consistency, then build plans. In LDRs, stability matters more than speed.

TurkishGuyy · Answer

I think it should be planned at least 3 months in advance.

bowenw · Answer

As much time as possible. It also depends on the circumstances, for example if vacation days must be booked at work.

Tyler_with_Questions · Answer

2-4 months is common. Shorter or longer as needed.

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