How far should you plan ahead in a new LDR? (Page 5)

Question

So how far have people planned ahead to visit someone if they are in a long distance relationship? 2 months? 4 months? Longer … thanks

Salamosiko · Answer

I really wanna visit my boyfriend overseas, sadly i can't

Lady_Heart · Answer

There many men n women in the world, don't punish yourself with ldr, very small % worked it out. The rest is waste of time

madewithingredients · Answer

you should plan the wedding date if you want it to work out.

Zacksparrow · Answer

i did a long distance but didn't work me out i am sorry willow that was my girlfriend

Jindadi · Answer

I'm not the person to commit to long distance relationships.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Some makentheirbgoal from the summer to Christmas.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I only plan til the next trip. Beyond that, too many variables.

Jamknot9 · Answer

That will depend on both parties being able to plan and communicate. Probably at least 3 wks to a month.

Tamera952 · Answer

It all depends I suppose. I would think at least a few months out?

Petite_Cherry · Answer

A few months I would say to get in the right mental

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I'd plan ahead in a 30 km radius. (for the mathematically handicapped persons: this makes roughly 20 ''miles'')

strateguy632 · Answer

me? for long Distance 1 hour, plan that i will break up because far can't work.

rosemilk · Answer

i would think it depends on how far they are or if they're overseas

DizzyDesii · Answer

Long distance or not, I’m a woman with a plan. I’m plotting monthly if not weekly

Straight2thepoint · Answer

This long distant relationships joke. Its like eating a pie from far away. Video, pictures and audio of the pie won't do you any good. You're not eating anything. You're just a fool.

69Lonely69 · Answer

I think it really depends on the relationship. If it is an intense relationship you should meet ASAP. Though in my opinion those types of relationships never really work.

QuestionObsession · Answer

What plans, life plans or meeting plans? If life plans then go as slow as 6 months at a time. A lot can change in just 6 months and planning anything longer will only invite disappointment.

StyngRay · Answer

Depends on how serious and mature the two people are. But make sure you go over the issues that are important to both of you. Paramount is making it so that both of you are in the same city.

UrLoveMocha · Answer

I wouldn’t plan past two months tbh because anything can happen.

lilBigPotato · Answer

The only planning I do is to not end up in a ldr

Japangirly · Answer

You shouldn’t really plan anything before meeting them first.

Miristheiss · Answer

If you move away then we break up. No LDRs ever.

FrodoSkywalker007 · Answer

I couldn't manage an LDR that was long-term. My girlfriend in college lived a couple thousand miles away and a few months was way too long.

been_burned_b4 · Answer

That would depend on the distance and, the cost of fuel (which affects nearly all transportation) ... thanks a lot trump

nomomrnice · Answer

I would take it day by day and they're done that don't set yourself up for failure because too many times doesn't work out for whatever reason

GrammariklyIncorrekt · Answer

I would say a few months to make sure you save enough and make sure the other person doesn't back out

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Oh my I think the whole of gag is in the comments this is the first time iam seeing so many people commented..

tfan1 · Answer

I’m sorry but I’ve never been in a long distance relationship and wanted to meet face to face.

David318578 · Answer

Depends on how far is far. An hour drive is going to be completely different then have to take a plane.

SleepingHazard · Answer

I think planning a few months ahead would be wise, but not too far into the future. Maybe 3-4 months.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

It will never work if you plan it, maybe just let it be and pray day and night the distance won't last long

A_Wild_Redhead · Answer

Not even a minute. I am against LDR because you can't get to know them, truly.

thomastown · Answer

Not the kind of thing you can really plan ahead, unless you're saying "let's meet irl in about 3 months" or something like that.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I wouldn't be in one because I've never known one to work out in the history of dating. EVER!

Alex-Snow · Answer

I think a lot depends on both of your schedules, how far away you are from each other, travel plans and how horny each of you are.

Johnkramer98 · Answer

It depends on distance, and familiarity of the place. but most importantly on the people involved in the relationship. I mean if they want to meet eachother eagerly, why should they wait?

libralove · Answer

Any thing that you put hard work and dedication will last  -a job  -Schooling  -hobbie -sobriety  Determination is key in keeping the “flame or passion” alive

TheCoffeeisHot · Answer

Depends on how much variability, unpredictability and distance you tolerate because it's all about accommodating each other when possible. So I can't give you an universal number.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well there's no actual plan, much like when close contact, moving in together, and perhaps marriage actually occurs. You set a date and see what happens.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

It probably would depend on the different details of it but not too long incase it doesn't happen but I don't know if I could cope long distance stuff I'd end up doing something about maybe

Kevinvdd · Answer

LDR's are everything which is normal multiplied by 10 when talking about feelings. I would suggest that you don't wait too long to meet and that you, if everything feels good, you plan it on a 2 monthly base.

Pieter_Rabbit · Answer

This depends more on how comfortable you and your partner are with living in the moment or planning ahead than on LDRs in general in my opinion. Some people like to plan ahead than, others don’t.

MrChinaski · Answer

Warren Buffet: The best time to hold stocks is forever.

Katrina_5 · Answer

Honestly, I think you should plan the logistics, not the relationship. Like, who's visiting who and when? What's the end goal? If u don't have a plan for that within a few months, it's probably just a fantasy.

AskNaomie · Answer

I would break up before I did a LDR sorry, they just dont work out. What I'm not about to do is wait fot a phone call saying you don't want to do this anymore while I think im waiting for you to come back.

bingbongbangbung · Answer

Omg why did GaG keep spamming me this afte every time I submitted a question

Arachnophobic · Answer

I think it’s smart to have a general idea of where things could go, but I wouldn’t stress about detailed plans too early. As long as we're both enjoying it and staying connected, the rest can unfold naturally.

SolidGround · Answer

No idea, I've never been in one but I would say at least one week ahead for smaller things and one month ahead for bigger things like weekends together and maybe half a year to plan the huge things like vacations and longer trips together

Redgreenwood · Answer

I have been in one LDR and it's usually helpful to plan things a few months in advance and but the odd spontaneous trip can be really rewarding! Look maybe don't take advice from me since it failed anyway lol...

faith_it · Answer

You gotta visit before we even be in a relationship

gustavofring705 · Answer

This is an answer to the question "how far should you plan ahead (to visit someone) in an LDR?" Seems more like an answer to "Are LDR a good idea?" or some other question that wasn't asked.

exitseven · Answer

We used to plan to visit during school vacations so it was pre planned.

goaded · Answer

@girlsaskgag How long is this 5 month old question going to be promoted?

Easy1134 · Answer

That's tough. I would say six months would be the maximum.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

At least 6–9 months, then plan to visit them.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

How many more years is this question gonna be at the top of this page?

happierlungs · Answer

I would say plan at least a month ahead if not two. I dated a girl one distance for a little over two years and we always had way more success in meeting up and planning things out when they were way ahead of time.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I am thinking two months in advance. If I was to do ldr.

MicahRaine · Answer

It depends on where the relationship is at.  For me and Raine, we plan 3 months ahead.

ella617281 · Answer

I think it deoends on the distance. If its a long flight maybe two months, if its just a train visit, then maybe a week

How far should you plan ahead in a new LDR? (Page 5)

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At least 6–9 months, then plan to visit them.

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