How far should you plan ahead in a new LDR? (Page 6)

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So how far have people planned ahead to visit someone if they are in a long distance relationship? 2 months? 4 months? Longer … thanks

Jammannn · Answer

LDR's dont work, covid is proof enough of that. I get that its easier to find but you're much better off investing in something real.

GeorgePulchri · Answer

Maybe 1 month. I have never been in one, but I did attempt something like this to meet someone I liked. It never happened though.

aquamarine321 · Answer

I’m not sure why this question isn’t removed from my feed, and it’s been over a year seeing this question

Cidknee · Answer

I wonder why this question gets to stay right here where I see it after I x out of commenting elsewhere? It's been there for at least a week.

i_Jedi · Answer

In a new LDR, just plan the next visit or small goals, save the big plans for later once things get serious.

Meatballs · Answer

I waited 2 years to meet a female friend I made when MySpace was the only social media in Oakland California for a Raiders game

lolian94dl · Answer

I think LDR is pointless if there no strong bond between the couple , but and way there no reason for planing if you are into him just go ahead for it

AaaAviii123 · Answer

I’d say about 5 months. Nice to have a good idea before you fully commit, so you can always do longer.

Ethan_T · Answer

This queston was in my section of questions to answer but I never even had a girlfriend before 😅 so I don't know... 🤷‍♂️

Mangospacho · Answer

Plan no further than you’ve been in the relationship. If you’ve been together for 5 years, plan no further than 5 years out.

Lokiion · Answer

I can’t escape this post I see it every time I long on and I would say multiple months 6 or more😭

Likes2drive · Answer

They rarely work out but as far as planning it shouldn’t be too long because eventually people get tired of waiting and find someone locally

tryingitagain · Answer

I think the best thing is to go with the flow and have conversations about what you both want to see out of the relationship.

karate_renee · Answer

As someone who tried a LDR, just save yourself some pain. It only works if there's a clear end date to the distance and if you're both committed to the relationship.

alina_521 · Answer

Nobody should do LDR because it's harder to wait. At least not my thing.

brezzybaby · Answer

I couldnt do long distance , good luck with that

Glamourous_Stacey · Answer

I'm an overthinker with ADD so i basically have plans till death.

WonderingManII · Answer

I once had an online girlfriend. It didn't last past a few months.

douride2 · Answer

Been there done it. Never planned anything further out then a couple of weeks.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Probably a lot of planning. Long distance relationships are not easy.

AhmetHasanCan · Answer

1 month is enough, longer may spoil the plans.

kiktimbu · Answer

Depends on the distance. Farther the distance longer the time

genericname85 · Answer

i don't. cause i'm not expeciting it to work.

SunnyGirly · Answer

2 months I think so you can decided if there is enough trust to make it work

Huntingnfishin · Answer

I wouldn't make plans beyond tomorrow in an LDR. But that's just my jaded advice.

Anonymous · Answer

How... the... fuck is this question still popping up EVERY time I post a response to a completely unrelated question after more than a month? What the hell is wrong with you, GAG?

Hannajenky · Answer

I don’t think I would get Involved in a relationship like that

loveslongnails · Answer

Plan all you want but the odds are it will fail miserably.

es20490446e · Answer

My plan would be how to make the relationship short distance.

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

You should LDBU because they never last. If it does last it will end as soon as it's not longer a LDR

Stefan04 · Answer

Yeesh I’m not fond of long distance relationships. We would plan a month prior and even that was iffy in some instances.

Quetaismymiddlename · Answer

Communication is key and you have to be able you have time off of work to be able to see them or make time off to see them.

izzyleelee · Answer

long distance relationships have never worked out for me but i did go visit one to surprise him for his bday after about 6 months of dating!

plundo · Answer

I guess half a year but it depends on what you can actually plan. Should also be spontanious in many times

Paul09 · Answer

Why do these posts get stuck at the top form months? This post was from 3 months ago, and its still at top of the page?

Void-Walker · Answer

LDR's are a dumb idea i do not recommend you do it as it is a recipe for failure and heartache

Blkgrnlntrn · Answer

I’d say it depends on the distance. 100 miles? 2 weeks. 1,000-2,000 miles? A month or 2. Anything beyond that? 3-6 months.

quadjo · Answer

It's depending on the things involved if not job preventing you or financial reasons, I think a month or two it's ok

najekim · Answer

My LDR lasted 2 years. Then we lived together for a yar, then got married. That was 30 years ago when it all started.

xavid9 · Answer

If you have met them before and really love em then plan forever ❣️ one day after being successful marry and live peacefully

Pterodon · Answer

it seems it took us about two years to finally meet and about six months before we got serious about meeting

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

If you have to pay a toll to see someone, you shouldn't date them. If you live more than 30 minutes away, you shouldn't date them

Anonymous · Answer

Plan to get married and get old together on the day you enter the relationship

LastAlphamale · Answer

I would say zero days. LDR never work out. Women use them just for an ego boost. I can guarantee you that your long distance squeeze will be banging some one else while she strings you along.

cutieMommy · Answer

I mean, if you are anticipating the matter, longer than the duration of the initial plans... what's the point? So you're both co dependent and hyper fixated lol

Handsomegirl · Answer

Distance matters. For the country, it was months ago. For the city, it was weeks ago. I'm just thinking logically; I've never had a long-distance girlfriend.

CaptanHellams · Answer

I don't know, anytime I've been with someone and there was distance I either closed the distance fast, or let go of them fast. It doesn't seem to work out as a long term solution.

Anonymous · Answer

This question has almost 300 opinions but I need those 5 xper points.

WhiteMamba11 · Answer

depends on distance, I think. If it’s drivable, you don’t really need to plan. It can be spur of the moment. It’s not drivable or international. I think you have to plan in advance.

pinksonic · Answer

LDR is too much work for most people especially if you're not in a long term relationship or married. Don't recommend it'll tear your relationship apart.

ABitShattered · Answer

I don't. I quit LDR after my first love broke my heart.

Shortkay45685 · Answer

at least 2 mouths and make sure you not on your period.

altaboy · Answer

Who cares? Why do I see this question every time I come here?

yulbsari · Answer

Distance to be traveled and traveling costs are the main factors...

an_nMary · Answer

I'm kinda winging it with LDR - no concrete plans in sight 🤔.

ThatCanucker · Answer

My whole life has been a long distance relationship with the women I will never meet. 😆

Hdeesggh · Answer

They're hard to do, really do need to be on the same page and decide when you'll get closer

Catailian94 · Answer

Within a week when you found out. Especially if it is for work.

Sal_Monella · Answer

My last long distance relationship was in the long distant past.

Samuel75 · Answer

I'm not into LDR But it depends on whom you are in with.

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