How far should you plan ahead in a new LDR? (Page 6)

[AskNaomie]

I would break up before I did a LDR sorry, they just dont work out. What I'm not about to do is wait fot a phone call saying you don't want to do this anymore while I think im waiting for you to come back.

[bingbongbangbung]

Omg why did GaG keep spamming me this afte every time I submitted a question

[Arachnophobic]

I think it’s smart to have a general idea of where things could go, but I wouldn’t stress about detailed plans too early. As long as we're both enjoying it and staying connected, the rest can unfold naturally.

[SolidGround]

No idea, I've never been in one but I would say at least one week ahead for smaller things and one month ahead for bigger things like weekends together and maybe half a year to plan the huge things like vacations and longer trips together

[Redgreenwood]

I have been in one LDR and it's usually helpful to plan things a few months in advance and but the odd spontaneous trip can be really rewarding! Look maybe don't take advice from me since it failed anyway lol...

[faith_it]

You gotta visit before we even be in a relationship

[gustavofring705]

This is an answer to the question "how far should you plan ahead (to visit someone) in an LDR?"

Seems more like an answer to "Are LDR a good idea?" or some other question that wasn't asked.

[exitseven]

We used to plan to visit during school vacations so it was pre planned.

[goaded]

@girlsaskgag How long is this 5 month old question going to be promoted?

[Easy1134]

That's tough. I would say six months would be the maximum.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

At least 6–9 months, then plan to visit them.

[FunkyMonkee]

How many more years is this question gonna be at the top of this page?

[happierlungs]

I would say plan at least a month ahead if not two. I dated a girl one distance for a little over two years and we always had way more success in meeting up and planning things out when they were way ahead of time.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I am thinking two months in advance. If I was to do ldr.

[MicahRaine]

It depends on where the relationship is at.

For me and Raine, we plan 3 months ahead.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

I couldn't manage an LDR that was long-term. My girlfriend in college lived a couple thousand miles away and a few months was way too long.

[ella617281]

I think it deoends on the distance. If its a long flight maybe two months, if its just a train visit, then maybe a week

[Jammannn]

LDR's dont work, covid is proof enough of that. I get that its easier to find but you're much better off investing in something real.

[GeorgePulchri]

Maybe 1 month. I have never been in one, but I did attempt something like this to meet someone I liked. It never happened though.

[aquamarine321]

I’m not sure why this question isn’t removed from my feed, and it’s been over a year seeing this question

[i_Jedi]

In a new LDR, just plan the next visit or small goals, save the big plans for later once things get serious.

[Meatballs]

I waited 2 years to meet a female friend I made when MySpace was the only social media in Oakland California for a Raiders game

[lolian94dl]

I think LDR is pointless if there no strong bond between the couple , but and way there no reason for planing if you are into him just go ahead for it

[AaaAviii123]

I’d say about 5 months. Nice to have a good idea before you fully commit, so you can always do longer.

[Ethan_T]

This queston was in my section of questions to answer but I never even had a girlfriend before 😅 so I don't know... 🤷‍♂️

[Mangospacho]

Plan no further than you’ve been in the relationship. If you’ve been together for 5 years, plan no further than 5 years out.

[Lokiion]

I can’t escape this post I see it every time I long on and I would say multiple months 6 or more😭

[Likes2drive]

They rarely work out but as far as planning it shouldn’t be too long because eventually people get tired of waiting and find someone locally

[tryingitagain]

I think the best thing is to go with the flow and have conversations about what you both want to see out of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

You should have the entire thing planned, and know the end date to when it will become real. Otherwise, it may as well be make-believe.

[karate_renee]

As someone who tried a LDR, just save yourself some pain. It only works if there's a clear end date to the distance and if you're both committed to the relationship.

[alina_521]

Nobody should do LDR because it's harder to wait. At least not my thing.

[brezzybaby]

I couldnt do long distance , good luck with that

[Glamourous_Stacey]

I'm an overthinker with ADD so i basically have plans till death.

[WonderingManII]

I once had an online girlfriend. It didn't last past a few months.

[douride2]

Been there done it. Never planned anything further out then a couple of weeks.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Probably a lot of planning. Long distance relationships are not easy.

[AhmetHasanCan]

1 month is enough, longer may spoil the plans.

[kiktimbu]

Depends on the distance. Farther the distance longer the time

[genericname85]

i don't. cause i'm not expeciting it to work.

[SunnyGirly]

2 months I think so you can decided if there is enough trust to make it work

[Huntingnfishin]

I wouldn't make plans beyond tomorrow in an LDR. But that's just my jaded advice.

[Anonymous]

How... the... fuck is this question still popping up EVERY time I post a response to a completely unrelated question after more than a month?

What the hell is wrong with you, GAG?

[Hannajenky]

I don’t think I would get Involved in a relationship like that

[loveslongnails]

Plan all you want but the odds are it will fail miserably.

[es20490446e]

My plan would be how to make the relationship short distance.

[Awesomesauce2005]

You should LDBU because they never last. If it does last it will end as soon as it's not longer a LDR

[Stefan04]

Yeesh I’m not fond of long distance relationships. We would plan a month prior and even that was iffy in some instances.

[Quetaismymiddlename]

Communication is key and you have to be able you have time off of work to be able to see them or make time off to see them.

[izzyleelee]

long distance relationships have never worked out for me but i did go visit one to surprise him for his bday after about 6 months of dating!

[plundo]

I guess half a year but it depends on what you can actually plan. Should also be spontanious in many times

[Paul09]

Why do these posts get stuck at the top form months? This post was from 3 months ago, and its still at top of the page?

[Void-Walker]

LDR's are a dumb idea i do not recommend you do it as it is a recipe for failure and heartache

[Blkgrnlntrn]

I’d say it depends on the distance. 100 miles? 2 weeks. 1,000-2,000 miles? A month or 2. Anything beyond that? 3-6 months.

[quadjo]

It's depending on the things involved if not job preventing you or financial reasons, I think a month or two it's ok

[najekim]

My LDR lasted 2 years. Then we lived together for a yar, then got married. That was 30 years ago when it all started.

[xavid9]

If you have met them before and really love em then plan forever ❣️ one day after being successful marry and live peacefully

[Pterodon]

it seems it took us about two years to finally meet and about six months before we got serious about meeting

[thisAppIsGarbage]

If you have to pay a toll to see someone, you shouldn't date them. If you live more than 30 minutes away, you shouldn't date them

[jackromano98]

In a new long-distance relationship, I’d say plan enough ahead to feel like you’re building something, but not so far ahead that you’re putting pressure on the relationship.