How far should you plan ahead in a new LDR? (Page 6)

[Lokiion]

I can’t escape this post I see it every time I long on and I would say multiple months 6 or more😭

[Likes2drive]

They rarely work out but as far as planning it shouldn’t be too long because eventually people get tired of waiting and find someone locally

[tryingitagain]

I think the best thing is to go with the flow and have conversations about what you both want to see out of the relationship.

[karate_renee]

As someone who tried a LDR, just save yourself some pain. It only works if there's a clear end date to the distance and if you're both committed to the relationship.

[alina_521]

Nobody should do LDR because it's harder to wait. At least not my thing.

[Glamourous_Stacey]

I'm an overthinker with ADD so i basically have plans till death.

[WonderingManII]

I once had an online girlfriend. It didn't last past a few months.

[douride2]

Been there done it. Never planned anything further out then a couple of weeks.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Probably a lot of planning. Long distance relationships are not easy.

[AhmetHasanCan]

1 month is enough, longer may spoil the plans.

[kiktimbu]

Depends on the distance. Farther the distance longer the time

[genericname85]

i don't. cause i'm not expeciting it to work.

[SunnyGirly]

2 months I think so you can decided if there is enough trust to make it work

[Huntingnfishin]

I wouldn't make plans beyond tomorrow in an LDR. But that's just my jaded advice.

[Anonymous]

How... the... fuck is this question still popping up EVERY time I post a response to a completely unrelated question after more than a month?

What the hell is wrong with you, GAG?

[Hannajenky]

I don’t think I would get Involved in a relationship like that

[loveslongnails]

Plan all you want but the odds are it will fail miserably.

[es20490446e]

My plan would be how to make the relationship short distance.

[Awesomesauce2005]

You should LDBU because they never last. If it does last it will end as soon as it's not longer a LDR

[Stefan04]

Yeesh I’m not fond of long distance relationships. We would plan a month prior and even that was iffy in some instances.

[Quetaismymiddlename]

Communication is key and you have to be able you have time off of work to be able to see them or make time off to see them.

[izzyleelee]

long distance relationships have never worked out for me but i did go visit one to surprise him for his bday after about 6 months of dating!

[plundo]

I guess half a year but it depends on what you can actually plan. Should also be spontanious in many times

[Paul09]

Why do these posts get stuck at the top form months? This post was from 3 months ago, and its still at top of the page?

[Void-Walker]

LDR's are a dumb idea i do not recommend you do it as it is a recipe for failure and heartache

[Blkgrnlntrn]

I’d say it depends on the distance. 100 miles? 2 weeks. 1,000-2,000 miles? A month or 2. Anything beyond that? 3-6 months.

[quadjo]

It's depending on the things involved if not job preventing you or financial reasons, I think a month or two it's ok

[najekim]

My LDR lasted 2 years. Then we lived together for a yar, then got married. That was 30 years ago when it all started.

[xavid9]

If you have met them before and really love em then plan forever ❣️ one day after being successful marry and live peacefully

[Pterodon]

it seems it took us about two years to finally meet and about six months before we got serious about meeting

[thisAppIsGarbage]

If you have to pay a toll to see someone, you shouldn't date them. If you live more than 30 minutes away, you shouldn't date them

[LastAlphamale]

I would say zero days. LDR never work out. Women use them just for an ego boost. I can guarantee you that your long distance squeeze will be banging some one else while she strings you along.

[cutieMommy]

I mean, if you are anticipating the matter, longer than the duration of the initial plans... what's the point? So you're both co dependent and hyper fixated lol

[Handsomegirl]

Distance matters. For the country, it was months ago. For the city, it was weeks ago. I'm just thinking logically; I've never had a long-distance girlfriend.

[Handsomegirl]

And My boyfriend 😮‍💨

[CaptanHellams]

I don't know, anytime I've been with someone and there was distance I either closed the distance fast, or let go of them fast. It doesn't seem to work out as a long term solution.

[Anonymous]

This question has almost 300 opinions but I need those 5 xper points.

[WhiteMamba11]

depends on distance, I think. If it’s drivable, you don’t really need to plan. It can be spur of the moment. It’s not drivable or international. I think you have to plan in advance.

[pinksonic]

LDR is too much work for most people especially if you're not in a long term relationship or married. Don't recommend it'll tear your relationship apart.

[brezzybaby]

I couldnt do long distance , good luck with that

[ABitShattered]

I don't. I quit LDR after my first love broke my heart.

[Shortkay45685]

at least 2 mouths and make sure you not on your period.

[altaboy]

Who cares? Why do I see this question every time I come here?

[yulbsari]

Distance to be traveled and traveling costs are the main factors...

[an_nMary]

I'm kinda winging it with LDR - no concrete plans in sight 🤔.

[ThatCanucker]

My whole life has been a long distance relationship with the women I will never meet. 😆

[Hdeesggh]

They're hard to do, really do need to be on the same page and decide when you'll get closer

[Catailian94]

Within a week when you found out. Especially if it is for work.

[Sal_Monella]

My last long distance relationship was in the long distant past.

[Samuel75]

I'm not into LDR

But it depends on whom you are in with.

[Vegasrunner]

I've got a couple going on. At least a month out is standard.

[boobliker]

as far as is safe for you to do so as you may nee cash in the mean time

[Dongie]

Well thanks spell fuckin check. I'll fuckin try again.
*Who's the fuckin chick?

[Emmytexrex]

Ldr is not that easy it takes two determined people to make it work

[clampfan101]

Just know which things are needs and which are preferences.

[Sasquach]

People act differently in person, so the sooner the better

[Blueeyes81]

Not very far. LDR are almost always doomed to fail. Thus you are planning for not.

[Staximus]

Long distance relationships are bullshit and a waste of time

[Sunnyrjs]

I would not plan to far ahead if it is new.
I would let the relationship breath a little and then see it from there.

[kerem2NT]

They make preparations and plans, taking into account their spouse's job. This process is completed within 2 or 3 months.

[123459876]

I wouldn't plan as far ahead as you can throw the other person because 90% chance that it's not going to work