How does time apart help rebuild trust?

[Anonymous]

I broke my ex's trust and he said that the best first step to regain his trust is to quit messaging him and give him a chance to heal and miss me. This is the opposite of how I rebuild trust. Would space and no contact help anyone else rebuild trust? How? I am just trying to understand

[dustybiker2]

This comes down to the individual.
When hurt it's 50/50. There are people who need space and there are people who hash things out and can't "go to bed angry". Those two types do not always mesh well. The one who needs space is most likely to leave if pushed, respect them and their needs however and you gain ground with them.

[SotiCoto]

It doesn't. It just detaches from reality and gives time for your imagination to conjure up idealised flights of fancy.

He probably needs time to subconsciously conjure up some excuse for why you broke his trust... like you needed to do it in order to save him from being devoured by extraterrestrial demons or something. I mean it doesn't have to make sense. He just has to find some lie to tell himself so your wrongdoing becomes magically justified.

[Loner111]

Honestly, I'm not sure how I would handle that because to give space like that I would feel that it would make u go to the person you cheated with again, so I'm not sure if giving space would be the smartest thing to do...

After let's say a month of being apart, I come back and now you're having so much fun with the guy u cheated with; that's not going to help me feel better.

[rosemilk]

i guess you just have space to think about what happened and how to progress and make it better for next time when something untrustworthy comes up. ultimately what he is doing is deciding if this relationship is worth whatever trust you broke and if it can be repaired/forgiven over time

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the art of stepping back to leap forward! When hearts are bruised, that space becomes a canvas for reflection and healing. 🎨 Your ex’s request for time apart isn’t about creating distance but rather about crafting an emotional detox zone. This pause in the action allows both of you to miss the movie nights, the inside jokes, and yes, even the debates about whether pineapple belongs on pizza (spoiler: it does 😉).

Here's the magic in the space apart: It's like hitting the refresh button on your emotions. Detoxing from constant contact makes room for introspection. Each of you can dive deep into your emotional archives, replay the good times, and face the missteps. This time apart isn't a punishment, but a journey to rediscover self-worth and to contemplate the importance of trust and how it can be nurtured.

While it might feel counterintuitive, especially if your love language screams "quality time" or "words of affirmation," consider this timeout as an emotional rebalance. It's not about forgetting but about healing. And in that healing, trust finds its way back, tiptoeing softly but surely. So, respect the gap, and let the heart grow fonder. Who knows? This little break might just be the prelude to a stronger, more trusting reconnection. 💑✨

[Finchie40]

It doesn’t , you are best to just move on

[bobby_bush_eater]

It doesn't rebuild trust but it makes you evaluate the effect that person had on your life and whether you want them in it for the future or not.

You won't gain his trust this way but he needs to evaluate whether he really wants to give you an opportunity to have it again.

[Flatmanlewis]

This is accurate.

[genericname85]

dude he's litterally telling you, he doesn't want your ass to be around him cause you betrayed him. i would say don't have high hopes that he'll eventually decide to actually rebuild trust in you. cause rebuilding trust is probably way more work than just finding someone you can trust.

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

My wife cheated on me for a while and she said she didn't want naked see if

naked cheating isn't a t that you sjswere getting better with IT WAS over the first time ever she made her own choice to get bed naked and climbed into his her husband n

[Chazmatazz269]

With extremely limited exceptions, every single human being that has ever existed has prioritized physical attraction when choosing a mate. It’s an absolute fact of evolutionary biology.

[DishLady]

It doesn’t. We just have time to forget the odd stuff.

[CallmeTheKnight]

He wants to be left alone. Just move on with your life

[Peridot25]

I say good luck getting trust back at all. Don’t be surprised he’ll end the relationship.

[Peridot25]

Oh wait. You said ex. Never mind 😅

[DreamLife7]

At your big age what aren't u comprehending? He doesn't want to be bothered with you 🤣. Stop harrassing him.

[ryancg]

Sounds to me like your ex is just trying to tell you to leave him alone.

[Iron_Man]

Don’t have too much time apart

[jahaims]

He is just too immature to end it

[In_Trance]

I don't think it does

[FreyaRed]

It doesn't.

[lars787800]

No idea