What Should A Girl Do When A Man Will Not Take No For An Answer?

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Serious question, what should a woman do if a man will not take "NO" for an answer? (I really want to hear from the ladies)

What Should A Girl Do When A Man Will Not Take No For An Answer?

Background: "Only God can judge me so either leave helpful feedback or leave me alone. Lately, men (especially white men) have been acting weird around me. Like they can see something that I can't. I am a nerd, nothing more, so it's confusing. I am VERY average and I come from poverty. I am a mutt. I am mixed with a little bit of everything not what anyone would consider a "pureblood", so why do they give me their attentions.

Some even attempt to leave their relationships to pursue me even though I am not avaliable. I appreciate the compliments and their attentions but they make me blush and feel very embarrassed. And what's worse, is that I want some friends that are girls. I had nothing but guy friends in the Marine Corps and everything was great, but things have changed. I know I lost a bit of weight but I'm still pretty fit. My guy friends and exes are now courting me even though I am owned by another and they know who I belong too. And their wives and spouses hate me for it even though I make it clear that I am not even slightly interested in their mates. I want some friends that are girls because they are really nice to me except when their in relationships. No matter what I do, the wives all hate me. It makes me sad. I want girlfriends like in the movie mean girls. A girl group who supports and uplifts one another but respect the Alpha Female.✝️🌹

So what I really want to know, how do I make genuine friends despite my appearance. Should I gain more weight or change myself to make them feel more comfortable? Or should I be my most authentic self and be my own best friend?💭

Honest opinions please but do not be mean to me. I am sensitive and do not tolerate bullying or harassment on the internet. That's my boundary and if you can not respect my healthy boundaries, then let's just say... I will have fun, you won't, but I will. 🙊😈🧞‍♀️

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

It's hard to know for sure, but if you are being harassed that much, it seems to me that you aren't being mean enough or putting on your RBF. Cold, short responses and ignoring them usually turns off all but the most clueless. Refuse to engage and tell them you are committed to your guy. If they make a joke out of it, tell them you will report them to HR if they don't leave you alone. And then DO IT. They aren't taking you seriously (the reason may be because you are used to being buddies with the guys and are too nice). Because of that, they are devaluing you even though it seems flattering.

As for the wives, that's their own issue and it's not your job to fix their insecurities. Be yourself, set your game rules, and enforce them. It's OK to set a boundary, and if you are forced to set it in a stern way, that's the guy's own fault, not yours. And remember, boundaries can be relaxed when the rules are accepted and understood. You don't always have to be mean!

I've had some experience with what you are talking about, and this is how I've been able to conclusively deal with it. I don't enjoy turning off my feminine side and handling it, but it's sometimes necessary with some guys who think they have a right to any woman they want.

StarWarGirl · Accepted Answer

You are a human and so consist of many qualities many characteristics in you. They are attracted towards you because of some reason and it's totally OK. As it's nature of flowers to attract bees. But if they go beyond a level and starts interfering with your personal space or making your life difficult then as others suggested you can take actions against them.

Otherwise you only need to change your perspective, your focus and attention. Let bees fly around if they want. You are very clear that you don't want so simply after telling them a clear "no" you simply ignore their presence as if they do not exist anymore or they are invisible to you kind. And focus on other things what are important to you.

About making genuine friends, you can simply be yourself and continue your life. Now it's very tough to get a good friend. So you have to wait for it. Whoever would able to understand you will automatically will come towards you for friendship. You only focus on seeing through their hearts and mind and be open for it. Just be yourself do whatever makes you happy. You need not to change yourself for anyone or anything.

MisterWack · Accepted Answer

Basically, if it is some weirdo asking her out and won’t take being turned down she should go to a manager / worker at the space she is currently in and ask for help. If there is a guy/girl there, ask for one of them to kick the weirdo out then have one as an escort to your car to be safe as you exit.

If it is your boyfriend, try to compromise and if compromising doesn’t work just ignore and do what you wanted… If they don’t understand later, break up with them.

If it is your husband, try to compromise and make his feelings feel validated / understand where he is coming from through compassion understanding then he’ll be more likely to hear yours. If he doesn’t listen then blow off some steam / go somewhere out for the night to cool off with gal pals or something.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Isn't spring in the northern hemisphere. That might explain it.

Losing weight is probably a better one. I like a girl with a sharp waist very much.

Wives might not like husbands looking at you approvingly not because they think you will steal them away but because you put them under pressure to get into better shape or make them think some other girl will steal.

In other words you are setting a standard (and that might be your personality/character as well) they don't want to have to meet.

Don't degrade your self in order to have female friends. They aren't friends if they need you to do that.

AviatorTom · Answer

Depends what the question is... That could cause a breakup, a slap of the face, or absolutely nothing.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I have experienced a similar situation to yours and for this reason I have gone through life with male friends only. What I will say is this: be true to yourself and be who you are. Don't ever change to be accepted by others. Unfortunately we are women and we will always be victims or seen as prey especially if we have that particular something that seems to create a difference amongst the crowd. But you can deal with it and embrace it without falling victim to it. If a man wants you and you're not interested just say so. Never be afraid to say no and never be afraid of the idea of being scorned because you attract more attention than others. If your girl friends distance themselves from you because the men in their lives are more drawn to you that's their issue not yours. Why are the men more drawn to another woman rather than the one they're currently with? Possibly because there are issues within their relationship. No guy would look elsewhere if he wasn't satisfied. And finally if your girlfriends were really friends they wouldn't even allow themselves to be affected. At least this is my opinion of how I view friendship. True friendship to me equals Sisterhood or brotherhood and if insecurities and jealousy get in the way its not true friendship in my mind.

Anonymous · Answer

The simple answer to your main question is to “IGNORE THEM”. Act as though they don’t exist.

If a man can’t take “No” for an answer. Well now you have to pretend he doesn’t exist. Don’t look his away, don’t make eye contact, Don’t listen to him. Pretend as though he’s invisible.

If the harassment won’t stop even after that. Time to contact the Police or HR if he works with you. Tell on Him. Tell as parent or supervisor or anyone and expose him.
GOOD LUCK 👍

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

In big bang theory, there was an episode where they wanted penny to be wonder woman. Rightfully so, as she's a woman, so, they were going to win the contest, just strictly because they showed up with an actual woman, but, for some reason she didn't want to put the black/brunette wig on, as wonder woman isn't blonde, right? It's just a cosplay, it's not like she's doing her hair brunette/black whatever.. anyway, she's putting up a fight about it, and she keeps saying "no" to everyone. Finally Leonard, dresses as green lantern, finally comes in and talks to her about it. She says "nothing, it's just, you, and the contest" or something like that.. she finally puts it on, meaning they "wore her down"?

Or did I miss something

This isn't sex. This isn't kissing, so it's not "rape". Yet, you're allowed to just say no?

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I know you said you really want to here from the ladies but this is a very interesting question so I had to weigh in. First I want to say congratulations for getting over you fear of Alpha males and finally trusting a man enough to allow one to own you. Secondly you belong to someone so you don't have to do much just block them and let you Dom do the rest. There has to be boundaries either they respect yours or they can no longer be your friend. Please understand with most me they don't really want to be your friend they're just playing their position until they see a way in then they pounce. So keep your eyes open for those fake friends. I know this is a lot for you to deal with but we've been friends for a while now and I told you a long time ago that's your blessing and your curse. I hope this helps you out and I'm here if you need any more advice

Purpleronnie · Answer

Depends on at least the question , the persons involved and the situation. And what is the comment about god being the only judge as clearly that isn’t true as people judge rightly or wrongly every day and only relevant if people believe in your god. What a pointless question !

Morgan_L · Answer

I’m not sure what you mean by he owns you? People only have the power over us we give them. 😊 you are a Marine so you must be a strong independent woman. And I respect you so much for that. I’m sure you have family who loves you so you’re not alone. Family includes your friends too. If you’re in trouble talk to them. I’m sure someone will help you. And if not you need to call the police. Do not live in fear. Everyone deserves to be happy ❤️

Princesspd · Answer

For me, it depends on who he is and if I am interested in him. For men who I am interested and attracted to, I might say no at first but that mean try harder. There are men who I have said no intentionally, but due to their persistent, I ended up having sex with them. I love when men pursue me persistently and I love dominant men.

Meropatrick · Answer

Well i am sure not all the men u face dont take no for an answer. I am sure they are the minority of your encounters. Most men would leave after getting rejected. But for the ones who dont. make it clear that you are not interested. Dont give mixed signals. Be CLEAR. As clear as the man needs in order to understand. Say no with words and actions.

SotiCoto · Answer

Hold on... Personal boundaries are a matter of how YOU respond to things. They're not laws you can enforce on others.
Anyway... I guess you really like the Hunchback of Notre Dame... and animated gifs.
And stalker problems can be resolved with murder... or failing that, sabotage.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, your question provides far more information than what is necessary to ask the stated question. You seem to be obsessed with comparing your life to a cartoon and you seem to have some archaic, fairy tale notions about relationships. You would probably be more comfortable never exposing yourself to men in any way.

mandyfire98 · Answer

This happens with a lot of men unfortunately. I'll say no, then I'll say no again. Third time I'm causing a scene.

mstbooblover · Answer

Very good question, but still case sensitive concerning how to react. The real problem is generally vanity, a big ego, and a plain lack of good education...

edmwarrior · Answer

What worked against me was when she told me about the type of guys she like, which were all opposite of me: tall white long hair

DishLady · Answer

Get. a restraining order on the grounds of sexual harassment.

Rami_NL · Answer

Tell the judeo-christian pig to take a cold shower and keep his dick in his pants

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Say hey creep leave me the f**ck alone.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Threaten to call the cops, then follow through if he continues through your "Stop!!!" sign.

Jennz6 · Answer

It’s happened to me so many times that it’s easier to just let it happen

ICanSmellTheCosmos · Answer

Ladies carry Mace just in case... Carry more where your location allows...

Pinkandgirly · Answer

Put men in their place! Show them who is boss!

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

Get a restraining order and shoot him if he breaks it.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Well u r just a easy target.. easy to approach so horny men try to use you. You need to meet a right man to protect u.

A_Nihilist · Answer

Leave and ditch him.  20 no's and 1 yes is still a no.

Dargil · Answer

Show him to the Fking door.

sheenagwapa · Answer

just let them be until they will get tired

JonCobretti · Answer

Let him have his way

austinbooth · Answer

I would say walk away.

CubaPirate · Answer

Block and ignore him

Anonymous · Answer

Buy a knife or gun...

SmolSlav · Answer

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