Why do some girls can't take no for an answer from a guy even though many other guys like her?

[Spade_01]

There's a girl in my university, but she's not in my class. We met through a mutual friend of ours and we didn't chat much ever. Some time ago, she confessed to me that she likes me but due to some things I observed, I don't see us getting anywhere and I can't pursue a relationship at the moment. I'll admit that she's immensely beautiful and sweet and many guys want her. But she still doesn't get it and it makes me feel bad for rejecting her (i have rejected her 2-3 times). My question is what goes through a girl's mind to be so adamant over one guy when she gets attention of other guys?

[Anonymous]

An ex of mine who i will call Dequan. I met him at a party when I was 15 with my first boyfriend who i will call John. Anyway I got into an argument with Dequan and it looked to turn physical but John who was kind of a wimp backed down and some others at the party calmed down Dequan. Anyway later on John and I went upstairs to have sex in one of the rooms. John was on top thrusting and I saw Dequan enter the room behind John and hit him from behind knocking him out and tossed John to the ground unconscious still hard and ejaculating. I jumped afraid and still turned on from the sex with John screaming for someone to help but no one came. I pushed at Dequan and slapped him but he pushed me back on to the bed and pulled out his penis I continued to struggle up until the point he inserted his penis, with the first thrust I stop struggling and could tell the vast difference between Dequan and John, within a few thrusts I'd came. Dequan flipped me over and did me from behind and I came again. After he was done he just walked out the door leaving me naked face down with my ass in the air and my boyfriend laid out cold. I was very emotional about but up until that point it was the most exciting sexual experience I ever had. I felt guilty about cumming twice because I always struggled to orgasm with John. After that John felt more like my brother than my boyfriend.

Another time Dequan was at a party we were at and he he for no reason bitch slapped John to the ground and John started crying and Dequan just walked on calling him a pussy. Anyway 5 minutes later Dequan pulls up in his car as I'm comforting John and demands I get my fat ass in. Angry I just stood there glaring at him but for some reason I felt I had to get in even though john snd all our friends pleaded with me not to. I apologised to John and went off with Dequan having the most amazing sex all night long.

Dequan treated my like crap but I could never say no to him. It was like he had control over me, like I was his property. There were things i let Dequando to me that id never let any guy do again. Eventually Dequan went to jail because of a drive by and I got back together with John at least for a while.

[PrettyPriya]

Honestly, I don't know what that girl is thinking if you have made it clear a few times that you don't feel that it is a good fit. I would not keep asking if someone told me they were not interested. I don't know what there would be to gain from that.

On the one hand, it could wear someone down into agreeing to a date, but who in the right mind would think that is a good strategy. Relationships cannot be forced. At least, they will not be successful if they are.

It might just be her personality. She might be a very persistent person that knows what she wants and doesn't give up. That is one possibility. She might also be doing what I just mentioned and hoping she will finally convince you to give in and go on a date.

Honestly, I cannot relate to this girl at all. Also, if she were to ask again, I would just put my foot down and say it isn't going to happen with a little more force. Sometimes you just have to get a little blunt with people.

You do realise though that guys are equally as guilty of this same thing.

[Spade_01]

I don't want to be rude with her because she's been very helpful whenever I asked for it. But whenever I rejected her, I was pretty clear and firm while telling a 'no', although nice.

Yes, I know guys do this too but I was looking for a female POV.

[PrettyPriya]

From my perspective, she is just not thinking clearly or does not want to accept the fact that someone could possibly reject her. It also could be down to pure stubbornness.

[Spade_01]

Well put. Thanks.

[LiamJHayden]

Human nature seems to include a desire for that which is denied.

[devilish-cutie]

The rela question is what ludacris excuses would guy have to reject a girl he likes?

To answer your q: probably cause she created an imagine in her head that you are an ideal guy she wants cause she doesn't know you well and you have potential for that ilusion to be created. Also if you like someone you can feel connection to them which you dont feel to other people, or rarely so

[Spade_01]

Yeah, that illusion thing seems to be true.

[Radhika_]

She likes you so much. I can imagine how that must feel 😐😅

[Iron_Man]

why would you reject her?

[Spade_01]

Because of some incompatibilities I can sense and me not having enough time for a relationship.

[In_Trance]

To each their own