My girl cousin is always telling my boyfriend she loves and misses him. Am I insecure?

[Heiaha]

Me and my cousin are very close and whenever I'm with my boyfriend, wither its in person or on the phone, everything is normal and they call each other family etc. however whenever me and my cousin don't speak for a couple days and reconnect she will tell me to tell him she loves and misses him. I find this weird, and so does my boyfriend, however he tells me to say it back to her? Am I just being insecure?

[ohsheeT]

. When dating somebody and you become one with them and you know love is love and it's true love

And you know in your heart at any moment of time of day they can change their mind something could happen to change their mind and there's not one thing you can do about it the moment you let somebody else interfere with the way that you feel and the way you see things it will start to change you and change that relationship if you know down deep that he loves you and that's all accounts that's all you have to worry about. . and you don't even have to worry about it that's all you don't even have to think about it because you know what you know and you know how strong that bond is between you two...

If you get jealous if you start thinking in different ways it's going to change your relationship somewhere down the road if you understand that you love him and that's all you care about and you can't control him or his actions he has to do that on his own you will have a good happy relationship..

Each and every day something might go on that we don't know about our spouses are our boyfriends or girlfriends that are doing or not doing but they come home to us we come home to them and we're happy and that's all you can ask for as long as you know you're doing your part that's all you can do because all it takes is the blink of an eye and somebody can change why are you going to worry about that until somebody blinks that eye don't create drama in your own mind because you'll lose create happiness moments and tell your boyfriend how much you love him everyday that's all you can do

You can look at it in a couple different ways either your cousin is trying to get in your head and create drama for you or she's just being nice and she really means what she says I would say that's probably what it is

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'll bet my left nut-sack that she's going to "pick-up" your leftovers during a fight and/or breakup. That's the good scenario... she'll probably try to get him to cheat with her on you before that.

See... you have a gut feeling about it already. I've learned through time that maybe you should kind of trust those feelings. They are there for a reason.

I mean look at the situation

I don't think you're being insecure or just making shit up. It is what it is nugga. Wake up and deal with it before it dick slaps you in the face.

It might be better for you to understand this by stepping out of your own situation and seeing it from a different perspective. Pretend you're my gay cousin and you talk to my chick. ... why are you two telling each other you love and miss each other when we have a fight? You're trying to fuck my chick is why!

If you fuck around and find out... just remember I told you so.

[HollyK21]

Depends on your family dynamics.


I know that I have a large but close family, and we are very welcoming (and eventually loving) when someone brings a new spouse.


In my family, none of us regularly cycle out partners, and it’s a big deal for one of us to even officially bring someone new around. With that in mind, we basically know these same people for great lengths of time, so it would be normal for me to FaceTime my cousin, and if her boyfriend is there, I might include him in my saying “love you miss you!” and mean absolutely nothing romantic behind it.


That’s just how we are.


So if you are not like that within your family and she’s only doing this with him then yes, I’d say it’s weird.

[WhitneySnow]

I think your cousin has a crush on your boyfriend. I don’t think he has one back on her, he’s just being polite.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the winding roads of relationship dynamics can sometimes feel like trying to dance ballet on a moving train, right? Now, sprinkle in the element of close family ties and messages of affection, and voila, you've got yourselves a classic head-scratcher! Let's gently unpack this suitcase of emotions and connections.

Firstly, the feeling of discomfort you're experiencing, shared by your boyfriend, is your intuition tapping you on the shoulder. Paying attention to this isn't insecurity; it's being insightful about the dynamics at play. Affectionate expressions like "I love you" and "I miss you" can absolutely be familial and platonic, but context is key here. If these expressions make you and your boyfriend feel like you're in an episode of "Relationships: The Twilight Zone," it's probably time to have a heart-to-heart with your cousin.

Communicating openly doesn't mean you're accusing anyone of foul play or stepping out of line. It's about setting boundaries that everyone feels comfortable with. Imagine it as setting up the rules of a game where no one knows they're playing; it simply helps everyone understand what's cool and what's crossing the line.

And remember, your relationship with your boyfriend and your cousin are separate but intertwined journeys. Keep the lines of communication open, sprinkle in a bit of humor to lighten the mood, and who knows? Maybe you'll find a new level of understanding and respect among the three of you. Keep dancing through the dynamics, and remember, it's all about finding the rhythm that works for you.

[TommyMountainFigure]

That's as weird as f*ck.
No I wouldn't say that was insecurity on your part.. The thing that has me perplexed is the VERY last thing you said.. However your boyfriend tells you to 'say it back to her?'
Nah,, There is something very wrong there!

[Account]

The first sentence you typed is my first thought and it is exactly what I was about to write as well.

[TommyMountainFigure]

@Account There are things I read on here sometimes that I honestly can't begin to comprehend.. It makes the hairs on the back of my neck stand on end.

[DishLady]

Depending what your family background is it’s a normal expression tbh. For instance, when my goddaughter’s husband isn’t in town and he calls the house I tell him he’s missed and ask when he’s coming back home.


That being said, if you and your cousin are close in age and you feel nervous about what she’s saying it’s somewhat understandable. Just sit down with her and explain your feelings.

[meepmeeperton]

You’re not insecure, that’s just weird and gross that she talks to him like that and seems to want him. Who would try to mess with the relationship of their own cousin…

[avery58]

Yeah it's a little weird but maybe she doesn't realize it is

[Sevenpointfive]

that's pretty weird. i don't think i'd like it. tell your cousin i love and miss her tho.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she wants to ride his bologna pony.

[DrPepper12]

I don't know what to make of that. Is it sincere or joking?

[Booklover_90]

They’ve slept together. I don’t know why I feel that, but I think they’ve been intimate.

[Domforsub607]

There might be some part of your cousin that is attracted to your boyfriend or maybe even a bit envious of your relationship. But if you trust your boyfriend then there is nothing to worry about.

[JesseP1nk]

Tell your boyfriend that i miss him too - :D JK... Anyway... yeah that is weird as fuck

[iamanaries]

Hell no and she needs to back tf up and know her place.

[MasterKS]

Its shows her intentions, be careful dear! LOL

[Abbycado]

No, that is weird for her to do that.

[DannyUk2017]

She has a crush on him!

[BetaBucks]

Only way to solve this is by having a three-way.

[Makeushiver]

Is the emotion more erotic or platonic?

[elizamichale1]

I think u need to be careful honey

[Iron_Man]

no she’s a problem

[Staximus]

She needs to get her own boyfriend

[OddBeMe]

No she wants him. How old is she?

[Awantika03]

Why she tells you

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Yes.

[noohair]

Weird!!!