In Your Relationship, Is It Happy Wife, Happy Life?

[Anonymous]

I heavily considered just adopting this mindset completely and seeing if I can grow to "love" it. My question to you all is this, in your relationship is it Happy Wife, Happy Life? Does it work for you? Ladies, do you enjoy this approach or does it cause more damage than its potential benefits? Looking for some perspective on this...

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. You could do all the things in the world for her to make her happy but most problems people have are from w in. Things that they didn’t do or accomplish. I never went into a relationship expecting to make a girl completely happy. She should be happy on her own. You’re just added happiness to her life that should already be happy. If she didn’t finish college, maybe she’s mad about that. Maybe she didn’t have kids. There’s a lot of maybes that you can’t fix. She needs to fix those problems herself. I’ve never agreed w that statement. Happy wife, happy life. It just makes it sound like women are nothing but miserable, angry creatures all the time. Plus if you as a man are having to do things just for her to make her happy but doesn’t make you happy, obviously you don’t have a happy life.

[Flatmanlewis]

I have found that a balance of this is critical. I cannot simply suppress my wants, needs, and dreams to fulfill hers. She’s an indoor girl, but I need my outdoor fix. She is a vegetarian but I love my steaks. She prefers a more mundane and predictable life and I find happiness in the adrenaline of my work. If I only pursued her happiness I am 100% sure by now we would’ve had a disintegration by now out of resentment on my part. So, instead, we have accepted different roles at different times. I will do my thing and then we do our thing. I always support her hobbies and interests and in turn, while she doesn’t want to SCUBA or backpack, she will be my date to a steakhouse or social events.


It’s about balance, to me.

[LittleMelissa9614]

Honestly, to me it should be happy spouse, happy house. Because it should go both ways and be very mutual between both husband and wife. They both deserve to make each other happy. Not just one being happy and one being miserable. Both spouses deserve happiness and love from each other.

[jennifer_bloom]

Being nice to somebody doesn’t always improve the way they treat you. Some view kindness as a sign of weakness and become cruel and abusive when you are nice to them. I’ve seen that in marriages where kindness makes the recipient of kindness abusive.

[AI Opinion]

Diving headfirst into the "Happy Wife, Happy Life" pool, are we? Let's splash around with this concept! 🏊‍♂️ Lovebomb away from me: while it's catchy and sounds like the perfect route to marital bliss, it's more about finding that delicate balance, isn't it? Imagine trying to juggle your needs and your partner's—both of you are stars in this show! From what I’ve seen, relationships where both partners feel heard, respected, and valued are those that truly thrive. It's not about one person's happiness trumping the other's; it's more like a dance 💃🕺, sometimes you lead, and sometimes you follow, but together you create something beautiful. So, instead of adopting a one-way street mindset, why not aim for mutual happiness? Believe me, when both partners are happy, life just gets infinitely better. What’s your take on crafting a sequel titled "Happy Spouse, Happy House"?

[Lliam]

If you both aren't trying to make yourselves and each other happy, the relationship won't work. If it's one sided, one person will be unhappy.

It's impossible to live with someone who is selfish, self centered, obstinate and/or demanding.

The way to avoid that is through healthy communication, understanding, compromise, and a desire to seek win-win solutions. Why wouldn't someone want their partner to be happy?

Also, how can a person be happy if their partner is unhappy?

[Asker]

To answer your last question, my wife seems like she's happy when she gets it her way and I appear to be content with that. I'm tired of trying to balance our happiness and get my feelings acknowledged.

[northerngal]

Absolutely. But to make a relationship really work you need the other side of the equation as well. No relationship can be one sided.

[dustybiker2]

No. Festering and rotting is existing. Being open with each other builds trust, bond and mutual happiness. One sided happiness isn't worth it.

[boggboss]

As with anything it requires being realistic if that happiness u provide for her comes at the expense of your own it won't work because u will grow resentful if u get to a point where making her happy intern makes her happy then sure

[spartan55]

Enjoy having her carry your balls around in her purse.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I heard of someone having it Happy Spouse, Happy House, and that just sounds way better.

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe both should adopt, "Happy Spouse, Happy House."

[Asker]

I've tried this and it hasn't worked. That is why I'm considering this approach

[serious]

I have always been single. Hence not applicable

[Anonymous]

Happy wife happy life is a misnomer. It doesn't mean keep your wife happy at all costs. It means marry someone who is already happy, that way keeping her happy is easy. It's what I did, and I've been married 11 years.

[Anonymous]

That is one of the most pathetic things I can possibly imagine. A man should not give up all of his pleasures to make a woman happy. If he needs to do this she was not the right woman to start.

[exitseven]

I have lived this way for years. I really have no complaints

[shortster]

I believe boring spouse, happy life. Boring people don't go out and create drama; and the less drama in your life the more happiness.

[JJones03]

I've never been in a relationship sooo I have no idea

[Billlewis]

It's the only way.

[OddBeMe]

Honestly yes. But it goes both ways.