Have you ever been in a relationship with someone that decided they wanted to be with the same sex instead?

[Finchie40]

This happened to me with my one ex , that I found out cheated on me with another girl and left me for this other girl , also a girl friend of mine , her husband left her for another guy. I understand there is bisexual people and understand there are gays out there but how is it that it took them so long to decide what they truly wanted? I was devastated when I found out my girlfriend was hiding the fact that she was Bi , if she was upfront about it , I would of probably accepted it but in this situation I didn’t have a choice , just like my friend didn’t have a choice when her husband decided he wants to be with a guy instead. Anyone ever experience this?

[Crimsyjo]

I've heard of ot happening. I've never experienced it.

In my head... my understanding of bi means you are attracted to either gender. However thos is not permission to BE with either gender when in a relationship. It is still cheating to be sexual with another person, regardless of gender or preferences, and I think the same rules should apply (break up don't cheat).

If your ex then gets with another person who happens to be same gender it shouldn't make much difference as if they got with another man. In your head your thinking maybe they always wanted a same gender relationship (maybe they are secretly gay not bi?). This could be the case but if bi it's probably no difference than a straight person being attracted to someone else and deciding to be with them. It's not really a crime or morally wrong thing to happen. Only the way in which they go about it (ie cheating or lining that next person up before breaking up with you).

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[bobalife]

Nope but sorry to hear that happened to you. Tbh it’s more than just sexuality of being bi… it’s just lack of loyalty and dishonesty. I’m bi, but I’m gonna be loyal with whoever I decided to be with. Maybe they just realized they wanna be with the other gender more but wasn’t being respectful to your relationship and it’s not fair on anyone.

[HawkPerception]

My first ex apparently had a girlfriend after me. My second girlfriend literally married a girl that transitioned into a guy after me. My third ex is the only normal one I've had who was a super submissive sub, but all I can say is what the actual fuck? Is there something wrong with me where I end up with girls that are gay or bi or was I so bad in the relationship that I turned them gay? 🤣

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, well I don't think she left me to be with a woman, but I knew that she would rather had been with a woman.. Or at least wanted a woman sexual.. I think if I had agreed to 3sums she would have been alright.. That's an if.. I know she expressed that she was into women much more than men..

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the whirlwind of relationships, huh? Well, love definitely throws us some curveballs, doesn't it? 🌈💓 I totally get how finding out your partner has left you for someone of the same sex can feel like a twist in your love story you didn't see coming. It's a punch in the feels for sure! A mix of betrayal with a side of identity crisis for dessert. But here's the thing - discovering and understanding one's sexuality can be a complex, winding journey. Some people take the scenic route, finding themselves in unexpected stopovers. It's not so much about them deciding late in the game but more about them coming to terms with their true selves. And oof, communication, or the lack thereof, plays the big villain in your story. Being upfront from the get-go can save a lot of heartaches. But remember, it's all about growing, loving, and learning - sometimes the hard way. Ever thought of it as a trial run before finding the one who truly gets you? 🚀 Heartbreak hotel is not a permanent residence, my friend. Keep those eyes forward; your blockbuster romance is just around the corner!

[Apple1996]

Nah. And personally I don't understand this because I'm mostly into women but I would not leave my husband to be with a woman

[Anonymous]

Yes. She was cheating a few weeks in to the relationship. She was basically screwing anyone with a heartbeat for months... except me (which I'm not complaining about. If we HAD been sexual, who knows what diseases I would have picked up from her?). She used me as "the stable, Christian looking side" (and did an Oscar worthy performance) until she was more comfortable letting everyone know who she thought she was all of a sudden.

She finally told me she's not into dudes (yet she was still screwing dudes... go figure). My guess was that maybe messing with guys was for getting the car paid off or the rent money each month, while girls were the "relationship" (though really, it's not much of a relationship if you're all "sharing" each other with ten other people (and maybe some farm animals in there)) and the "fun" or whatever, but who knows?

She moved in with a dude and several of his mistresses, all screwing around with each other (and whatever "swinging parties" and extracurricular orgies were going on).

Sort of lost a mutual friend as well... but she wasn't the most stable of friendships, so not a huge loss there, either. So it was a pretty clean break.

[blueonblack22]

Women are more likely to do this when in a relationship with a man then vice versa. Male sexuality is more rigid. If a gay man is dating a woman it’s because he needs something else (he’s closeted, she offers him other benefits, etc.).

[Quigly]

They didn't just find out, Gay people are very selfish.

They are the biggest users and they aren't always straight up about who they are.

[Phoenix98]

Actually yes an ex I had in high school. But we were cool we both ended mutually no hard feelings, stayed friends with her and dated her hotter younger sister so worked out pretty well.

[NathanDavis]

my ex-girlfriend was bisexual... but is not something "she decided one day after she met me"

no cheating involved either

[Nikki1989]

No, I have known my partners too well for that to ever happen.

[guyinterested]

Yeah... you gotta avoid those bisexuals. Had it happen to me too... TWICE. Now I ask if they are bisexual and if they are, they are gone.

[SotiCoto]

Yes, I tried my luck with a girl who eventually decided she was a lesbian and dumped me. Or at least that is what she said. It could have been she just got sick of me.

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

hey, i have personal experience of this, message me i would prefer private to discuss this?

[DarkLegacy]

No i have not, but i know people that have. It is quite common when people are young and have not yet worked out who they are.

[exitseven]

No, not that I know of but in one person I used to date it would have explained a lot if she did.

[wiltingrosepetal]

No, but this happened to one if my guy friends

[chrissykerdock]

sounds like a bad movie

[jahaims]

Nope.