Have you ever thought about just giving up on the opposite sex?

[Anonymous]

Does anyone else feel this way after the last guy I was seeing , I just feel drained and fed up wasting my time on wrong people. Honestly I feel like buying a cat and living in peace. Does anyone else get like this?

[SweedyPie]

I saw this question and half smiled... So I'm not the only one like this in the world. I poured my heart and soul into a relationship, eight years of my life went into it. After it all and all the mini breakups, wanting to go but he's begging me to stay then treating me badly all over again, I just got to the point where my good sense and intuition were screaming at me to leave. And now that its done, with him still wanting me to come back into a relationship... talking about marriage now, I keep explaining to him; I feel like a piece of clothing washed the hell out and hanged up to dry... there's nothing more for me to give, I'm totally content being all on my own. I don't want a man, woman, nobody for a long long long long time. Time I focus on myself the way I never did. Not to mention, I had a baby in the last year and being a mom really gave me that wake up call I needed to just cordially say goodbye to him and any relationship for what feels like forever. I don't have the energy to put into making anyone else happy again or the patience to accept their flaws or the effort generally required to make a relationship work. Essentially, I quit lol and loving it!

[Leraleira]

Yes, after what my ex did to me I feel like I'm done. I don't want to deal with men anymore. I just want to live in peace, just like you. For me men are a waste of time and emotion. The good stuff about relationships aren't worth all the heartbreak. I will get a dog and I will have children on my own and that's that. No lying, no cheating, no drama, no arguing, no divorce, no "new girlfriend" that's going to play mama to my kids. Sure I wish I could live happily ever after with "prince charming" but I don't know if I believe in happy endings anymore. A lot of people cheat, almost all couples break up, half of married couples divorce (and many who stay together are probably unhappy), I read somewhere that blended families are now more common than original families. So what's the point? No, I think it's better for me to stay single and live a calm, peaceful life on your own rather than to go through all that BS over and over.

[ObscuredBeyond]

The 50-50 model is a myth. 70% of couples who marry the first time, stay together. The other 30% are constantly marrying and divorcing and re-marrying. It skewers the statistics. It's about marriage for a higher cause, versus trying to use marriage as a pathway to fulfillment of things marriage was not designed to fulfill.

The truth is, many are very unfulfilled. Biology expects marital/sexual union, so societal expectation reflects that. But if one is not at peace with God and one's self, then there will always be a hole inside that cannot be appeased merely by seeking society's approval.

For me, the hole is overcoming past pain, to prove past tormentors wrong. To see their accusations and taunts completely destroyed in front of them, so they are left with no excuse, with nothing to say.

Simply getting a date though, is not nearly enough. Never will be. I long for marriage, but moral victory is the real prize.

[apple24]

Yeah I do. But then I see people who are married 20 plus years and happy.
And don't you think they are tired and fed up at some point. HELL YEAH! Anyway, you have to know who the right person is to put your precious time and effort. Love yourself first and foremost. And when you truly care about your well being you will know when the guy is worth your time. If he shows you he cares without a doubt thats the person to actually put in the draining effort.

[AlyssaSalcido12]

ALL OF THE TIME. In fact, I feel like I find reasons to give up on men. Like, "oh he's too young" or "oh he's too immature" just so I don't have to deal with the stress or the heartache. Because, let's be real, all of our sleepless nights are caused by men.

[Happierthanever]

I gave up on the opposite sex nearly seven years ago and it has been nearly three years since the penny dropped that I don't need women or a woman in my life to be happy and that has rendered women obsolete to me. I am no longer shackled by the weight of societal demands and expectations. I am happier than ever being a singleton and I have no plans to ever change that.

[Asker]

I like your answer I think I put my own happiness into men instead of putting onto myself.

[Happierthanever]

Most people do because it's far easier to do that then it is to find out why they aren't happy and find the solutions to reverse the feeling of unhappiness. This is why a lot of relationships don't work out and why a lot of people end up bitter and disillusioned with dating, relationships and the opposite/same-sex because they have this need for someone to complete them when really they should be complete before entering a relationship.

[Applefan1]

I have given up on women. After being treated constantly like shit by women even when I had done nothing wrong to women I have just run out of energy to date women now. I also feel like buying a cat. Cats can be great companions and can be very loyal, kind, friendly and caring animals.

[chuppachup]

I've given up on romantic relationships in general. Well, given up on trying to get relationships.

I'm crap at that sort of stuff so why bother? It won't make me happier, like society tells me it will so, yeah. Fuck 'em.

I might be too young and inexperienced to say that but there is no incentive to try. A relationship wouldn't benefit me in any way.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it's all take take take with women. I was disturbed by a Disney song in the car the other day that was all about what a prince has to do to show a princess he loves her, if that's the sort of shit girls a programmed with when they're little no wonder they turn out to be such selfish air-headed people.

[Someonesmartt]

Yeah because men are compulsive liars and they won't satisfied with mediocre beauty. I mean beauty doesn't exist in the first place. If I am going to be the beauty, they better be paying me. Big buck. Otherwise I am what I am. If they don't want what I am well, forget about it. I can't be a super model. Find one for god sake and good luck!

[dudeman]

well i have dealt with enough bullshit for one lifetime. sucks for the future women because they will have much less wiggle room due to me having no more room for bullshit.

[karahiri]

sigh. a bit yes. I don't know. sometimes i don't think about it at all, and other days i can't stop thinking about it. i always hope that things will change.

[BelleGirl21]

Not at all. When I hear people say that I feel more like they're giving up on themselves.

[CHARismatic110]

Only every other day. My sister got married in August so my hopes were higher but they've dwindled back down now lol.

[Anpu23]

Sometimes I have. But Im with a good woman now and we're pretty happy (better be we just bought a house together).

[Strider90]

Im like this for almost 2 years now. And I still live happy. I don't think there is a girl that has more value than my hobbies.

[Anonymous]

Just follow what you feel the gentle waves are taking you. You are just drained. And it is normal. I hope you well.

[PizzaGuy22]

nah I'm cool

no one said it would be easy by the way

[Anonymous]

Lol I feel like this so often

[Weirdguy24]

I am done with the opposite sex.

[pervertedjester]

Every dam day.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Not really ever, no.