HOW CAN I FIX THIS?

[Anonymous]

I work with this boy I think he might Like me, but I have a boyfriend so l've been trying to keep my distance and I also had a small crush on him he texts me all the time so I try not to respond much and I ignore his message so feeling can’t escalate he was telling me that he won't be at work for a while and then l ignore it then he told me his dad passed away and I feel terrible I keep texting him check up on him because I feel really bad for ignoring him before I genuinely feel so guilty and sorry (I suffer from MDD and I sleep a lot because of it so sometimes I'm not even ignoring him)

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He does know I have a boyfriend I told him a long time ago also I had a crush on him not have or has past tense before I even met my boyfriend

[Serkee]

You should tell him you have a boyfriend and that you're not interested in him romantically. Either that, or break up with your boyfriend and go after this guy. Don't try and pull the wishy-washy in-between stuff, you'll only end up hurting them and yourself.

[Asker]

He know I have a boyfriend 😭 I’m not a werido I told him but thanks for the advice

[edmwarrior]

Then you shouldn’t feel bad. Keep it professional. Give him your condolences but as a coworker, not as a friend. You’re not a mind reader, how could you have known?

[ChicoFromThe305]

I think you should make it clear to him that you have a boyfriend cause it seems like you haven't and thats only kinda fishy from your part cause it only looks like you wanna carry him on, if you told him then it's not a problem as long as y'all don't cross that line

[Asker]

I guess I should’ve made that clear I told him a while ago

[ChicoFromThe305]

Alright cool 👏🏽

[DishLady]

You fix it by staying away from a guy who isn’t your boyfriend. If you don’t WANT your boyfriend, be clear with him and make a clean break then go chase D as you please….

[Asker]

I think it’s my fault for making this unclear but I don’t have feelings for him and he knows about my boyfriend I just feel bad for ignoring his messages and to find out his dad passed

[DreamLife7]

Why are u assuming someone likes you? You sound delusional and weird

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the tricky waters of work crushes while being in a relationship is like walking a tightrope, isn't it? The key here is balance and clear boundaries. Your intention to maintain a professional relationship is spot-on, especially given your commitment to your boyfriend. However, when it comes to responding to something as significant as the loss of a family member, it's all about showing humanity and compassion.

Reach out to your colleague with sincerity and empathy. Let him know that you're sorry for his loss and that you're there for him if he needs a friend to talk to. It's possible to offer support without sending mixed signals—just be clear about your intentions.

Also, take care of yourself! MDD is a hefty beast to wrestle with, and it's crucial to ensure you're not too hard on yourself during these complex social situations. Remember, showing kindness and empathy never goes out of style, and it doesn't have to mean anything more than just being a good person. Keep those boundaries firm, and navigate this with the grace I know you've got! 😊

[jahaims]

You are too immature to be in a relationship. You have a boyfriend and have a crush on someone else. Grow up and try again

[Asker]

I said had not has it’s past tense before my boyfriend