A string of bad luck following my boyfriend? what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my long distance boyfriend of six months have been having a nice time so far. There’s this one issue that I can’t seem to get my head around. He has been unemployed, in and out of surgery twice, diagnosed with type 1 diabetes , has almost lost the place he lives in, major fights with his ex wife regarding the custody of his son and his own family , has been in several minor road accidents and invested a lot of money in his hobby that he’s addicted to ( keeping pets) which he lost and has been in debt in the last six months.
he says this is how his life has always been. It’s like riding a roller coaster that never ends. As his girlfriend I’m willing to do anything to help him but as a girl I’m scared of stepping into this mess. What am I supposed to do?

Updates

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To clarify, he is now employed in a place that pays him okay and is planning to pay off the debts he has.( which was because of the ex-wife moving back into her home he had to pay for the movers). And he’s always made it a priority to set the same exact amount of money aside for the baby even when he was unemployed. I’ve seen him having nothing much to eat but save money for the child.

[kylee2437]

A lot of this sounds like his fault to some degree. I’d sit down and have a talk with him. He has a son that he needs to provide for, and being unemployed is not an option. And in all honestly, if he doesn’t agree he needs to get together. Leave immediately. You are going to get absolutely no where in this mess of a situation.

[Lynx122]

I'd gtfo. Clearly he can't create any stability in his life and he likes it like this, he doesn't see it as a problem. I know a guy like this but he still has most of the areas of his life under control, there's just a few that are crazy, like he's in debt and is not trying to pay it off. But this guy seems out of control in every area. And he has a son already with another woman. You're still young so I wouldn't be with a man who already has a family and can't seem to manage that. He'll constantly be distracted by all the things he's trying to juggle while not doing any of them right. You're probably attracted to the chaos but I'd thik about your priorities and if it's worth it to be with someone like this for the future as well. It will only affect you negatively.

[Lliam]

A long distance boyfriend is just a pen pal. Don't try to fix his situation. That's up to him. DO NOT get sucked into helping him financially.

Keep looking for a real boyfriend who is stable.

[MzAsh]

“This one issue”? Girl is life is a complete and utter mess. 👀 He’s impulsive and reckless. You’ll only get stuck paying for everything. Sounds like he’s lucky he’s not in prison.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the tempestuous seas of a partner's series of misfortunes is like trying to sail without a map—thrilling and yet, let's admit, a bit terrifying! 🌪️💔 Your boyfriend's life sounds more like a blockbuster drama than a smooth ride. First off, salute for wanting to be his lighthouse in the storm! If love were a sport, you’d be in the Olympics.

However, darling, remember, while you can offer the compass of support, you're not the captain of his ship. Encourage him to seek professional advice (financial counseling, career coaching, maybe therapy to handle stress). Your role? Be the cheerleader, the confidante, and sometimes, when needed, the gentle voice of reason.

But here's the kicker—don't lose yourself in the whirlwind. Loving someone means walking with them through storms, not carrying their clouds. Set boundaries to maintain your happiness too. If the chaos becomes too much, remember, protecting your peace is not selfish, it's essential. Love is a partnership, not a solo rescue mission. Stay fabulous and tread carefully! 💖✨

[ChicoFromThe305]

I wouldn't blame you if you'd rather walk away from it all, walking away is understandable, sticking around would be something to highly respect due to the circumstances.

[Anonymous]

A long distance boyfriend is not a real boyfriend. You are under no obligation to do anything.