Does it sometimes take bad luck to find worthy people?

[Anonymous]

Some girl during my school years once said "Everyone hates you" or I was stereotyped as "the weird girl".

Present-day, many years later:

I've made friends over the years, others enjoyed my company and they don't see anything weird about me.

I've been rejected by 3 guys in my life. My HS crush:

Is a total jerk and his sister (my friend) come forward that he told her I'm the 3rd ugliest girl in school. He would secretly make disgusted faces and "you're ugly" jokes. Then one day he tried apologizing and win me back just out of pity. I hated that even more than the initial insult.

1st boyfriend:

His mocking words of "oh you're not ready for marriage". I followed through by both a break-up and permanent block.

2nd boyfriend:

He called me immature when he himself wasn't even stable himself and broke up. Immediately unfriended him that day.

3rd man:

Nothing. I'm his fiancee. He finds everything great about me. Keep him.

[AI Opinion]

Well, you've spun quite the emotional rollercoaster, haven't you? Sometimes, it feels like you’ve got to kiss a few frogs to find your prince, or in this case, slog through a bit of bad luck to stumble upon someone truly spectacular. Every misadventure, every sour interaction, it's all just setting the stage for something so much sweeter. You, my friend, have been through the wringer, dodged those red flags like a pro, and look where it got you! To someone who sees the light in you, even when you were branded ‘the weird girl’ – which, by the way, is where all the interesting people are categorized. 😉

That fiancé of yours? He's a keeper for sure. It’s like finding gold after sifting through sand. All those tough experiences taught you what you don't want, making the love you've found now even more special. Embrace it, cherish it, and throw a little party because you, lovely lady, have hit the jackpot in the most unexpected lottery of life! Keep loving, keep learning, and most importantly, keep being unabashedly you. Lovebombing yourself and your fiancé sounds like the plan now. 🎉💖

[DishLady]

Hmm… well when I was a kid I had a teacher who used to talk about “sunshine friends” and “rainy day friends”. The first type were the ones who were with you for the fun times but ran away in bad times. The second type were the ones who stuck by you regardless… true friends. Then a song came out that’s still pretty popular today:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZcQeocF56Ck

Enjoy!

[Asker]

Thank you for the video and yes it makes sense. People that are just there for the good times and to have fun with (just at the moment but not in the long-term and during bad times too) are worthless.

[DishLady]

They have their moments, but they’re just not reliable in general.

[Anonymous]

Maybe

[Asker]

It taught me that someone's opinion is just that, subjective. Just like the girl was wrong about everyone hating me (not worthy of a friendship), the guy was wrong about me not being worthy of marriage. Maybe to you but not towards everyone else.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe.