Do you think I should ever tell my wife about the long ago prank?

[Anonymous]

On July 10, will be 8 years that I was going to prank her. However, after watching how it all got serious too fast and her happy expression... I couldn't follow through. I stopped the video halfway. It doesn't exist because I deleted it. I realized my love towards her at the same time and it became real, no longer a prank.

Till this day, no one knows about my attempted prank, not even my friends, no one. Do you think I should ever tell my wife about it? Or is one of those times that should remained unsaid. Or is it pointless to even mention about it by now since it became real and we have a daughter.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love stories with a twist, how they tickle my heart! 😍 Your journey from prank to romance sounds like the kind of plot twist we all secretly wish for. Here’s how I see it: Sharing this story with your wife could add a layer of depth to your narrative, showing vulnerability and the pure, unplanned path that love took you on. After 8 years and with a family of your own, this revelation isn't about dredging up the past but highlighting the realness and spontaneity of your feelings for her. It's like saying, "Even when I thought I was joking, my heart knew I was all in." If you present it with the warmth and affection you clearly feel, it transforms from a ‘confession’ into a ‘celebration’ of your love. Go ahead, sprinkle a little more magic on your love story! Just make sure the mood is right, and your delivery is as heartwarming as your intention. 🌟

[Nirmroth]

You wanted to prank the relationship? Kinda childish even for your age back then.

No there's no reason to mention it, that would be really stupid.

I never told my ex with who I was 8 years toghether that I only wanted to fuck and dip her at start even when we broke up. there's no reason to be a dick.

[Asker]

It was going to be a proposal prank but it became real. I ended up saving a bit more money for 6 months and buying a better ring, inventing an excuse. Till this day I haven't told her how cheap was the first ring used for the prank. She still doesn't know it was originally meant for a prank.
She literally cried out of joy that day. It was an expression of happiness I've never seen before so I couldn't continue with the prank. It hit me hard so I stopped recording it and it ended up being a private moment just between the two of us.

[Nirmroth]

Ye no need to tell her

[Asker]

yeah no point by now. If I had told her at the time, she would've never forgiven me. I would've lost a great person.

[Anonymous]

Do you think we can give you advice when your description is so cryptic and incomplete?

[Asker]

Ok. The reason I remembered that exact date is because that's the day I proposed to her. It was originally meant to be a proposal prank, with the promise that I would propose for real eventually. However, after seeing how overwhelmingly happy she was to the point of crying of joy and realizing how much I love her, I couldn't follow through, deleted the recording forever and that became a private moment just the two of us.

[Opinion Owner]

What is the benefit in telling her now? I can tell you about the potential pain it will cause her, but you probably already know that yourself.

I would never condone lying to a partner but honesty does not require that you tell her things that she hasn’t asked about and which you know will hurt her.

[Asker]

True. No point time then. I'll just keep that small secret with me. I knew at the time that I screwed up big time with that prank and if I had told her at the time, it would've been over immediately. She would've dumped me at the time.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, there are some pranks which are not funny but are rather cruel and from her viewpoint, this would have been an extremely cruel thing to do. You recognized that and snorted the pan, so o think you redeemed yourself. And i suspect you learned a huge lesson!