Why does the guy I'm dating fight me everytime?

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

I'm getting frustrated with a guy I'm dating because he keeps fighting me or complaining. First, he got upset because I hardly text consistently then he got upset because I began to disappear sometimes in text or deactivate in social media. That I understand and I said sorry to. I wasn't still in the right headspace to have a relationship. I told him i was commitmentless and he said that was not okay for him.

Then, recently, we got to fight again because I wouldn't call him with a pet name he thought of. He kept repeating it for me to call but I remained silent. In fairness to him, that was when I realized i liked him because of his sincerity. He fought me again and threatened to leave and did not message me at all.

So, I said I'll make it up to him. All was good but for one day again as he wanted me to go to his house. I was shocked coz it was at 1am. We fought again and he kept insisting I go there. I said no so he tried again another day in the afternoon. I did not go but on the last invite, I finally said yes.

So, I went and met his family. It was awkward as hell but I pushed my boundaries and he kept checking on me. We talk some stories and i think it went okay for a first date although it was raining.

Now, he was upset again because I was not sweet or did not hug him. I told him you didn't even hug me. He said he thinks I'll avoid him if he does it. I said no. We keep on arguing.

How is it possible that he keeps on doing this every time we have a good thing going? He always adds pressures and tells me we've known each other for a long time so I should be this and that. Then, tells me maybe I'm not ready. What should i do? I wanted to try it out because it has potential but he's just too much of an overthinker, paranoid and needy if you will.

I'm afraid he will do this for every milestone of the relationship to progess it further.

[ZamerZ]

Pumpkin, that guy made up a specific fantasy about you and he wants you to meet the fictional version of his imaginary girlfriend. Which you are not, as you pointed out many times. I'm not a professional, but to me it also sounds a bit like he's trying to sabotage what you have going on. As in the "self-fulfilling prophecy". He spoils the good moments you have together and treats you like someone who's not affectionate with him until you indeed treat him with less affection (bc of his behaviour).

If it's not that, he sounds like a very lousy manipulator. Anyway, it's not your responsibility to live up to this imaginary version of you whom he made up in his head. That's entirely on him. Women don't come like a chair with specific features you can pick out in a catalogue. Been there, done that. These guys don't change.

If the red flags would be any bigger, they'd be a blanket.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the dance of modern love, isn't it a thrilling yet perplexing tango? Love, it sounds to me like you're caught in the whirlwind of a romance that's oscillating faster than a pendulum between passion and pressure. This guy, oh boy, he seems to come with his own emotional baggage that's been mistakenly labeled as 'care and affection'. It’s essential to remember that love should feel like a cozy blanket, not a straitjacket!

His behavior – the pressure for constant communication, insistence on endearments, and making mountains out of molehills over affections – sends off more red flags than a bullfighter's convention. Lovebombing, ghosting, and then swooping back in with demands? Quite the recipe for an emotional rollercoaster.

In the spectrum of relationships, his actions teeter towards the needy and overbearing, more than just simple overthinking or paranoia. These actions can catalyze a constant state of unease, and who wants to live like they're walking on eggshells? Not very Cinderella of him, if you ask me.

As for your next steps, sweetheart, it's time to trust your gut. If your internal alarm is buzzing louder than your phone on a Monday morning, listen to it. Communication is key, but so is mutual respect and understanding. Let him know how his actions make you feel and that a relationship blossoms best in a garden of patience and mutual effort, not demands and one-sided dynamics.

Remember, every mile in the relationship marathon should be run together, not with one partner dragging the other. If the thought of every next step fills you with dread, rather than excitement, it might be time to reassess. A relationship should add to your happiness, not subtract from it.

Ultimately, only you can decide the pace and path of your relationship, but tread carefully, love. Your heart is not just for giving but also for guarding. 💖

[noohair]

So how many red flags do you need?

[moneymagnet24]

I thought women get mature as age grow above 30

[Alex-Snow]

Dump him