Would you move to another country if your SO asked you to?

[Anonymous]

Whether it's for work or just they want a new start, would you move if your SO asked you to?

[Universaldance]

A question like this I’m never ready to put myself in a position to ever get to.


I’m not sure if people ever find a way to truly meet each other in the middle without it weighing on one person more but there are success stories of long distance relationships based on longterm commitments to leave some things behind


But I would personally think it’s important to test the waters first. Perhaps a temporary visit would lead to enough signs that a major decision like this could work out. Definitely would take some compromising and clear comm about our shared goals and dreams 5-10/20 years out in the future. I truly believe committing to another environment with them for this time even if things don’t work out cannot harm me as I’ve agreed to do so in the first place


In this season of my life, Im working on a business for our financial future that I could continue overseas so I wouldn't be sacrificing too much moving there as far as business development but what I would leave behind are the proximity to my mentors which I highly value and would develop much faster with. This would be an example of something I would have to sacrifice along with missing out sharing time with my parents and siblings at the youngest season we all could share together and be okay with if I do agree and cannot blame my SO for this. Obvi she could also move out here with me and the decision would be vice-versa

[Universaldance]

(P. s) and more specifically about communicating about our goals and dreams, it would be more about our shared chemistry and values at the end of the day. I truly feel that would weigh more than anything. And wouldn't necessarily have to be to each other’s country permanently but just until the purpose of moving for a new start is fulfilled

[Anonymous]

I'm self employed. The thing is, if people don't want to pay for my work, then it's going to be pretty difficult to find work and get paid decently. and I need a place that does that better than where I am living. But for some of my job, I could work from almost anywhere as long as I had good wifi and my computer. The problem is it's hard to crack the code of how to get my name out to places where I'm not visible.

I would probably move for a fiancee or any future wife I might have. I'd want somewhere safe, preferably near a city, lots of events, maybe a good night life, things to do. A place where it's easy to make decent friendships. Probably where the cost of living isn't high. I would also hate to move to a place with long cold winters. Sorry, Alaska would probably have to be out. If I get hurt or there's a bad accident, I don't want to have to be airlifted out of some remote area with no cell phone coverage and surrounded by mountains, and the nearest hospital is an hour or two away.

But if she was going to earn the money, and was fine with that, while I work as a stay at home dad, then maybe it would be easier.

No third world countries. I'm not THAT adventurous. Otherwise, I could be convinced.

[mono_gram]

It depends on how long we’ve been dating and what situation I’m in. For example, if it hasn’t been that long since we’ve dated or I have a good, stable job, or I’m just satisfied with how my life is at the moment, then I probably would say no. If I’m wanting a change in my life (ex: new job, relocate, new environment, etc.) or my partner had a valid reason to move then I might consider it. Of course there are other factors to consider too like financial situation, family, and my future (with them).

[jennifer_bloom]

It would depend where we move. If it was a place where they spoke English or Chinese or a place where the language was easy to learn such as Spain or Brazil, I would move there if my husband was loyal and could function with my poor linguistic capacity in that country and if I was able to have a social life and be protected despite my language capacity.

[AI Opinion]

Jumping continents or even zip codes for love? Oh, that's a plot twist I live for! Sharing such an adventure can be the ultimate lovebombing experience for your relationship, but it's not just about packing your bags and chasing sunsets. Communication is key! Are you both on the same page about your goals and dreams? Is this move a joint decision sprinkled with excitement and mutual support? If you're both saying "heck yes" with stars in your eyes, then you've got the green light from cupid himself. Remember, it's not just about where you are, but who you're with that turns any place into home. 🌍💖

[kylee2437]

Yep, I already told my boyfriend, you want to move out of our state, the choice is his

[osmanthus]

I've moved before and had to move back to my hometown; the devastation it brought upon me was dismal. I don't think I'd seriously consider it, again, unless I were married to the SO and or was able to spend 6 months on and off in both countries without much strain on my finances.

[osmanthus]

Either way, I'd like to have work lined up in this new country.

[osmanthus]

Adding in offspring would complicate matters. I very much cherish my citizenship and wouldn't want to part with it, if I could be a dual citizen instead.

[osmanthus]

I'm less likely to want to move permanently, even with a child on the way, if the man is a boyfriend or, further down still, a lover. A legal commitment in writing is moreso my lean-in for consideration on a 50-50 timeshare as it concerns living between countries. I may negotiate to spend more time in the latter country but this would have to be discussed at length.

[osmanthus]

It takes time to learn about the work life and cultural landscape of a new country. Acclimating for citizenship requires ample resources, time, and energy and often takes years with the support of at least 1 person.

[osmanthus]

Even then (when one does gain citizenship after x number of years) there still may be things one might deem irreconcilable or objectionable about the culture, customs, etc. when comparing it to another.

[osmanthus]

Most people tend to operate within and strongly prefer their 'cultural bedrock' as in what they know about how to approach work, love, life, etc. If one is lucky, the other country will share enough cultural similarity to make transitioning and maintaining citizenship easier.

[osmanthus]

Too many dissimilarities between countries in terms of cultural manners may prove too challenging for some people to acclimate to.

[just_a_potato]

If its anywhere further than a 3 hour drive away, he better be the love of my life, and be getting on one knee before this big move. Too risky to uproot my life for someone who may not even work out.

[molonski2]

I've already moved Countries , so at my stage of life , it would depend which country it was..

I'm not going back to Afghanistan , no matter how high my lifestyle.

[Unit1]

You was in Afghanistan? Huh.

Me was trapped in one of those human rights violated 3rd world countries. 1 million annually (as an independent contractor with very low tax rates if not avoiding those) + a Ferrari 458 + world class medical insurance would not make me consider going back there either.

[molonski2]

@Unit1
Wow , thats crazy man !
I went there when they had the big green zone , it was all about a property project for future diplomats , this was when we thought USA -australia , was going to " win " the war ! hahahaha , seems so stupid in hindsight. I never realised there were so many super rich there ( no wonder they dont want change ) as I'd only seen all these poor saps working around with Fck all.

We were talking humongous money , but so were so many others.. Guess What? Virtually none of these projects went ahead , so no one made money , from there we went back to Dubai where the $$$ was going to come from. Had it worked? Potential for 2 mill US plus wages , insurance , car ( driver ) , and reside in part of a Castle with 15 staff taking care.
Its still there , just raw dirt.. what a waste.

[provokeesmokee]

Depends. What country, what's our plan, what's the job market for our industries, what's the immigration path or are we not immigrating?

But generally, unless I also want it, no.

[Sunnysunny123]

It depends on the opportunities both of us will have, if i could get a better job, if the country has good health, school system than yes definetly.

[xoxosilentgirl]

i would. Even if a random stranger challenge me to do so, i would gladly do that (if i have the money)

[Kelley1]

I would if I was married or else if I was engaged to be married with the approval of both families.

[Account]

I wouldn't do anything that the other person wouldn't be willing to do for me.

[Sugar100]

Yes I want the guy im seeing rn to be my boyfriend and he ask to live with me. It’s my dream. Idc if he lives in another state I will move

[midnightmoon05]

Yeah, we are in the process of doing that for fun.

[Nikki1989]

I already did. We moved here in 2019. Best move I have ever made.

[HawkPerception]

I plan on working remotely, so depending on the location, I'd be up for it.

[Billlewis]

Many of us may very well be doing that anyway..

[dreamstar72]

We moved eight times to different states for each other.

[KostasKouvalis]

It depends which country, but it's always better to do something like that together

[KrakenAttackin]

A man who moves to accommodate a woman is seeing the seeds of destruction to the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anon question deserves an anon response. It depends really on what communications you have, and what you want?

[Pohjolan]

Depends on the country and location in question.

[Anonymous]

I live in the USA so absolutely not.
Once we Make America Great Again in November, this will be the place to thrive.
I won’t even vacation anywhere else unless on a cruise.

[Opinion Owner]

I will say if she wants to move for a working position in another country where she make lots of money, I would consider it.
As long as retirement is in the near future.

[SugarSugarplum]

Yes. He's in charge.

[Serkee]

No, I couldn't leave my family behind.

[Caroline91]

Very likely I would.

[SweetJoyGirl]

That really depends.

[WhitneySnow]

Depends why and what country

[ariadneR]

100%

No hesitation

[MicahRaine]

I would and will :)

[exitseven]

No. I woiuld move to a different state.

[Samantha_17]

I already did..! :)

[jamesgoldman]

Depends on if I can still run my business

[DrPepper12]

If i had no close rekatives to consider HELL YES

[animesenpai]

Depends on the country

[JCT666]

Depends on what country.

[handsomelad70]

If it's a lovely place, yes.

[Knightwatch27]

Depends on the country.

[yes_goddess]

only if she commanded me to

[HelpfulWoman]

probably not no

[coxoabean]

Yes I would

[dustybiker2]

Did. A couple times.

[paledreams]

Hell no

[jahaims]

Nope

[Emmytexrex]

Maybe yeah I would

[imfreeze95]

Hell no

[Anonymous]

Nope.