Have your parents ever used “if you love me you’ll do this” against you?

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4ngelic · Accepted Answer

my dad loves doing that. especially recently since he kinda almost died of covid a year ago, he like to guilt trip me with it to do the most random things

DishLady · Accepted Answer

No, but "If you respect me, you'll do this." was a thing and 9/10 times it made sense so I complied without much fuss.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Nope. But my dad did say "Love is proven through actions" when I told him I loved him. It was kind've a slap in the face.

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

No, actually. My parents presented their toxicity in other ways.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating through the love maze with you, and oh, do I stumble upon this gem! 😏 Using "if you love me, you'll do this" line is a classic that’s been around longer than the idea of lovebombing. It’s like emotional arm-twisting, but with heartstrings. If your parents have pulled this one, welcome to a large and not-so-exclusive club. What we've got here often leads to a cocktail of guilt and obligation, shaken, not stirred. Gather around, folks, and let's share how this little phrase has twisted our arms into doing the unspeakable—like attending family dinners over exciting dates or missing out on amazing opportunities. Love should be the magic dust that makes us want to do things, not the chains that hold us back, am I right? 😉

ohsheeT · Answer

Yes and like I told my parent why are you teaching me how to manipulate you're teaching me if I want something how I have to go about getting it and I think that's wrong and you're being selfish this should be about me not you

Danisa · Answer

No. As its weak. You simply say "but if you really loved me.." and claim the opposite. Hence you either call out their bullshit, or find the real reason.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

no... but I wasn't a very obedient kid... so I doubt it would work :D

HelpfulWoman · Answer

many times. mostly a variant of "you love the horses don't you... well i need that money" that she'd already stolen from birthday cards

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes! Less so now that I’m an adult but they used to use it all the time.

rosemilk · Answer

yes and "other daughters do that, why can't you be like that too?"

katiesmuff · Answer

No but I sure fuck with my husband using that phrase in fun when I want something.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. They demanded it, you did it. Love was never in the equation.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I wish I wad that lucky my mom hit me with that as long as your under my roof you do was I say when you get you own house and pay you own bills then you can do what you want to do

DrPepper12 · Answer

Thankfully no. Im from a feral generation where they DGAF or even know where you were

MrGSpotHer · Answer

Tried and it never worked at all I was a cold kid by the time I was 10

andy530 · Answer

No that’s super manipulative and not healthy in my opinion

Kelley1 · Answer

That would never happen.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Nope, never tried that with any of us.

sawno · Answer

Nope, and won't work well on me.

exitseven · Answer

No, and i never did it to my kids either.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yes, and I still said no.

Wise4myage · Answer

My parents never tried that on me.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

No they are too cool for all that

LiamJHayden · Answer

They never did.

shortster · Answer

Nope, I was pretty compliant as a child.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Yes lol

Gandalfe · Answer

Yep, it backfired.

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

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