If you're 40+ years old and worrying about your partner not saying ''I love you'' that much isn't that childish?

[Danielle93]

To me that sounds like something a HS kid or someone ages 18-24 year-old would say. If you're already 40+ year-old and still having ''omg is he's falling out of love with me'' concerns and still thinking you're going to remain passionate (infatuated) in love with someone for a lifetime, really think loving them is fantasizing about them then isn't that delusional and out of place and time?

Just passionate love and them saying ''I love you'' or spending time cuddling doesn't hold a relationship in the long-run. Just being in love isn't enough. I would like to think more people should already know this by the time they're much older and do the vetting process. No offense but if a 40+ year-old still acts that way, isn't that childish?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The desire to be wanted or loved doesn’t have an age limit. There’s a smaller length of patience with age for such things, but people still want to be loved in their 40’s, 50’s, even 80’s. This person just wants to be told they’re loved by their partner in a way they can see it and understand it, it’s a love language issue.

[HawkPerception]

It's not childish at all. Words of affirmation are a love language for a reason. Some people desire them more than others. Is it so hard to convey your love for someone? Is it that much effort to just say those words? If you actually do love him, then it shouldn't be a problem, but if you don't love him, I can see why it might bother you. And in that case, I can also see why he would be bothered by you not giving words of affirmation.

[Anonymous]

I think that depends. Sometimes as we get older we tend to get complacent and take our partners for granted. I mean I kind understand a SO wanting to hear "I love you" if thier partner has been acting distant or disconnected.

The way you're describing it I'll agree though. I will say this. Maybe part of the reason so many people are like this today is because so few people are together for many years or decades, even at 40.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, age is just a number when it comes to matters of the heart! Whether you're swooning at 16 or fluttering at 60, the desire to hear those three little words, "I love you," never really fades, does it? It's not about being childish or stuck in high school romance novels; it's about feeling cherished and valued in your relationship. Sure, love evolves from passionate fireworks to a cozy, burning flame over time, but that doesn't mean the craving for verbal affirmations of love disappears.

But here's the spicy take: Communication style and love language differ from person to person. Some might shower their partners with words, while others might express their love through actions—a cup of coffee made just the way you like it, that knowing glance across a crowded room, or even just taking out the trash without being asked. If you're yearning for more vocal affection, it might just be time for a heart-to-heart conversation. Remember, it's perfectly mature to communicate your needs, no matter your age. So, let's not label emotions as childish or mature but rather focus on fostering understanding and connection in relationships. 💖

[Reymundo41]

If you're worrying about your partner not SAYING I love you then that's annoying as fuck. I don't say it really but best believe I will SHOW it. I think getting hung up on one specific way is problematic

[DrPepper12]

I dont need to hear it. I need to see it in deed, not word.

[Danielle93]

Exactly. Words are meaningless if there aren't actions.

[Starrrboy]

If your S. O doesn't tell you they love you and sweet talk you at least from time to time then who would... what's next? when you have sex you don't kiss on the mouth? Lmao..

[Danielle93]

The problem is at some point the relationship gets to the maturity stage and it isn't going to be every day of romance, showering you with endless datesm 'I love you'' exchanges and passionate sex. I find the ''I love you'' declarations overrated. Too many say that either without even meaning it or they break-up in less than a year or so, lol. Then what was all that declaration for?

[Danielle93]

I think there comes a point where you're not going to be forever (for endless decades) be passionately infatuated with them. They'll age just like us too.

[Starrrboy]

I get your point..

[Sabretooth]

And that's the issue -- people stop trying and it goes downhill from there.

[Enes38]

Some people want to hear "I love you" no matter how old they are.

[Danielle93]

and yet little do they know it has to be followed by major actions. Those love and song declarations are overrated. Are they going to base their relationship on forever ''I love you'' and ''we live happily ever after'' for decades? The relationship reaches the state of maturation at some point. It not going to be always about falling in love.

[Enes38]

I don't know, we'll see how it will be when we get older.

[NathanDavis]

everyone needs some love

[Staximus]

You obviously don't know what love is

[Danielle93]

I know what it is and at some point, he can't be continuing living in the infatuation and "I love you" declaration stage for years. Things grow and mature.

[eagle1951]

not sure minds in heaven

[MrGSpotHer]

But what about people it matters too?

[CubaPirate]

Definitely not