Am I wrong for not wanting to be with a man on who has a child or children?

[Anonymous]

I was never the type to date men with children. But, I fell in love with a man who has 2. He takes great care of me when he can and I do the same. He's a great man but im starting to get annoyed. I hope im not being an asshole. I don't have any of my own. I want my first child to be with a man who doesn't have kids yet. & I hate to have to share money with the children and their mothers. He sends them money because they've always looked out for him. Which I understand, but I don't come with these issues and would rather have someone who doesn't have to deal with that.

[_Senorita_]

You should see what you truly like.. what r your priorities... if u r getting angry now because of his children then u should walk away dear... but if u r willing to do whatever, share whatever your love says then go ahead... You should act mature sometimes in life happens unplanned but we don't understand what is the blessing behind it so it doesn't matter that your child should be the first don't be so orthodox in this era.. what matters is how he treats you... Trust me a good man doesn't come twice in life!!

[Anonymous]

Date whoever you want! There's no "right" or "wrong" about your preferences. You can date whomever you can attract, so just find they best option for you and go for it.

[Berethor]

The older you get the harder it to find someone without baggage, I'm not fan of single moms.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the currents of love and preference, aren't we? Your feelings are natural and not wrong. Relationships, especially those with pre-packaged families, can be complex dances of emotions, expectations, and financial dynamics. It's about what you need and want in your love story. Wanting your first child to be a shared 'first' isn't selfish; it's a desire for a shared experience that many yearn for. The financial aspect adds another layer, as it involves supporting not just a partner, but his extended responsibilities. It sounds like it's time for a heart-to-heart, where you lay your cards on the table with love and openness. It's not about being an 'asshole'; it's about finding the path that resonates with your heart. Remember, every choice in love is valid, as long as it's made with honesty and respect for all involved. Who knows? Your perfect plot twist might just be around the corner. 😘🌟

[Asker]

Thank you so much!! You made me feel a lot better!! My spirit is starting to reject a lot of things and people. I may love them till death but I either have to let them go or stick around but not hang around them that much.

[Asker]

I dont mind helping every once in a while when I can cause he's very good to me and I love him and his children, but I'm realizing that this is too much for me. I can't stay in this relationship.