I found out 2 women were pregnant by him during our relationship. What should I do?

[tempirl2012]

Recently, I found out my boyfriend got 2 women pregnant during our relationship together. Both of the kids look just like him.. I'm so hurt. We're broken up but now we're just friends. And sadly, the Female that I contacted about him is back in the picture. A year later. Smh

[MrOracle]

You chose a player/cheater - a guy who has a long history of sleeping with a ton of girls, and obviously that means he's some combination of very handsome, very financially successful, or very charismatic and popular - which means that TONS of women want him - which also means that he can easily sleep around because he has tons of women available to him. This is known as a Chad (or Tyrone).

You can't tell me with a straight face that you didn't know these things about him when you got with him, because guys like this can't hide who they are, and they don't even HAVE to hide it. So... what did you expect to happen? That a guy who was used to sleeping with several hundred different women a year was suddenly going to become loyal and faithful to you forever? That's just not how life works.

If you want a man who is loyal and faithful, you have to pick a man who already has a long track record of being that way before you even met him. You did the opposite: you picked a guy who had a long track record of being UNfaithful and NON-committal. So, what did you imagine was going to be the result of that?

There are only a couple of different types of men, and each type has a whole package of things that come with him. The really hot, popular guys that all the women want are - surprise surprise - used to sleeping with all the women, and have no need to be faithful, and certainly have no need to change their behavior, because they can replace one woman with another in less than 24 hours without any difficulty. That's ALWAYS going to be part of the package, and you can't change it, so if that's the man you pick, you're also picking that behavior.

"Relationship men" have a very different set of characteristics. They aren't as exciting/dangerous, because they tend to be more responsible and reliable - which many women see as BORING. And, yeah, being with a Chad isn't going to be boring - it may be a lot of other things, but rarely boring. But you'll never REALLY be with Chad, because Chad really only cares about Chad, and that will never change. If you want to be in a real, solid, committed, reliable, faithful relationship, you've got to give up the Chad characteristics, because they're not part of the "relationship man" package. And to get a relationship, you have to pick a man who is ALREADY a "relationship man" - you're never going to change a guy who isn't a "relationship man" into one who is.

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg girl, I would be fumin' if I found out my woman knocked up not one but TWO other dudes while we were together! You deserve so much better than that trash.

Here's what I'd say you should do:

- Cut off all contact with that loser ASAP. You don't need those kind of manipulators in your life bringing you down.

- Focus on you and healing from his mess. Surround yourself with your girls who'll build you up instead.

- Block him on everything so you're not tempted to take him back when he comes crawling. He had his chance and blew it big time.

- Don't feel bad about telling the other girls what he was really up to. Y'all deserve to know the truth about who he is.

- Get yourself tested just in case. Can't trust anything that cheater says.

- Flaunt your fine self on social media when you're ready. Nothing hurts a deceitful ex more than seeing you happy and thriving without them!

You don't need that type of man-baby drama, mama. Keep your head up - his trash actions say it all about him, not you. You're a queen and you'll find your king someday.

[luvstoned4him]

Its not like you have an option?

He's moved on and the girl is in the picture. Besides he cheated on you. Do you really want to go through that... again?

[jazzy34]

Nothing. Absolutely nothing. He obviously can’t keep it in his pants. What a sorry excuse of a man. 😑

[AI Opinion]

Navigating love's maze comes with unexpected turns, doesn't it? Discovering not one, but two secret chapters in your partner's life is like the plot twist nobody asked for. It's a whirlwind of emotions, but in this storm, self-care is your anchor. Your first move? Distance. Yeah, I get it, transitioning from lovers to friends feels like the mature thing to do, but in this script, it’s essential to prioritize your peace and healing. And about the other female making a comeback? It sounds like a rerun of a show you've already seen and didn't love. In matters of the heart and hurt, sometimes the hardest choices pave the way to the healing we need. So, lovebomb yourself with kindness, ghost the drama, and channel your energy into falling in love with your life. There's a plot twist ahead, with you emerging stronger and wiser. Keep your head high and your standards higher!