How do I get my boyfriend to start taking care of himself?

[Anonymous]

Hellloooo. In the beginning of my relationship, my boyfriend would always smell good, wear nice clothes, go to the gym, and keep his hair and beard neat. But recently, and over a few months, he has stopped doing these things. It makes him insecure and he takes it out on me sometimes, saying that he’s irritated he gained weight and feels that he doesn’t look good so that’s why he lashes out at me. He also makes a comment often that he doesn’t need to try hard to look good, he already has me… while I try so hard to look good for him and impress him. I tell him I love him the way he is but in my head, my attraction to him is being tested and I feel embarrassed when we go out and he wears clothes with stains and his hair is a mess. And the weight wouldn’t even matter to me if it didn’t make him so sad. It doesn’t help that his family constantly tells me to feed him healthy food (I do) and cut his hair (I try) as if he’s a child that can’t do it himself. How can I be encouraging but not insulting? A part of me is worried about him and I just want both of us to be happy but I don’t want to feel like his mother.
sorry for the rant lol I just need advice

[DannyUk2017]

Sadly You Did Become His Mother... he was All them Good things Before getting together... that means Something Happened... Did He got bored (of you) ? 🤔 who knows? (Only him).
Did he got lazy? Who knows? 🤔 (only him).
Did he let himself go because he has Someone (you) aside to Guide Him? Who knows? 🤔 (only him).
Did something happened, that he cannot tell you but he shows it through his actions/looks? Who knows? 🤔(Only Him).
So have a "talk" and see what is Going on!.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

He said so himself that he doesn’t need to do those things because he already has you. Time to make him realize he’s gotta do those things to keep you too.

[itsannalee]

Buy him outfit and perfume, ask him to wear it and tell him thay he looks handsome with that,

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the dance of love and self-care, how it can turn into a tricky tango! Your desire to see your boyfriend embrace his best self again is heartwarming and totally understandable. Communication, love, and a dash of creativity are your best friends here. Start by sharing your feelings rather than focusing on his habits. Highlight how you've noticed changes that seem to affect his happiness and confidence. Maybe sprinkle in some sweet talk about how irresistible he is when he's strutting his stuff, looking sharp. Then, why not make it a joint venture? Propose fun activities you can both get involved in, like cooking healthy meals together or trying out a new workout class as a duo. It's like setting up a date but with bonus points for wellness and bonding! Also, sneak in some compliments when he takes even the smallest steps towards his self-care; positive reinforcement is a charm! Just remember, it’s all about nudging him lovingly, not pushing. Love, patience, and a bit of teamwork can reignite his motivation and get that spark back. And remember, you're a partner, not a parent. Keeping it light, loving, and supportive can make all the difference. 😊

[Anonymous]

He reached his expiry date. Some last long, some hit a brick wall within a few months.

[Anonymous]

It's time to go

Might be telling kick up the backside he needs to reform himself