How to tell my boyfriend to take care of himself?

[Anonymous]

I love my boyfriend, this doesn't put the relationship at risk. He is so attractive, I love that he is taller than me, he takes care of himself physically. But I would like for him to dress up better and take better care of his facial hair. (since I like it when he keeps it short than when he let's it grow). He usually wears the same kind of shirt, is like a cartoon character no difference in his wardrobe. I don't know how to tell him or ask him to change it up a bit. I am attracted to him but I know that if he took better care of his image then I would defiantly be head over heels for him. Since I try to look good for him and all.

[Anonymous]

You should accept him the way he is, as he you. He might like you to change some things to? lol It sounds a bit superficial honestly. My view is if you truly like the person, this stuff shouldn't matter. But, having said that, just offer suggestions to him and be honest/blunt (don't hint). For shaving, just make a comment how "you love it when he's clean shaven". He probably just hates doing it which is why he doesn't do it as often. I know I do. It's one of the things I hate having to do so often. It's not that I don't like to be clean shaven, I do, I just hate doing it. It's a pain in the a** lol. As for clothes, maybe buy him something you'd think he'd look good in and comment how much you like it. He'll get the hint.

[Dyonisos]

facial hair - make a game out of it. Offer to shave his and don't be surprised if he will meet that offer with a grin. And maybe a counteroffer...
wardrobe - if he's the present loving type of guy... hit him! But I suppose he's not, so may be needed to invite him to a shopping session, hopefully set up by male standards :)
on the other hand, if I may... don't overdo with concern over looks, you should rather focus on less superficial aspects of your relationship.

[Asker]

Im just saying that I would like to see him with more kind of shirts than the same ones he wears lol. He only changes the color scheme of the same color

[Dyonisos]

You're right, I agree with you. Make it work, you're a woman, you can do it! :)

[MikkiM]

Be open to him,.. tell him that you admire him, but he have to dressed up a bit, And people will be much happier if they see you together more presentable..

be a little clingy like ' I want them to be more jealous that Im with the most handsome guy on earth and i like to make them look at us :)

Play it a little, dont make it to seriously to say it to him, so he won't take it personally

[Daylow]

Buy him stuff or go shopping with him occasionally. It shouldn't really matter too much if you just like each other for who the other person is.

[Asker]

It doesn't really matter u are right. But I would like for him to change it up once in a while. I mean I try to look good for him, and he wears the same kind of shirt with similar color scheme.

[Daylow]

Just buy him some clothing then, it'll seem like your spoiling him and most guys don't mind new clothing anyways. And he might be more inclined to buy you stuff as well. Worst case scenario he won't wear it.

[Cmasterson]

Just tell him that he would look better if he improved his sense of style! Dont say it that harshly but offers some alternatives.

[Chanel1981]

Buy him some gifts to wear out, even if it's only for special occasions :)

[Afrotherealest]

Take him shopping lol. Problem solved. About the facial hair, let him know how you feel about his facial hair. It's easy to let go of keeping it nice and short.

[guilly18butnot]

I would like my girl to be straigh forward about it. Even if I might initially show some rejection to her wills, I know I will eventually (probably gradually too) comply to her wishes as it is very important to me to feel liked and desired by my SO.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

This thing you're doing is a shit-test. As soon as he starts doing the things you want, you'll break up with him and tell him some shit like "You've changed. You're not the person I fell in love with". You're just looking to see if he actually changes, or if he has a backbone and does what he wants.

[Asker]

😂 honey, how can I complain when he styles good. Lmao is not like I'm asking to change his thinking or way of being

[Barrabus_the_Free]

If it's good, then why would you ask him to change? Answer: to see if he'll actually do it.

[Asker]

Changing his wardrobe once in a while is not asking him to stop thinking or being himself. I mean I'm sure u will like for your girlfriend to take care of herself when u notice she stopped doing that and starts neglecting her appearance.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

It always starts with something small, like 'changing his wardrobe once in a while'. Then, it becomes just as I said.

I won't ask a woman to change. She starts putting on weight, or looking frumpy, not bothering to brush her hair, that kind of thing, I'm done. Gone. I walk. I learned the hard way not to tolerate any of that bullshit from a woman.

[Asker]

Lol whatever works for u then

[lord_chilled]

You can tell him, but dont expect a big change. I know i can't keep up appearances with women, lol. But lots of guy these days do

[Asker]

Lol I dont want him to dress like I want, just to change it up a bit. He wears the same kind of shirt with similar color scheme.

[lord_chilled]

Yeah i get it, i do that too. You can just tell him to switch it up a bit

[Anonymous]

guys usually go with "BITCH YOU AIN'T GONNA CHANGE ME. YOU SHOULD LOVE ME FOR ME" and then run away

[Asker]

I dont want him to change how he thinks. Just the way he dress. Every single day he wears the same kind of shirt is like he doesn't give an effort to look nice when I do it for him

[backonthelist]

get him a few gifts, he'll like them and probably wear them because you got them for him

[Paultripps]

Nit picking...