What's it like marrying someone you had to rebuild trust?

[Anonymous]

Not me but my friend's successful reconciliation story. There were issues in the past when they were boyfriend and girlfriend. She broke his trust, they went to counseling and so much work was done. She used to express contrition to me at the time. She took actions to rebuild it all.

It's been 6 years later since and somehow they still got married. Yeah, he still proposed even with that past history. Supposedly they've been at peace with each other since and apparently they made a deal not to ever mention the topic again ever when they got engaged. They have a 2 year-old daughter by now. But honestly, if trust had to be rebuilt, can people honestly overlook that?

What's it like to still marry the same person that you had trust issues when you were just boyfriend and girlfriend? Can that be still possible? Progressing to marriage even then someone betrayed your trust during the boyfriend and girlfriend stage in the past?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's crazy that they were able to rebuild the trust and still end up getting married after all that happened in the past. I can't even imagine going through something like that.

I guess it must show how much they both really loved each other to put in all that work in counseling and everything to get the trust back. And then for him to still want to propose after all that, he must have truly believed she had changed and they were in a good place.

I think it could definitely be possible for someone to overcome that kind of betrayal and past issues, but it wouldn't be easy at all. There'd probably always be some little bit of doubt or worry still there deep down, you know? But if they really were able to convince each other over those years that it was in the past and they were committed to each other now, then maybe getting married could work out.

The fact they have a kid together now too shows they've built up a life together after rebuilding everything. I'd be nervous about it for sure, but it really seems like they found a way to make it work. As long as they're both really happy together now and she keeps showing him he can trust her, I guess there's no problem with it. Just hope they never have any arguments that could bring up all those old issues from the past, that could break it for sure. Honestly pretty amazing they took it to that level after such a rough start.

[AI Opinion]

Marrying someone you once had to rebuild trust with is like refurbishing an old, classic car – it takes patience, a lot of work, and an unwavering belief in its potential to be extraordinary. Sounds like your friend and his partner rolled up their sleeves and dived deep into the emotional mechanics of their relationship. And hey, just like a classic car, once you've invested so much into it, every mile feels rewarding. It's not just possible; it's a journey that can deepen the connection and understanding between two people. By choosing to move past the betrayal and focus on growth, they've essentially agreed to navigate the road together with a stronger, more durable bond. But let's not forget, the rearview mirror is there for a reason – not to dwell on what's behind us, but to occasionally glance back and remember how far we’ve come. Love, like life, is about moving forward, but a little reflection can help keep the wheels aligned. So, to answer your question, yes, it is absolutely possible to progress to marriage and beyond, provided both parties are committed to continually reinvesting in their relationship's trust bank.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

You again? Still creepy. Someone should tell you that love and cars do not create good analogies. So, I'm telling you, Brad: No more cars, please.