Women Rushing Men?

[Anonymous]

Why is it that when women plan an agenda with their man, for that day, the woman tends to rush that man into getting the day started? Why is it that women are less likely to take it slower in getting that agenda underway?

[Finchie40]

Because women have different brains then guys’ do , a women’s brain is wired different. Then a males’ brain , her brain races with a 1000 things at one time , where a males’ brain doesn’t race as much as hers. Why men and women tend to get into a lot of arguments over things. She already has her agenda set for the day , where us guys’ are only focused on a few things , not a 1000 things like her lol. I watched a documentary on this and it was pretty spot on about the differences in brains. Why there are so many jokes about male and female relationships, even though they are funny , they are actually pretty accurate. Most males and females’ experience the same things in relationships with butting heads on things. Why males’ and females’ tend to get frustrated over each other. A female wants things done immediately, when a guy doesn’t , he will say I will get it done and it will be 2 weeks later and he still hasn’t got it done lol and she will remind him again or do it herself. Most females’ sadly can’t relax like a guy can , because her brain is racing with a 1000 things at once worrying about things that guys’ don’t really worry about. Why we assume females’ are constantly nagging and bitching about things , , which to us they are , and making us frustrated and pissed off that she can’t just relax.

[RebelinSteel]

I think that only applies to lazy people. If I have stuff planned it includes getting out of house on time with some flex in timings, this means out early. Ditto with everyone I’ve been in a relationship, we are sorted quickly and out, I have found when we include others some are fucking slow and you end up waiting for them, even though everyone knew what was happening.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Maybe because if you planned it, it would be on your schedule.
The planner/manager title usually ends up falling on women in heterosexual relationships anyway because a lot of men are so used to being cared for by other feminine figures (aka mothers) that they don’t know how to care for others in the way they want. It’s why it can be so frustrating for women in relationships. Yes, you’ll do it if you’re asked but if they never ask, you never bother and your partner doesn’t keep that same standard for you. Women don’t want to have spoon feed their partners and teach them how to love them, that’s not her responsibility.

[Asker]

You completely misunderstood my question.

I love spending quality time with the one l love, l just refuse to be rushed into getting the day started.

Or being emasculated in public, private or around family.

As far as being seen as some momma’s boy, l never got along with my mother when she tried to “care” for me.

I DO NOT look to the woman l love into being my MOMMY.

In fact, l have no expectations of having the woman l love being barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen.

I buy groceries, l cook, l clean, l do laundry. I pay attention to the needs of those around me and work to fulfill them. But l will not do so in a way that I feel rushed or criticized or under appreciated. I need clear, communication on what her plans are. Even if it is something l am not thrilled about, l will sacrifice out of love and to see her happy.

I am not controlling. I do not intend on attempting to dominate all of her time. She can spend her time away from me in ways that are respectful to me and l will do the same.

If the woman l love can’t accept the above, then and only then do l stop doing those things.

Don’t attempt to control or criticize how l do things. Because, if l were to ever start doing the same to the one l love, it wouldn’t be in such a loving, understanding way!!!

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Who said anything about being emasculated?

[Asker]

When women become pushy, unappreciative, fixated on how her man should do things a certain way, offended when her man stands his ground, uses sex as a reward or punishment, and/or attempts to order us around in public, private or around family, that is emasculating.

No, you did not mention emasculation, but to men, every example l gave, appears to us, that this is a woman’s motive.

Over the course of relationships and marriage, most, NOT ALL women, feel the need to make their man bend to a woman’s will, and weak men allow it.

When men refuse to be disrespected, then the tension and resentment towards the woman we fell in love with, fractures that love.

Sure, there are weak, lazy, unmotivated men out there, but it is not a secret that men will hide and then, later, spring it on the women they love once she becomes committed to him. In fact many women are aware and see these men as being easier to live with than men that are argumentative and don’t take no shit.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Women do indeed have the power in sexual relationships, and it’s ideal that it be respected. You got a whole other thing going on tho

[Asker]

I tried for 18 years to love, respect and to show appreciation towards my ex wife, but l finally reached my breaking point. I have also watched my mother over the past 40 years, from time to time, try to bend my step dad to her will. I respect him in that he chooses what battles to fight and when to let go of the small things.

I also love and respect my mother and work really hard in my efforts to bite my tongue when my mother still sees me as being her child. Again, like my step dad, l know when to just ignore those little things and when to respectfully hold my ground with her.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Ahhh, you’re a divorcee, that explains a lot

[Asker]

I met a woman some time ago at her job. It was one of those situations where l had to make two appointments a week, for health reasons, we got to know each other. She was separated from her husband. We exchanged numbers and once l no longer needed those appointments, l never saw or heard from her again. When she was tending to me, l would flirt. She would nag me about my health, praise me for being in overall good health and generally voiced her concern for my wellbeing being and used piddly shit to express her desire not to physically cause me pain. She quickly grew on me. She had a seven month old daughter with her husband.

After not hearing from her for a while, l started stalking her Facebook. Turns out that the reason never heard from her was she ended up pregnant again by her husband. I then started stalking her husband’s Facebook, l created a fake account and started liking and commenting on a post or two of his. Then l basically got on the subject about how she was giving him a second chance, that l was on his side and he didn’t need to fuck it up again. I did this in purpose. I have lived with crazy before and knew if l triggered him, he would relapse back into alcohol abuse. I wanted this woman to see if he was full of shit with his transformation. Well, l did trigger him. He must’ve done something bad because it the consequences sent him back into recovery and seeking Gods help with that recovery.

This woman’s need to care for the man she loves and chooses to have children with is a rare personality trait. So much so, l was willing to step in, intervene a bit even at a loss to me. With her loving personality she briefly exposed to me, l couldn’t help but to see that she would hopefully be happy with him. Her concern for me is the same concern she has at seeing her husband getting the help he needs and sticking by him.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re not really expecting me to sympathize with you after you just admitted to stalking a woman for ghosting you, are you?

[Asker]

I hope you meant divorce’ - not divorcee’. There is a distinction between the two spellings.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You willfully destroyed a relationship just because she didn’t pick you, and you think you’re the good guy here?

[Asker]

No. Not expecting sympathy. And that is not truly stalking. It isn’t physically stalking and making her feel in danger. She knows l am not a stalker. I never once waited outside her place of employment like a bum looking for change. Or showing up at her job because l had been ghosted. Nor did l get a burner phone and call her from a different number and getting verbally abusive with her after she blocked me. I have better control over my emotions than that. I was never willing to make her feel unsafe towards me.

[Asker]

They are still married.

[Asker]

You really are only wanting to interpret what l wrote as me being hateful and jealous. So sad on your part.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If you say so, bro