How do you spot a cheater in a relationship?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

There’s many signs that someone cheating. Not all of them mean someone’s cheating, and the lack there of doesn’t mean someone isn’t. Every situation is different but there are definitely red flags.

Number one, they cheated before whether it was on you or it was on somebody else. The likely hood of them doing it again is very high.

Number two, extremes in intimacy either they’re getting it from somewhere else so they aren’t interested in sex like they used to be. It can also be that the overcompensate. Possibly if it’s a woman if she had unprotected sex she may want to jump into bed so if she gets pregnant it seems legitimate.

Number three, resentful. If your significant other is seemingly angry and you cannot figure out a reason why. It could be because they’re resenting you. Maybe they found someone who they believe is showing them something you never did. So now they’re angry with you. It could also be that if they’re not a complete narcissist they’re feeling guilty, shameful, remorseful, or maybe just regretful over what they did.

Number Four, being overly defensive. If you ask someone if someone says “I went to hang out with friends” a normal person when asked questions would have no problem saying what they were doing, who they were with, and the list goes on. If they all the sudden get defensive and get angry “why are you asking” or “its none of your business” look out. Because there’s probably something they don’t want you to know. Another thing is being defensive with the phone. Defensive over who you talk to if someone knows something they are worried they will tell you.

Number five, if their friends are cheaters. More then likely if their friends are notorious for this don’t expect her/him to be any better. Especially if they talk about their significant others behind their back, degrading them, complaining, the list goes on. You can only imagine what’s said about you when you’re not around.

Number six, there’s weird behavior around a certain person. It could be anyone but as a example. Let’s say you have a mutual friend named Mike. Your girlfriend and Mike used to be very normal around one another. Now things seem…. Weird. Maybe something else is going on but it’s suspicious. For a woman maybe there is Anna and all the sudden she’s acting weird and your guys acting weird around one another.

Number 7, people try to tell you. Maybe you can play it off as hearsay if someone says something. But if multiple people especially their own friends that your partner is cheating. It’s probably true. Even if they blow it off and make excuses.

Number 8, your significant other tells you. That one sounds obvious but some people get into such denial they refuse to believe it. Or think that you can move past it.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

If they talk shit behind their partners back and put them down and belittle them , they keep their distance from them as much as possible , when their partner isn’t around , they act like they are single and flirting with the opposite sex like crazy.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I trust until im given a reason not to. So i guess it could be based on if he looked at other women while around me (thankfully none of my exes were idiot enough to do that other than the very first boyfriend i had). It could also be based on his body language and wording with other women when i wasn't around. Now this, almost all of them were idiots. Men just dont realize how much us girls KNOW eachother. We dont have to be friends to rat on eachothers man. Even when we’re not testing you (which is so HS so i try not to do that anyways), still assume its a test. We’re ALWAYS watching/listening and will find out lol

Pinkflowers400 · Accepted Answer

+ If they have no pictures of you on social media, they’re trying to make sure they look single. Also if they follow a lot of the gender they’re attracted too, they’re looking for the next person.

+ If you know well enough about them. People with low self esteem tend to cheat. Because they crave validation.

+ I also believe you have to listen to your gut instincts. Like why am I questioning if they’re cheating? Have I’ve been cheated on in a past relationship so I’m projecting on this new one? Is their behavior odd? And then go from there.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Spicing things up with a bit of insight, huh? Catching a cheater can be like being a love detective in your own romance thriller. Here are some clues to look out for: if they're suddenly overprotective of their phone, it's a bit like they're guarding the royal jewels—something's up. Their schedule becomes as mysterious as a magician's secrets, poof! Suddenly they have 'work' at the oddest hours. Oh, and if they start grooming themselves like they’re about to walk the red carpet but you're just chilling at home, eyebrows should be raised. Also, watch for the emotional distance; if it feels like you're planets apart instead of cozy lovers, there might be a new star in their galaxy. Remember, these signs aren't a surefire indictment, but they're definitely reasons to have a heart-to-heart. Keep it flirty but earnest; it’s all about getting to the heart of the matter. 😉

DishLady · Answer

Some are easy to spot while others are more subtle. Someone with a roaming eye is pretty obvious, but some folks camouflage their interests intentionally and covertly flirt via text, private calls and so on.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Has he or she been committed to anything? Not people. But life. Are they impulsive- start projects without finishing them, dive into new things and abandon them after getting bored?

When they’re quick to replace that new toy or car or whatever, or just let things sit without finishing; how do you think they’ll treat you?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Unexplained, unprompted changes in your partner's behavior are almost never a good thing for you. If she's been letting herself go for the last 5 years, but now suddenly she cares a lot about her body without you or a doctor saying anything or doing anything different (like if you start going to the gym more often); she's not doing it for you, my friend.

spartan55 · Answer

Spot a cheater? By the big 'C' tattooed on their forehead.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Wait a minute what cheating anyways? Let’s talk about cheating. Is it a kiss a drink or a grab? What’s everyone’s thought on cheating what is it?

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Thank you not for the  lack of context , you're killing me lol 😆 Update !! please haha

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Were I in a bar (I don't go to youth-oriented Downtown Windsor bars lest I seem out of place at age 71), I'd suspect an (especially) older dude who looks grandfatherly-I still have my boyish good looks-but is hitting on the youngest chicks.

Ladsin2 · Answer

The guy holding hands with the other girl is cheating. Easiest one yet.

paledreams · Answer

Overly sexual women, mental issues etc potentially observed

OtterMan68 · Answer

secretive, paranoid, disappears for a time with no notice

NathanDavis · Answer

probably... the one being yelled at

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Actively dissing a partner is a sympathy play.

thegreenyogi · Answer

If he always seems distant I suppose...

jahaims · Answer

They are insecure attention seekers

Anonymous · Answer

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