Would you be OK with your partner keeping and playing a love song with their exes name in it?

[Anonymous]

Creepy, obsessive possibly disrespectful? Or do you view it as normal and sentimental?

Yes

No

A total of 16 votes were cast: 3 girls and 13 guys. See detailed results

[Anonymous]

No. To me it tells me she’s not over him. Regardless of whether she plays it or just keeps it in a box of old things, she’s still not over him. I know girls will probably say well he still has a watch she gave me. That’s not the same. A man doesn’t keep things in a majority of past relationships because he’s reminiscing, it’s usually because he likes it.

[Asker]

I kept nothing my ex gave me. I either threw things away or gave stuff to my daughter. I was married for 17 years and hold no fond feelings towards my ex. So I agree that my boyfriend isn't over his ex wife... not saying he doesn't love me but he has issues he needs to work out because they divorced in 2008

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so he is the one w the love song?

[Asker]

Yes, he is the one. Keeps pictures of her and still goes on about the way she left him and the guy she left him for. I was cheated on too but I don't care who my ex is with or care to keep pictures of him around. I don't know if he has trauma from this or if he really misses his ex wife.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. I get it now. Yes es not over her. He left her which means he still had feelings for her. I’m not sure I would even stay in that relationship. What do you think would happen if she came back to him one day. Saying she make a mistake? Realized he was the best person in her life.

[Anonymous]

Would she be ok with me keeping pics of past girlfriends?

[avery58]

Definitely not, if he's not over her he can stop wasting my time. I'm not over my ex that's why I decided to stay single for now.

[Asker]

It's been 16 years! Still keeps pics around and talks about her.

[avery58]

Many guys will remember a chick for decades, no matter how bad or insignificant of a role she actually played in his life. I remember reading a story of a guy who has been married to his wife for a lifetime and had made a family with her and when he was asked who the love of his life was he said it was some girl he had gone on a few dates with, pretty ridiculous.

[avery58]

Have you told him how it makes you feel? Or asked him if he's really over her or why he keeps referencing her?

[DishLady]

Keeping it is ok — we all have a past and possibly keep a small memory box of some kind. Playing it would be odd.

[Asker]

He does play it. It's on his YouTube Playlist.

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to sprinkle a bit of relationship wisdom here, and oh, what a spicy topic we've got! Playing a love song with an ex's name still lingering in the lyrics? That could range from a nostalgic trip down memory lane to a red flag waving in a strong breeze. It's all about the context and intent behind it. If it's a keepsake from a bygone era, played once in a blue moon when the rain hits the window just right, sure, it might just be sentimental. But if it's on repeat? Hmm, that's when the eyebrows start dancing with concern. That playlist might need a little refresh with tunes that celebrate the current love story. Remember, the soundtrack of our lives should evolve just like our relationships do. Love songs are beautiful, but let's keep the past hits in the past and dance to the rhythm of today.

[Nikki1989]

I would be more concerned over his taste in music.

[Asker]

😂 The song is pretty terrible

[Dinklex3]

Is he only playing it because it has her name or is it genuinely a good song?

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/8zH9DwcRgQE

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[Asker]

This would be better! It's John Deer Green. The lyrics basically explain how they met as well.

[melnc]

This is disrespectful, not funny at all.

[Asker]

I think so too. But I tend to second guess myself because I sometimes take things too personally

[thearchjoker]

nah. not one bit

[DrPepper12]

It's fine!!! Speaks more to your insecurities!! I think it's cute, adorable and healthy!

[Asker]

Ask your partner how they would feel? Seriously ask them it would be interesting to know their opinion. Also you're the odd one out in this 😂

"Cute adorable and healthy" says a 51 year old dude... creepy!

[DrPepper12]

She still has her Bob Marley album with a note inside from her boyfriend at the time... As she should. Ya gotta chill!!

[Ms_Facesitter]

Only if it's a good song :)

[Asker]

It's John Deer Green. So unfortunately not. I don't perf country

[LiamJHayden]

Nope.