Well I am not a fan of having personal sex videos because you don't know where they will end up. But if I found out a future partner had a sex video saved from the past I'd be OK with it. It's not like she was doing it while we were together.
I do know a guy who had nude photos of his ex-girlfriend who he dated before he met his wife. After he got married, his wife found them and asked about them. So he explained that was the lady he was dating before he met her, and she was cool with it.
The answer is delete the video. I would also be incredibly hurt that he didn't delete the video when he "committed" to me.
There are millions of porn videos he can wank off to, but the problem with exes is that it was more than a fantasy. He was able to be a "part of himself" that he wasn't with me and to be able to visit memory lane that easy is selfish, and its destructive to the relationship to be able to "escape" into an idealization of an ex. When you commit, you should be valuing what you have in front of you.
Man this post is quite a touchy subject. In my case, it wasn't really a sex tape -- just my girlfriend and her ex kissing. My god, that picture damned me to my very soul. I felt hurt (more like I let myself get hurt). Now if that case was a sex tape, I will probably had left already. That video will have stricken me the more I choose to stick around.
If you ask yourself the same question that you're asking users of GAG and then find out you don't like that idea, then we have a common denominator: zero tolerance.
I get it what they did in the past is the past, but somewhere in the back of your mind, it's going to be there shackling you to that image (I know for myself it has). I am sort of transcending that now.
Everybody has a choice to keep whateva they feel like. Yes this is quite odd but it's their choice and I don't want to be in such a micro management in a relationship. Just will ask her once, if the answer would be convincing. I will never ask her again..
1. If He/she has intimacy video of their ex with them, it (maybe) means that he/she is just collecting all intimacy videos with all partners to Create a collection and misuse them later. 2. Maybe he/she never really moved on from their ex and there is still a chance that they may go back to them. And the current partner was just another distraction, until things get normal.
It depends? If its just a video she has on her phone just because i would find it weird cuz i personally think when you end you realationship with someone all your old photos of them should be gone so it would bug me a little but i wouldn't leave them but if they had the video because they still have feelings for them or thwy miss their ex then fuck that she's gone im not gonna fight for you thinking about another man all the time, I've done it before and never again
I had a sex video of my ex and my current wife found it. I had forgotten all about it she was going though some old hard drive and see it. Thinking I was saving it she asked hey found a video. We watched it had sex and she deleted it
Just one of those things, isn't it? Not ideal, but happens.
I take a cumulative approach. If there's something I don't like, I can handle it. If there's mounting sexual things I don't like, then generally that's too much for me.
That would be weird seeing as they've been broken up for 7 years. I'd probably assume he'd forgotten about it and just address it to him and have him delete it.
No. Like, if you make a sex video when you were two together, okay, that's fine, but if you break up, I expect you to have deleted it by now. I get the past is the past but that doesn't mean I need a glimpse of it.
I wouldn't stick around, mainly because well, I've been with my wife 10 years and before that she was with her late boyfriend, and if she still has videos of anyone before her late boyfriend, I'd be concerned.
If they did this while we were in a relationship and whatout me knowing, I'd dump. If before we got together, I wouldn't care much cause it's just their sex life.
I wouldn’t care at all, what’s they did before me doesn’t really matter because it’s not gonna really affect us unless I let it get to my head which would lowkey be pointless in my opinion.
I faced this recently, with a friend of mine. She told me that she had a sex tape of her and her ex that she still has, because it's just a peace of the past, that can't simply be discarded as it could be seen by anyone. As long as you don't watch it while in a relationship, I guess it's supposed to be okay.
Yeah I would. It would depend on the circumstances, but I would also hope they would be willing to delete it if I wanted them to. I'm not sure that I would or not though. Imagine if you dates someone who made adult films for a living. It seems unreasonable to ask them to delete all of their content, in that case.
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