Guys, I need an opinion. Am I my own worst enemy or is my relationship not working out anymore?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone, my relationship seems like it’s going down the drain very quickly and i hate it. So here’s the problem. For years, i’ve been nagging him about instagram, about why he liked girls bikini pictures and why he follows them. a year ago he has stopped but i still nag him about it so I've noticed that he doesn't take me out on dates, so yes you guessed it, i nag about that too. so i nag him about everything so he has pushed away. For the past two weeks I've noticed that he doesn’t call me or text me anymore, i have to call or text and when he answers he is quiet and doesn’t want to talk. We used to be happy and obsessed with each other but recently it’s not the same anymore. So here are a few things that have changed as of recent: 1- i don’t have any friends (the group of friends i had stopped talking to me) 2- i dont don’t do any of my hobbies anymore. 3- i just don’t have any motivation to do anything but stay home after i come home from work. my sister and my mom went to Disney the past weekend and i didn’t enjoy it as much as i would have hoped i did because my mind was occupied with him
and why he doesn’t call or text. also since im in such a bad headspace with everything and IF he invites me to go to his house i won't go knowing that all we would do is be at his house not really doing anything. i would watch tv and he would be doing stuff around the house or on his phone. I don't know if im the reason the relationship is not working or if the relationship isn’t. someone please help me

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Yep, it looks like you're not having it easy right now :/

There is no simple answer here, from what I read you are disconnected from each other, which is one possible outcome of long lasting relationships, when bonding finds no ways to be expressed anymore. You describe him going his own way and maybe it is really what he wants or maybe you can reconnect on what's been lost. A bond cannot maintain itself or else it's friend-romance which is common but that's not my point, if there is no sharing then the romantic bond declines.

Since you describe yourself as disconnected from friends and hobbies, you are probably in a mild depressive phase, and that is another topic, it is connected to your relationship, but it has to be considered separately or else everything becomes confusing.

What did you do together when this bond was strong? That's for your relationship
Why are you going away from your hobbies, according to you? That's for you

[Truthatanycost]

Being obsessed is not a good thing and never was. I only spend time with people that bring peace and most guys are the same. Your nagging is not bringing peace and his looking at Instagram girls is no good either. The problem is that sometimes people don't realise when they are better off without another due to that obsession...

[AI Opinion]

Diving right into the heart of it, love, it sounds like both you and your relationship are dancing a tango of challenges. The nagging, ah, that can be a pesky little gremlin eating away at the love vibe, can't it? It's like you're X-raying every move, and that can put anyone on edge. Not to mention, it can turn the love boat into the ghost ship pretty fast. 🚢💔 But hold up, before you cast yourself as the villain in your love story, let's sprinkle a bit of understanding here.

The shift from being each other's obsession to where you are now suggests the sparks have dimmed, and darling, it's not all on you. Relationships are a two-way street, needing fuel from both sides to keep the engine running smoothly. It seems like you've hit a rough patch where your hobbies, friends, and that zest for life got lost in translation. Reviving these aspects of your life can be the jumpstart you need, not just for your relationship, but for you, too.

Your situation screams for a chat, not the nagging type, but a heart-to-heart where both of you can lay your feelings on the table without guards up. Communication is the key to unlocking those doors you both might feel trapped behind. Also, reigniting your own sparks—hobbies, friendships, and passions—can bring back that glow that attracted you two in the first place.

Remember, it's never just one person's 'fault'. It takes two to tango, and sometimes, to untangle. Your focus now? Bringing back the love for yourself and using that as a compass to guide your relationship. Who knows? You might just find those lost sparks along the way. 🔥💖

[Makeushiver]

Well you admittedly say you've nagged him. If you make your point clearly, you don't need to reiterate it. It sounds like he might be trying to avoid the constant complaining- if it is common.