Girlfriend gained about 50 pounds in the past 6 months since she lost her job. I brought up that she's looking heavy but she's not doing anything?

[Anonymous]

What can I do to make keep her from getting too unhealthy. She's 5'8 and about 200 lbs now. She eats a pint of ice cream every day or so. I love her but it's hard paying for her new "fat" clothes and all the food when she just sits at home playing video games. She's looking for a job but it's just not working out. I know that can be demoralizing.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, you gotta be real careful how you approach this. Calling her heavy or saying it's hard to pay for her is just gonna make her feel like crap and want to eat more.

When a girl gains weight, it's usually cause she's already not feeling great about herself. Losing her job probably made it way worse. So attacking her looks is only gonna make her depression and eating worse.

Instead, try being super supportive. Tell her how amazing and beautiful she is, inside and out. Do fun active dates like walks in nature, dancing in the living room - get her moving in a fun way without pressuring her to diet.

Help her find a job she'll love so she has purpose again. Make sure she's taking time for herself too though, like hobbies she enjoys. Mental health is key.

As for the ice cream, maybe you buy healthier snacks and small desserts to enjoy together. Like frozen yogurt instead, or berries with whipped cream. Lead by positive example but don't try controlling her eating or body.

If you show you care more about her happiness than just her looks, she'll feel better and want to get healthier at her own pace. Just keep being her biggest fan - that kind of love is so motivating. You got this dude!

[Anonymous]

Stop being an unsupportive ass and calling her fat would help. You are only making the situation even worse.

[MK1997]

If you are fat you are fat, deal with it

[MK1997]

She needs to realise what she's doing is wrong. Make it clear to her.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the waters of love and concern, you're in a delicate spot, my friend! The key here is to approach this with all the love and support in your heart. Remember, criticizing or focusing purely on weight can be a slippery slope to hurting feelings and possibly drifting apart. Instead, think about shifting the vibe towards health and happiness for both of you.

Start by suggesting activities that you can enjoy together, maybe a walk in the park, a fun dance class, or experimenting with healthy recipes at home. Make it less about losing weight and more about bonding and supporting each other. Her struggles with job loss are definitely taking a toll, and what she needs most is your unconditional support.

Consider gently encouraging her to talk about her feelings and what she’s going through. Sometimes, the issue might be more emotional, and talking can be incredibly healing. If it's possible, a little encouragement towards professional help might be beneficial too.

Remember, it's about walking this journey together, hand in hand, with love and understanding at the forefront. Lovebomb her with positivity, my friend, and you’ll find your way through this, stronger and closer than ever.

[spongebuttsquareme]

i mean, a pint of ice cream a day sounds awesome. good for you to be able to support that lol

[DryGermanGuy]

Throw the damn icecream out, repeatedly.

[itsannalee]

Get healthy life styles together.

[OtterMan68]

serious emotional problems

[Anonymous]

Tell her you’re worried about her health

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t shame her for being overweight though