If you were to start a relationship from scratch, what mistakes would you avoid?

[gayesblog]

I mean, what key aspects would you focus on to ensure a healthy and fulfilling connection with your partner? Would you prioritize communication, trust, shared values, or mutual respect? How would you approach building a strong foundation and nurturing emotional intimacy from the beginning? What mistakes would you avoid?

[Anonymous]

I think what my last two relationships taught me is that I want a very strong woman who I don't have to worry about her so much and woman naturally want the man to be the leader so it's almost like I need to almost make the next one earn that spot.

Where before it was almost like I was letting the other person take the wheel from time to time and being there for the save if needed and that's how I was trying to find that person. I need to completely be in charge and slowly trust her with different things so the respect for that position is built up over time.

It's very hard now because society has framed relationships in such a shitty way. So I think the big mistake to avoid for me is being hyper focused on rushing to that stage where we are perfectly in sync. I already learned I can do that with people. Instead, focusing more on strengthening the foundations of the relationship and identifying them early on.

I think that would lead to both of us respecting it more

[LiamJHayden]

i would try to avoid my usual mistake, which is being quick to end the relationship at the first sign of major conflict. For all my pontificating about the need for good conflict resolution skills, my own can be quite lacking in romatic relationships.

[Simslover92]

It's funny you ask this question because my ex and I are starting from scratch and I think what needs to be different is definitely communication needs to be better more so on my end than his. Being more actively present and actually hearing the person out and not trying to just get out my own thoughts and feelings. Taking his feelings into consideration and listening to his issues instead of just thinking that mines are so much worse than his. Being more secure in myself and not depending on him to be my security blanket.

It's going to take a lot of work to reach a point where my depression doesn't take a toll on the relationship. I have to do a lot of introspection and a lot of work on myself before we can get to the point of being in a relationship again but I'm willing to do the work to get there because he's so worth it.

[exitseven]

Holey Moley.

[Simslover92]

What?

[Simslover92]

@exitseven just being honest.

[exitseven]

I hope it works out for you.

[Simslover92]

Thank you. I hope so too.

[devilish-cutie]

Being afraid to say no to not hurt my partner and holding to my boundaries strongly no matter how i feel about them and how strong is the chemistry

Counting on them to think about me first and respect me and my feelings; Id count on myself to set those standards

Think about other person more than myself

Trusting their opinion/judgement more than mine

Not taking things sexually slower

I generally always am good at communicating, being honest and open, going for someone with shared values for sure.

[AI Opinion]

I'm all about igniting the spark and keeping it sizzling while steering clear of those pesky downpours. 😘 In the land of love, communication is the crown jewel. I'd make it my top pick to nurture an unbreakable bond. Transparency and understanding are key; they're like the secret ingredients in your grandma's love potion. 😏 Trust follows suit—it's the glue that keeps the castle standing. Without it, we're just building on quicksand.

Now, don't get me started on shared values and mutual respect—absolute must-haves! Imagine them as the matching tattoos of your relationship; they signify something profound and shared. The process? It's all about laying one brick at a time, making every moment count, sprinkling in doses of emotional intimacy, like slow-dancing in the kitchen on a Monday night.

Mistakes? Being complacent is the villain in our love story. Avoid it like it's the last slice of pizza and you're on a diet. Ghosting on communication or lovebombing only to crash? Big no-nos. Keep the love fresh, the talks deep, and the laughter loud. Here's to love without regrets! 💑✨

[sean1234]

Ai? Come again?

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I would avoid erasing myself, and I would place a higher value on my perspective on things. I am realizing that I have a valid perspective and valuable life experience now. It's reassuring and confidence-building, too.

I also tend to think everything is my fault when there is a conflict. But, I'm learning that most of the time, a collaboration can be reached in disagreements (shocker, I know). I'd look for someone who wants me as I am, not for the role I can play in their life.

[NathanDavis]

I'd go about it just the same... as I've never considered any relationship a mistake, nor a failure...

I however, would go about it a bit differently... and I'd make sure that wherever it happens, we're both going to stay for good, and not possible move out half the world away... lol

[lightbulb27]

must protect the relationship emotionally, protect her emotions.

learn her love language

don't waste time

[Nikki1989]

I wouldn't bother with anyone that seems like hard work. The best relationships seem effortless and happen naturally.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Id be more open that I want marriage, children, and a one income household with homeschool/alternative schooling.

Other than that things are down to the individual

[Anonymous]

I'd look into her past. Her past relationships are a good indication of how she will behave in a future relationship.

[noohair]

You are not constructing a building. This is a combination of two distinct humans and it does not go together like a puzzle.

[gag6474]

actually have something going on for myself like education or job before jumping in to relationship without having any money

[Walksbehindtherows]

I wouldn't have a relationship with an atheist because atheists have no loyalty

[Anonymous]

Several. But I'd make other ones instead. It would probably still end the same way.

[natured]

STARTING IT !!!

[exitseven]

I would not be so closed off.

[paledreams]

Picking the wrong woman ♀️

[rienna888]

Probably being too jealous and insecure

[Meropatrick]

Choosing the right person. goes a long way

[ThatGuyAaron]

All of them, ideally.

[Crazzyyworld]

Sex and money is all we want believe it!

[Tashaaaaa]

Avoid guys my age lol

[BigbNikki]

Telling someone to much to soon

[magiusX26]

dating

[EnjoytheDay777]

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