What are the keys to being a good partner in a relationship?

[Justneedtokno]

We always talk about what we want in a relationship, but we never actually do the work to be a good partner to that person that we want.

I think I need a lot of work, especially how to treat the person that I want.

Due to the past, I don’t think I even know how to open up or understand a person that actually likes me now

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

The question might not be how to be a good partner, because a good partner is just a role, and a role is not you. Reading between the lines of your past, your question seems to be: How to trust someone again? On this aspect, you already know that this answer isn't simple. It's a very intimate question, usually a question addressed in therapies, given the complexity involved here

[Justneedtokno]

Well, that is a very good way defining it

[Justneedtokno]

I feel like I’m already doing that and I’m already going to therapy, allowing myself to be open, but I already keep backing away from the possibility of heartbreak

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Which makes perfect sense, if I read you right, to back away... Until it's not necessary anymore, until you are ready again, stable enough, to push forward and risk heartbreak. Because there is no love possible without carrying this risk

[Justneedtokno]

Do you simply think that at this point in life it should be transactional and look for stability financial instead of love where there is no risk of heartbreak. Or at least Service.

[MicahRaine]

• Communication: without good communication, a relationship will not grow or be able to work through issues and heal.
• Commitment: without true commitment, you will "survive" in the relationship rather than thrive.
• Honesty: a good relationship needs a lot of honesty and openness so that issues can be identified and healed.

[Justneedtokno]

Thank you very precise

[MicahRaine]

Of course :)

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the art of being an irresistible partner is like learning to salsa – it's all about the rhythm and understanding your partner's steps. It starts with communication; keeping those lines open, so you both can tango through any scenario. Empathy is your dance floor – try standing in their shoes, feeling the music from their perspective. It builds a connection that's deeper than just grooving side by side.

Patience is your beat. Sometimes, we step on each other's toes, and that's okay! It's about learning from those missteps and moving more in sync next time. And let's not forget about trust, the spotlight that lets your partner shine, knowing they can twirl freely because you've got their back.

Lastly, sprinkle a dash of personal growth into the mix. It’s like adding that flashy spin to your dance – it shows you're committed not just to your partner, but to becoming the best version of yourself.

If you've been guarding your heart due to past experiences, remember, opening up is like learning a new dance routine. It may be awkward at first, but with practice, it becomes a beautiful expression of who you are together. So, lace up those dance shoes and get ready to show them your moves!

[ohsheeT]

. I didn't think I would ever hear this question isn't it amazing you hear all these questions about relationships on here and something so simple that people don't comprehend it they don't do it

Or if they do they don't do it well enough

A relationship is like everything else in life if you want it to be good you have to make it good you have to sit down and say hey this is what I want this is what I need what do you want what do you need let's make this happen for the both of us

Instead of assuming that you know what the other person needs and they know what you need because that doesn't seem to work there's usually an argument about those needs. But if you were to talk about them communicate about them... And acknowledge them with some sort of deal I think there would be less divorces or happiness and just more better people in this world

[hahahmm]

First you need to be with someone who knows what they want and that cannot simply be sex. In today's western world fewer & fewer people know what they want because the social norms were diminished/weakened. These people also may think they know & then change their minds where changing their minds means dumping you.

I believe the traditional ways were best in almost all cases. It's a roadmap for how to get from the start to the finish. Now everybody is wandering around in circles and claiming that maps are too restrictive.

So all of the answers are in the past. And I think you've seen some of my mytakes before but the one on Trust is especially relevant, I'd say.

[Billlewis]

For me, that means doing anything and everything imaginable to make her happy, comfortable and sated.

[DizzyDesii]

Just depends on the terms that you and your partner come to agree on. For some that is commitment and what qualifies as cheating or not… honesty and what is okay as a white lie or deemed as being too bluntly honest… and so on

[ProbablyClueless]

Active communication, being supportive, spending time together.

[NathanDavis]

- be genuine... to yourself, and your partner

- communicate

- dedicate and reciprocate

- honey butter biscuits