Do you think it's better to give out silent treatment to avoid saying hateful things?

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Ok no human is perfect. Not all but some people allowed anger to control them and people will say things or do things out of anger. I am one of those people I will admit I will not sit here and say hey everybody look at me I am perfect. Uh No not at all. I have learn in difficult hard situations or circumstances in life it is best to cut off contact or stay silent in order to avoid saying hurtful hateful things of course when why can't control anger. My anger was one of theain reasons I got into fights in highschool. I always wonder if other people have done the silent or NC thing. What do you?

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Neither option is good but I genuinely feel that sometimes people need to walk away to calm down before it leads to that type of thing. There are some things that once said you just cannot take back. But people do need to communicate and not go days without talking that is also very toxic.

To be perfectly honest if not so kind thoughts are festering in somebody’s mind it’s either better to communicate it even if it hurts or just break off the relationship because I can promise that unless it’s dealt with. It will come out in other ways and cause major problems especially resentment. But when you’re so angry and fighting for the upper hand sometimes the heat of the moment things can come out.

No relationship will be perfect but being able to communicate as well as know when to walk away for a little bit, it's also important to know when something just isn’t going to work out. This unfortunately does happen a lot when some people aren’t even bad they just aren’t meant to be with one another. But they think they can change one another and it causes problems. Other times someone’s genuinely toxic but they stay thinking they’ll change. Miserable.

I will walk away before I say horrible things, but I will eventually have a conversation even if it’s a hard one to have. If I have horrible things just festering to be honest I shouldn’t be with that person anymore.

noohair · Accepted Answer

Saying nothing is the ultimate power.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I’ve actually stayed silent and then I got challenged into talking when I couldn’t exactly avoid leaving the situation/ area, so I talked slowly and as technical as possible. I don't know if just somehow really helped me, so if I can’t go with avoidance, I think I’ve gotten really good at being able to really just address! Things… and Express! / Vocalize my thoughts, feelings, or intentions- whichever is more appropriate for that conversation. Like if it’s more business, then I’d express intentions than feelings 😂 You know formal vs informal. I don't know it gets really simple after a while. 👍 💯

But in order to get to that point, I think avoidance/ silence is best. Not taking impulsively can be a life saver. It can save many lives including and not just your own! 😂

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you it's a good way to avoid getting into conflict. There's nothing wrong with that. I used to bottle up and go quiet rather than make or risk conflict. It's not really the most healthy though. If possible it's best to not react in the moment but think how you can approach the person with calm and diplomacy and explain how you feel. Or what triggered you about their behaviour or whatever it was. Context here tho is important. It's not worth reacting in a situation that is unlikely to happen again. Such as say something happening with a stranger on the tube. Ignoring would be the better solution. But if it's in your work, family or friendship circles then saying something is better. But there's never reason to be mean in how you say it.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving straight into the heart of matters of love and conflict, my take is this: the silent treatment, while tempting, is a bit of a double-edged sword, isn't it? On one hand, taking a breather to cool off before you say something you can't take back is a smart move. It's like hitting the pause button on a heated movie scene—you know, just to catch your breath.

However, love, there's a fine line between cooling off and icing someone out. Communication is the soul food of a relationship. The silent treatment, if it drags on, can feel like a cold shoulder that's turning into a frostbite. It's about finding that sweet spot where you take your moment but then come back ready to talk with a clearer mind and a cooler heart.

Instead of ghosting into silence, how about sending a little love note saying, "Hey, I'm heated up and I might say something I'd regret. Let's hit pause and talk when cooler heads can prevail"? It shows you care enough not only about the argument but also about the person you're arguing with. So yes, take your moment but don't let the silence do the talking for you. Love, after all, is about overcoming those moments of crazy fury and finding your way back to each other, isn't it?

HollyK21 · Answer

Or you could learn how you communicate without saying hateful things. A lot of times that negativity is just a build up of emotions from not speaking on things when they both you, as they bother you. So then when you finally speak up, it’s like an explosion when it never needed to get that far in the first place.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

The funny thing is not many people can get under my skin to make me get super mad at them. I suppose boyfriend's do have a bit more power on my emotions, so I have had arguments when I would say shitty things. I have grown tho over the years and now, I just make sure I am okay, so if they piss me off I just go somewhere else to enjoy my time, if they talk to me I will still reply but it's just basic answers. I don't let myself get worked up anymore over something they don't even care about because they won't magically change just because I want them to care about something that I do.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Like @crimsyjo said, there is always this risk to  bottle up , even when you are convinced that you are  disengaging  like @peachypie93, it's really a  case-by-case basis  every time, inside us, to find the "right" approach in confrontational situations. Because, I agree with @hollyk21 you  could  be bottle up and discharge all this energy onto someone unrelated,  OR worse , to yourself, inside. But all of this is very theoretical, each one applies their formula that looks the best, given what is known and understood.  Conclusion: Relative . lol. Ey, I've sourced my minipaper, cited authors, okay, I forgot the time stamps !

Taniisokay · Answer

Giving someone silent is  worse then saying something bad.  Silent treatment means that you don't care about the situation or the person. Say something not bad things.  Say something.  Hear the person out and discuss the situation out.  Don't give you are wrong face when listening to them.  Let them Express themselves and then Express yourself too without ignoring their points. For more advice my dm is open.

idonotlikeyou · Answer

The silent treatment is a refusal to solve the problem. Don't say hurtful things if you don't want to tell them. But explain and resolve the issue.

bradley142 · Answer

Depends most of the time I walk off if it's not worth it

OddBeMe · Answer

Can depend. But like a former marching band guy, gotta have a spit valve.

Litoidiotalltalk · Answer

It’s amazing when a person does what’s right and fights for it

eagle1951 · Answer

i do it all the time

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Yes. I do believe so

Walksbehindtherows · Answer

Maybe just maybe

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