What’s the most surprising thing you’ve learned about yourself through your relationships?

[HawkPerception]

[Finchie40]

Just to focus on myself and love myself and treat her and love her the same way I want to be treated in return , I realized my love language is touch , I like a girl that wants me like I want her , that doesn’t hesitate to be in my arms , that doesn’t hesitate to want to be intimate and affectionate with me. When a girl starts withholding intimacy and affection from me , when she never did before , that immediately sends a red flag that something is wrong. especially if she isn’t giving me a valid reason as to why she no longer wants to be close to me. I will express my feelings of concern to her and if nothing changes , I am out. I realized life is too short to stay with someone that doesn’t want to give the same way they expect to receive in return , it needs to go both ways or the relationship is just a waste of time. If a a girl wants me to give her my heart , she needs to do the same in return or the relationship means absolutely nothing , it’s just turns into a convenience over anything else , when a girl starts treating me like a convenience she becomes my convenience as well. Learning to remove selfishness for your partner is hard for a lot of people to do , because we all have selfishness inside of ourselves , so if you can’t remove that selfishness for your partner , don’t expect them to do that for you. It needs to go both ways or that relationship will not survive period

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

I was a simp and a sucker. A white knight but the thing was my arrogance not my lack of confidence that fed my disorder. I thought I was the best thing since sliced bread and no woman who was only a six on a good day would take me for granted.

Bro, I picked low hanging fruit, an injured snake, peak stupidity. It fucked me up 6 ways from Sunday. Now, in my late 30s, I finally see that it was humility I needed more than confidence. Self-respect is born from humility.

[ProbablyClueless]

I care a lot more about feeling like a priority for my partner than I would have expected.

I'm not a particularly demanding person, but I need my partner to provide some kind of reciprocation/feedback/intentional communication. I think it's because I spent so much of my life getting blown off by people.

[Simslover92]

That I can become super clingy and codependent and lose focus on myself and other people in my life which only leads to disaster when the relationship fails.

[jackieistired]

That I can’t get over arguments. If I get mad on Monday, I’ll be mad about the same thing until Wednesday.

[PeachyPie93]

I lack empathy.. lol

[HawkPerception]

At least you're honest

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Idealism is a prison, when you don't question it.

[Hotboy_booblover]

That I am not good at maintaining relationships..
In fact I am very bad at the same

[ManInChains]

That I’ll always be the one cheated on

[Ironco]

That I give too much, compared to what I take or get.

[Dongie]

That I'm a nice guy and attracted mean women.

[PeterLegg91]

How easily jealous i get

[lightbulb27]

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