What did you learn about in your last relationship about yourself that you would not carry into the next one?

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For me, it's definitely being pushy and putting pressure on the relationship to move forward in a hurry. This time I will take things really slow and let it naturally progress. No talking about marriage or kids unless he brings it up first.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

To never be a sucker for any girl that is selfish that only thinks about what is best for herself without factoring in your feelings , so if she isn’t giving the same or equivalent that I am giving to her , then I no longer waste my time thinking Love will save the day , if she treats me like a convenience, she becomes my convenience as well , I no longer waste my time on selfish girls’ period. I don’t care how long we been in a relationship together if I all of a sudden no longer become her top priority , she will not be mine. There are plenty of girls’ out there that are looking for a guy that values relationships that want to be on the same page with each other , separating from my ex made me realize there are way better girls’ out there that value relationships that wear your shoes the same way they want you to wear theirs. So never settle for anyone that tries to write Sucker on your head. A relationship only works when both people are on the same page with each other , not one sided shot whatsoever.

QuestionObsession · Accepted Answer

That if it does not work, it is not meant to. So there is no reason to keep trying and hammering each other.

Abbycado · Accepted Answer

To really consider future implications. My previous boyfriend was a year older than me. So, he graduated and I had another year left.

It was a mutual and necessary breakup since he would go off to college. I don’t regret it, but I didn’t think about that when we got together.

Now, I make sure it is sustainable for the long term.

PrincessC16 · Accepted Answer

Well what I am learning in my current one, is to love myself. And always put my myself first.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the art of learning from past loves! It's beautiful when we embrace our own growth 🌱. In my previous experiences, I've realized that overthinking every little interaction can be a love-killer. This time around, I'll embrace those awkward silences and cherish each moment for what it truly is. Kiss those pressure tactics goodbye and let things flow like a breezy day at a California beach. Just remember, love often blossoms best when it’s not forced. 😉

DishLady · Answer

Stick to my guns about having a guy initiate everything from convos to invitations. I don't need the hassle followed by the sense of entitlement I recently faced.

TrueConfection · Answer

Never to date outside the 🇺🇸

MannMitAntworten · Answer

You approach is filtering men out. Which is not entirely a bad thing especially when your relationship pursuits do match up. Frankly, I wouldn’t abandon your methodology entirely. Perhaps bring it up more as a litmus test for future potentiality - or to see if you will be wasting your time moving forward.

As for what I learned through my last relationship about myself. With a bit of reflexion I come to terms with the realization that I seem to attract and involve myself with whirl-wind type women. What I mean is, she is excited, happy, visually in love, all in, all that jazz one moment then in an instant, poof, it ends - in a text. One moment we are inseparable (friends even think we are “adorable”), then a moment comes where I sense a change in her behavior and a week or two later a break up text appears. Which as side note, every single women you get involved with claims they would never end things in a text if to end things with you. I can tell you, that is a pile of steaming bison biscuits. They all still do. It is just another knife cut by them in their departure.

How to stop involving myself with such women …? Hell if I know.

NathanDavis · Answer

that maybe I shouldn't keep falling for wandering stars... but I'm a sucker for accents, lmfao...

but no really... I think I should just get into a relationship with someone and also at a place in which we BOTH want to stay and settle and keep it working for long, long, long term...

I think it's time, lol

Anonymous · Answer

To stick to my guns more. When stressed, my ex became controlling. And he would think that everything he did was ok. Like if I brought up an issue, he would become incredibly defensive. He would say sorry, but he hated confrontation. He was really insecure, but confident at the same time. I don't know. I ended up just putting up with shit.

spartan55 · Answer

"This time I will take things really slow"... riiiight.🙄😂

On_cloud_wine · Answer

I’ve never been in a relationship but that’s because I run away when someone starts expressing their feelings towards me

Bricealan · Answer

@simslover92 Being too open about my thoughts, and beliefs, more so about religion, and personal issues that may be controversial

sage2021 · Answer

Even if you are deeply in love with your partner, no more drug users or porn watchers!!

Booboolove69 · Answer

Definitely not to be so submissive and agreeable all the time

Nikki1989 · Answer

That 99% of men are not worth the drama.

exitseven · Answer

I would never date anyone that lived further than 100 miles from me.

Anonymous · Answer

Learn to shut my mouth during an argument and let the guy have the last words, it avoid him threatening to hit me.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

Only ever had the one relationship but if I ever have another one I'll deffo stand my ground and let it be one sided

Donalnichualla · Answer

That you never really know someone even after years of knowing them.

msc545 · Answer

I learned that I cannot manage a personality disorder like I thought I could.

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a relationship, so there was nothing to learn, besides the fact I have no luck with girls.

Anonymous · Answer

You can’t trust people you’ve known for a month or more cuz no matter how much time has passed they can still treat you like shit.

Anonymous · Answer

That Women Lie, Manipulate, They Will Use Whatever They Can To Get The Upper Hand, They Promise Full Communication Only To Not Communicate At All, Worst Mistake I Made Was To Marry Her…

Chely00 · Answer

About my sexuality.

Lilly1979 · Answer

Not to stay In an abusive relationship.

rebelkid · Answer

That I will put me first

Jay-_- · Answer

Don't move to fast.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I was too nice

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