I loved him with all my heart and he was my first, but things happened and I git to know that he had been lying about his personality all the time..(he told me he had never dated... had two ex... told me he doesn't do drugs.. saw a picture him smoking) but nevertheless he was like... he never told me those because I wouldn't like him then... which was true... but I fell in love with him that I ignored all the those things, because I've taught to never keep tracks of the wrongs... eventually he joined the navy and I had to keep missing him all the time... and it hurt me soo much... its so hard to love someone while he's away, since he's in the navy we get to talk once a week for 5 min or maybe not at all... so I decided to break up... but he's like..."you look beyond all my lies and flaws and you wanted to be with me... but the distance water you to break up with me ! Don't you think its wrong?" And tbh I miss him soo much... can someone tell me if I did the wrong thing or the right thing?
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1. If he respects you he wouldn't try to find ways to insult you for various things.
2. If he respected you he would distrust you and think you are a cheater and accuses you constant in sudden ways.
3. He wouldn't take advantage of you and pressure you into sex when you didn't want your first time with him.
4. If you realize you do not like the person anymore walk away don't waste your time if you hate the person
5. If he cared about you at all he wouldn't be trying to get with other girls while dating you or lying saying he loved you when he stop at that moment.
6. When you realize he crazy run away!
* Stop wishing that partner will change
* Always listen to your gut
* Learn to love yourself first and never rely on just your partner
* Stop idolizing and comparing others to partner
After break up to find some activities to do, meet new people in case to distract your mind. First two weeks I just wanted to eat and sleep because I felt really depressed, then I forced myself to go out, to meet new people, focus on things I'm interested in it helped a lot, then maybe after a month I made a good guy friend and learned that being single isn't that bad :)
My last relationship taught me no matter how you know someone you never truly know someone.
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This is an EXCELLENT question. Too many people drift from one relationship to another, repeating the same mistakes, because they don't pause to contemplate and learn their lessons.
In my last relationship, I learned about the benefit of being accommodating to an SO who has an abnormal need, concern, worry, etc. and that doing so creates a sense that my SO should do the same for me. I also learned that love should not be an excuse to ignore warning signs.
Patience and tolerance
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Long Distance Relationship, especially to a Husband I Still have Out in Egypt, is not Always... Best from the Rest.
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Happy Holidays. xxI wrote about it last night... hard lessons... https://www. girlsaskguys. com/relationships/a33759-the-thin-line-between-love-hate
I've had only one relationship and it's going toward the seventh year.
What it taught me is my believe always been correct.
If there be a true love. if you communicate well, if there be a the right balance of trust, respect and sacrifice. If you reach the right way of mutual communication, understanding and agreement. If you see and hear your partner. If you be honest, if you think right, do right and move right toward a relationship.
You won't have a single problem. There will be issues, ups and downs just like the waves of an ocean, but that's life. No matter in what condition,
fat, skinny, overweight, underweight, young, old, hairy, bald, tall, short, poor or rich always will stick to each other and will survive out of everything as "two".If we disagree on fundamental things (like kids for example) it's best to end it/pass up on it.
Physical attraction matters.
Also that I need someone with a higher than average sex drive and is at least a little kinky. I've yet to meet a girl who's been able to keep up with me and as much as that sounds like bragging, it really isn't. My sex drive has caused a ton of problems in my relationships. I highly doubt I'll come across someone who can match me and is also compatible personality wise but I'd like someone who can at least come close. I'm willing to pass on the vast majority of my kinks/fetishes for that.
Oh and if I feel and heck, even know my partner is being abusive, I need to leave that relationship pronto. Doesn't matter how much I love her. That's a lot easier said than done though.The most important thing I have learned in a relationship where you can't learn from the movies is this: don't keep a record of wrongs, improve yourself not them and forgive and trust in the Lord to bring you good and everything you need.
The thing is, in a relationship, you need to focus on yourself and bring yourself the kind of love you need. then you won't be so demanding on them to do it for you because they don't owe you anything. I get my self love from God, reading his words and trusting his words.
That's how my life words and why my relationship is lasting so long.
Oh and it also helps to know yourself more and know your partner more. Learn about their love language and their meyers briggs test scores.
above all. love is good, kind, and it benefits more of YOU than the other person some times is how I see it. You love them and you get the knowledge that you did good, it brings you peace. They don't have to accept love...Nothing, apparently.
I accidentally broke up a couple who wanted to go poly by including me. It was an unhealthy relationship to begin woth and I think that rollercoaster with me was what killed it. I decided to get out but it was already too late.
Now Im on the fence of dating another two people who are intimate wuth each other. The situation is completely different and they've been poly for years, but this one too isn't perfect now and Im experiencing a bit too many deja vu's. But Im in love and hoping for the best.if it meant to be, it meant to be
eventhough you've found the a good guy, he loves you, everything is great, you have a future plan for both of you etc, but if it's meant for you, you'll never together in the end, no matter what efforts you have. It's just not meant to beThat I shouldn't stay in toxic things for so long, meaning, what's wrong will never be right.
That some wrongs I shouldn't try to forgive.
That some signs are alarming and some deeds should be taken seriously and not brushed off.
That if a guy is a certain way, and I'm not-I shouldn't even enter a relationship with him.Your question is great.
My previous relationships taught me a lot. The last one taught me that I should never just be in a relationship with a man when I don't really have any feelings for him. I did this mistake. I was thinking I don't want to break his heart and I will love him one day. I was very wrong. I was 'analyzing' my feelings all the time. It was crazy. Eventually, I had to tell him about my struggle and had to end the relationship.That you can't make someone change who doesn't want to, and that trying is a waste of precious time. That you can only either accept things as they are or move on. To believe them the first time they show you who they are. That you have as much right to be happy and content as they do and to not put my own happiness second. But also when to back off and to be more respectful and appreciative of what they do for you.
That changing someone will never work! They wanted me to "help" change them and their toxic habits but in reality he would say he want to change and wanted me to help but in his heart he didn't feel the need to change.
I also learned that a lot about myself, that I am valuable and deserve someone that wants me and wants to treat me the way I deserve to be treated. ☺it taught me that, if something isn't what you truly want/need, let it go.
we were friends with benefits. but it was very obvious that he had feelings, and i wasn't ready for that; we dated for about 2 years, but i knew i had no future with the guy and that i had healed enough from my past to move forward into a normal, healthy adult relationship. so i ended it, and met my soulmate only 2 months later.That getting over someone sucks. Also, don't fall for someone too quickly. If you've been talking to someone for less than a month, don't trick yourself into thinking you know them. Never rely on someone else to make you happy. Don't get into a relationship if you don't love yourself.
I learnt that two emotionally damaged people shouldn't try to get into a relationship, because it won't last.
It wasn't a relationship per say, but we were "kind of seeing" (her coi-ass words) each other for about a year.
---I learned to not invest all my hope into one person, to be more open, to respect myself, and to not fall into a crush out of my lonliness so easily.my first and last rl taught me that we meet extraordinary people at the wrong time and we meet people that are extraordinary bcs we meet them at the right time
i met him in the wrong time i guess and it ended without fighting. others ended it for us. God bless them anyway they will pay for it one day1. History can repeat itself. And not in a good way.
2. Trust your gut no matter what.
3. I never believed this but age can be quite a difference.
4. Do not rely on anyone else but yourself.
5. Do not rush ( but somehow I can't seem to learn this one!. ).
I learned a lot in one guyThat i will never be able to trust again. That if a guy tells you he loves you and wants to build a future together and then dumps you 5 hrs later... over text after being together for 2 years... yeah my walls are sky high now... ain't nobody getting in for a long time if ever 😔
That being single is better for me. It was getting expensive and demanding, so I went back to being single and just learn to be content on my own. The relationship only lasted for around 2 months and I don't think I would ever bother to try to be in any relationships in the future.
People can be manipulative, and pessimism and constantly putting yourself down is only going to weigh down a relationship. Being mentally abused and putting up with it should never be an option an option and someone who does. Doesn't love you
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