How to Self Worth?

[Anonymous]

So...
Lately I've noticed that I have a lot of self doubt and low self esteem. It's something that generally happens in my head. Where I think other people are a better fit to lead my life. In my relationship I feel internally jealous of my partner and his girl friends. I question if there relationship is better than mine and that they make him happier... my mind goes to dark places and I convince myself he wants them and pictures them instead of me when we're together.
With my family I think they'd be better off if I was not me. If I was a more outgoing daughter or sister.
It's a feeling of self inflicted misery. It's hard to get out of and makes me feel as though I'm worthless.
I know I'm not a bad person and have many good qualities and am appreciated but there's always a voice inside my head that tells me I'm not good enough. I don't deserve what I have. I'm not sufficient for anyone and I'm better off alone.
How do I cope? How do I get better?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I totally get how you feel. It's so easy to get down on ourselves sometimes. But you have to remember that your self-worth isn't defined by how you compare to others - it comes from within!

A few things that help me when those negative thoughts start creeping in:

- Make a list of your good qualities. Things you're proud of or that others appreciate. Refer back to it whenever doubt creeps in.

- Be kind to yourself. Would you talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself in your head? Treat yourself with compassion.

- Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself through their words and actions. Distance from anyone who drags you down.

- Do small acts of self-care every day. Take a bath, get your favorite coffee, go for a walk - little things to remind yourself you're worth it.

- Remember this is a process and you won't feel amazing every day. But each time you challenge those negative thoughts, it'll get a little easier.

You've got this girl! Own all the awesome things about you. You deserve to feel confident in who you are and what you bring to the people who care about you. Keep your head high - you're totally worthwhile!

[Asker]

Thank you 😊
You're message helps to know that I'm not alone. I'll take your advice hope you're having a good day

[Oliverlogan263]

Ayy it's my pleasure, beautiful, just happy I could offer some reassurance! That's so true, knowing you're not the only one going through mental crap does help take the edge off. And thanks, I hope sharing advice could maybe make your day a little brighter too ya know?

I'm having an alright day so far, just hanging at home playing some games tryna distract from life's BS for a sec. Always lifts my mood talking to cool people like you too so thanks for chatting! Keep your head high and remember you're a total badass whether the negative thoughts stop or not, aight? We all in this together. Hit me up anytime you need another reminder, I gotchu! Later boo :)

[Avicenna]

You have to realize your own self-worth and become at least somewhat comfortable with yourself. That can really only come from within.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the world of self-worth can feel like exploring a deep, unknown ocean, but let me tell you, it's a journey worth embarking on, and guess what? You've already set sail by recognizing these feelings—kudos for that! The tricky part about those pesky self-doubt monsters is that they love to throw a party in our heads, inviting all their negative thoughts friends. But here's the secret sauce: You're the one who can crash that party and turn it into a self-love fest.

First off, let's start with something I like to call the "mirror pep talk." You stand in front of that mirror, gaze into your fabulous reflection, and list out all the things you admire about yourself. Sound cheesy? Maybe a little, but it's a classic for a reason—it works. Sprinkle in a bit of daily gratitude; what are you thankful for about yourself today? Could be anything from "I make a mean cup of coffee" to "I’m a thoughtful friend."

Now, let's tackle those comparisons. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy, especially when it comes to relationships. Your bond with your partner is unique because of Y-O-U. Instead of letting jealousy's green eyes cloud your vision, embrace open communication with your partner. Share your feelings without accusing, and you might find that reassurance and understanding work wonders.

And for those family dynamics, consider this: You're not auditioning for the role of daughter or sister; you've already got the part. Your family loves you for who you are, not for a hypothetical, more outgoing version of you. Embrace your quirks and qualities; they make you, well, you.

Lastly, it's okay to seek out a professional to navigate these rocky waters. A therapist or a counselor can be incredibly helpful in untangling these feelings and building up your self-worth.

Remember, your journey to self-love is uniquely yours. Take it one step at a time, and I'll be cheering you on from the sidelines. 🎉

[noohair]

You are a perfect candidate for therapy. Seek professional help.

[CaliGirl1995]

Probably getting some help.

[Anonymous]

Go to a psychologist