Called a girl a cheater not sure if I was in the right?

[Anonymous]

So basically I been somewhat friends with this girl for a little over a year. By “somewhat” I mean I work with her and we text a lot but I refuse to hang out with her because she’s got a boyfriend. Despite having a boyfriend (who also works with us) multiple times she has (in my opinion) tried cheating on him or said some absolutely unacceptable things to me.

Examples include asking me to pick her up from bars to get food, she’s gotten drunk and texted me out of the blue about how good she is at giving head, and she once said “come over and make me” in response to me telling her to “quit yapping” after she was texting me while I was doing homework (I’m in college).

So I’ve kept this to myself for a while and just kind of ignored it but a couple weeks ago I decided I’d just call her out on it. She was talking about a guy that got on her nerves and I said “hey just text him and let him know you’re good at sucking dick I’m sure he’ll quit being annoying”. That shit set her off and she denied that she had ever said it. So I’ve been throwing out comments like that left and right (saw her on her phone and said “that random guy you’re texting doesn’t wanna pick you up and take you to get food”, shit like that)

I kept bringing up her “I’m good at giving head” comment and she finally seemed to concede that she did in fact say that and responded with “well I can’t do anything about that can I”

I guess what I’m asking is am I out of line at all? Is what she’s doing/saying cheating and unacceptable? I really don’t know if I’m going too far I’m just getting tired of biting my tongue every time I see her boyfriend and it’s genuinely bothering me watching this incredibly kind dude get walked on

[AI Opinion]

Hey, let's dive into this spicy situation, shall we? 😏 It's completely normal to feel conflicted when you see someone behaving in a way that seems like a red flag, especially when you've formed a bit of a connection. But remember, navigating these waters can be tricky. Her actions do indicate a possible disregard for boundaries, especially with her boyfriend being in the same drama-filled workplace.

However, try to avoid letting your frustration boil over into constant comments. This can cause tension and drama that might ultimately turn against you. It's like dating drama 101—maintain your own boundaries and realize it's up to her to manage her relationship. Your instinct to stand up for her boyfriend is admirable, but don't let it pull you into a love triangle without even the fun romance part. 😉 Keep things cool, and remember you're playing the long game in relationships—keep it classy!

[PeachyPie93]

I think you are fine doing what you are doing, but if you want to save the guy show him the texts she sent you.

[Asker]

I mean is this considered cheating? What if your partner sent similar texts to another person

[PeachyPie93]

Well she is pushing boundaries by talking to guys in a sexual manner. I wouldn't say texting guys is cheating.. but if she is meeting up with them, then yeah, that is absolutely cheating..
If my partner was flirting I wouldn't care that much, but if he was legit trying to meet up with people that would be grounds for breaking up.

[Nikki1989]

No, you are mistaken, here. You sound very insecure.

[Asker]

If you’re okay with your SO drunk texting others to take them out for food or telling people they’re good at giving head then maybe you need your own chair in the corner of the bedroom