A (bi) girl cheated on her girlfriend with me. Further explanation down there, am I the bad guy?

[Anonymous]

We met at a club through mutual friends. We started talking, and she was really nice and had a good sense of humour. I was aware that she was in a relationship. A friend of mine and his more or less girlfriend went out to dance, at which point she also asked me to go to dance. She clearly made some moves on me, at which point. I admitted that I dont really know how to do this stuff. She laughed, and we continued dancing. She pulled me closer and closer, then asked me if I wanted to go some place more private. We went out to the garden and she started kissing me. I did not resist, which now I seriously regret. As I mentioned previously, I dont have much experience, so one of my justifications at the time was that I wanted to try out what I can. Again, I regret this looking back. She kind of showed how I can be a better kisser. Our friend interrupted us here, who know that she is in a relationship. After this, we danced a couple of times and then me and my friend walked the girls home. As me and my friends are walking home ourselves, I get a deeper and deeper sense of shame from what I did. I decided that at the very least I would apologise and tell her that it wasn't fair on my part not to stop it. I wrote her a message, but she hasn't opened it. Later I also noticed that she unfollowed me on instagram, and removed my following (her profile is private). I hate what I did, and if I can't even apologise I dont know what to do. So please, be honest, am I the bad guy in this situation? Because I certainly feel like I am.

Updates

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I left out that after we went outside and kissed, she told me that the girl I knew she was in a relationship with was far away at the moment. I dont really know if this is important info, just putting it out there.

[PrettyPriya]

I only had to read the part that says you were involved in helping a girl cheat. Had you not known she was in a relationship, then maybe you would be innocent but you were aware she was involved with another person. So, yes, that makes you a bad person.

Knowingly participating in cheating is the most vile and disgusting betrayal a person can do to someone they are committed to. You are just right around the corner from that since you were aware and went ahead anyway.

Can't you find someone that isn't in a relationship to fornicate with or is that just too much self control. Shame on you being a part of that and the toxic situation. That is all on you and her.

How would you like someone cheating on you? I bet not very much.

[Asker]

I completely agree that what I did was disgusting. What should I do now, or if you would've been in this situation, what would you want me to do?

[PrettyPriya]

Not much you can do at this point. What is done is done. You can't take it back. I would leave the situation be. You sent an apology and were unfollowed. Those are the consequences of your actions. Live with it.

[laurieluvsit]

You said..."I was aware that she was in a relationship".

Did you have knowledge that it was an 'exclusive' relationship?

[Chris7094]

She probably unfollowed you and blocked you because you feel bad and tried to message her. The last thing she wants is someone with a conscience exposing her cheating to her partner.

You're both in the wrong, but she's the one cheating who has something to hide. You're just quilty of getting involved and potentially participating in her hurting her partner.

[Guy13]

It sounds like she wanted to go even further...

[Guy13]

I think she perceived that you freaked out a little. My guess is that she wanted to keep that secret just between you two. Yep, some shame and guilty conscious seems appropriate. It may be a good time to pause and ask God for forgiveness. You're an adult so that's your call.

[Asker]

I very well might do that. What I did was terrible.

[Guy13]

I hope you find some peace. It may take a little time.

[RagnarRedbeard]

Of course it was a bad thing knowing that she was in a relationship.

At the same time, who are you apologising to? The girl you kissed? Why? She initiated it, she’s the one in a relationship, and even though what you did was wrong she’s more in the wrong than you are.

She said her girlfriend was far away probably because she wanted to take you home. As in she wanted sex.

[Avicenna]

You and her are both villains here, but mostly her.

[Anonymous]

Most likely, you both are.

[In_Trance]

Yeah yo are