I made the mistake of cheating on my girlfriend a year ago and now the girl I cheated with is taunting and harassing me?

[Anonymous]

I got involved with someone a year ago behind my girlfriend’s back (yes, I know it was wrong). I made the mistake of not telling the person I got involved with about the fact that I had a girlfriend. She somehow found out and ghosted me, now my girlfriend and I are being harassed.

She (anonymously) posted about me to a FaceBook group called “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” and friends and family members are questioning me about if I’m seeing someone else (although I’m no longer seeing her or anyone else). She requested my girlfriend as a friend on IG and FB and my girlfriend keeping getting phone calls from her. My girlfriend keeps asking me who she is and I don’t know what to tell her.

Should I file a police report?

[Finchie40]

It’s time to come clean man and confess the truth on what happened, you clearly don’t love and care about your girlfriend for the fact that you cheated on her , you just like the convenience of her and like the fact that you got away with cheating on her for as long as you did , but now it caught up to you and now it’s time the face the consequences of your actions. I know you are scared of losing your girlfriend but do you honestly think it’s fair to your girlfriend that you been lying to her all this time? So by you being open and honest to her about what happened is the right thing to do whether you lose her or not. Understand this is a learning experience to never cheat on someone again.

[Asker]

So, what do I do about being harassed?

[Finchie40]

Come clean and the harassment should eventually stop , Admit you were wrong and take accountability for your actions. Once the truth shines there will be no more harassment , Your girlfriend will either break up with you or forgive you for being honest , but don’t bank on that , cuz the damage is already done.

[Vesuvius87]

You've found someone in a complicated situation and unfortunately actions are accompanied by consequences. Your girlfriend is eventually going to find out and it's at this point that you have to come clean. Whether your girlfriend decides to give you a 2nd chance or break-up, that's really up to her. The ball is in her court now.

I believe the other girl is upset to find out she got lied to. When she cheated, you didn't tell her you had a girlfriend and now she's contacting your girlfriend. The only thing you have to do is apologize to both girls; to the other girl you used and lied to and your girlfriend you've betrayed. If you get dumped, then it's time for you to take a break, get into counseling and don't get involved in any relationship until you fix your cheating issue.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

My man, that’s not “harassment” that’s the consequences of your actions. You’re just delaying the inevitable at this point. She’s clearly a girl’s girl, meaning she’s trying to let your girlfriend know she’s dating someone who doesn’t actually love her and save her the pain of committing to you only to find out years later.

[RavVid]

I guess you'd like to sweep it under the rug but you should tell your girlfriend the truth. Maybe that will end the relationship or maybe not - her choice. At least you can then start living honestly.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, what a tangled web we weave, right? First, honesty with your girlfriend is key here. Consider coming clean about the past if you haven't already. If your fling is crossing legal boundaries, filing a police report might be wise. Just keep calm, stay honest, and protect your relationship. Remember, everyone loves a good comeback story! 😅 Communication is your ally here; it's time to put on your superhero cape! 🦸‍♂️

[MzAsh]

The truth. You tell your girlfriend the truth. Otherwise you deserve this.

[Abbycado]

File a police report because YOU cheated? Lmfao, good one.

[Asker]

This is technically harassment.

[Abbycado]

Lemme know how it works out for you lol.

[HelpfulWoman]

How do you know its the same lass?
does the girlfriend actually know you're a piece of shit yet?

[Asker]

Who else would it be posting about me besides her?

[HelpfulWoman]

anyone who knows that you fucked around and now, ironically, are finding out.
like the swerve of taking accountability to your girlfriend (who if they got a brain will make an ex real quick)

[PeachyPie93]

Just tell your girlfriend it will solve all these problems.. tho it will probably cause other ones but at least the other girl will go away.

[Anonymous]

Karma.

You come clean with your girl. And maybe others. It takes her power away.
Then you explain it to the police and maybe get a restraining order.

[Fanfare690]

Its time to confess