What should I do if my boyfriend and I are arguing over having a baby in the future?

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

We just got into the relationship for 2 months now and early on the relationship, I've already told him that I don't want to have a baby but he keeps on teasing me about becoming a mom and I suddenly snap one day while we were in an amusement park.

I told him since from the start I already told him that I don't want one and he has to think over the relationship since he wants to have one because I don't want any and will likely abort if I indeed happen to become pregnant. I will most likely adopt. He grew silent and said he doesn't want to talk or he'll do something bad which i think he will break up with me or something.

In the end, he said why will you abort etc. And i was like saying it's not really definite I will abort but likely. So, we talked again and he seem to be comforted that it's not 100% that I will abort. I did reiterate that I won't have any kids and infairness to him, he doesn't tease me about it anymore.

Whenever I bring up the topic though of the baby issues and him possibly breaking up with me, he said no, he won't break up and he said why do i always bring it up to make him mad. But I just want to make it clear because I don't want us to waste our time. Does this mean that he agrees now with me not to have a baby since he's still with me?

[Twalli]

It depends on how much importance he places on the baby. I got a vasectomy to make it clear than I was not going to procreate. My fiancée didn't want to either, so it all works out fine, but if the baby thing is an issue for you two then it's something you need to consider. Float the idea of getting a hysterectomy by him to see if he's really okay with no baby. Maybe say something along the lines of "since I'm not having a baby and raw sex feels better, I'm thinking of getting a hysterectomy because it will be cheaper than staying on birth control until menopause." If he's extremely against it, he's probably thinking he'll eventually convince you.

[spartan55]

Bringing it up more than once is bullshit on both your parts. You detail how much it pisses you off that he keeps bringing it up. Then, you seemingly come to an understanding. Great! Then YOU start bringing it up over and over. I guess it's okay for you to do it. I'd be pissed if I were him too.

[cuttl]

You want different things in life. This isn't something minor like the color of the drapes. This is about whether or not you are both interested in making a lifetime commitment to creating, nurturing, and raising a new human being.

Both of you should break up so you can persue partners who have similar life goals.

If you are in the US, please make sure you know your state's abortion laws.

[mistiQ]

If you both have to argue about it, it is best to go your separate ways. Even though he is still with you i think deep down he wants a child in the future, which youbare not willing to give to him. Its only a matter of time before he leaves. I think you guys need to have a sit down and have a really good talk on the situation so you both can gain insight on each others views.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on GAG, I'm here to sprinkle some wisdom with a dash of playful charm. It sounds like you guys are in the emotional rollercoaster phase of your relationship! 🎢 Keep those conversations going and ensure that you're both on the same page without assuming silent agreements. Remember, love is about finding a groove that works for both. If he truly understands and respects your stance, that's a good sign. But keep those lines of communication open, and see if you continue to vibe without tossing red flags like confetti. 😄 Relationships are all about understanding and compromise!

[ohsheeT]

First of all you need a new boyfriend because you're only into the relationship for 2 months and you're already arguing you shouldn't have an argument for 4 years

[Anonymous]

Men want to have kids with women they love because that's how nature works and life is made. Young women can easily change their mind about wanting kids which he knew and that's why he teased you. Then you said you would kill your child rather than have it, and he got upset.

[WhitneySnow]

No! It does not mean that. You guys need to have a serious talk about this, and if you can’t resolve your differences (in other words, if he really wants kids and you don’t) then you do need to break up.

[itsannalee]

The key is just don’t date someone who doesn’t have the same interests and intentions with u.
You shouldn’t force him to forget his dream to get kids, and he shouldn’t force you to have kids.

[boggboss]

You guys are ignoring a issue that will end the relationship in the future he hasn't changed his mind on the subject he is hoping u will chamge your mind meh

[PeachyPie93]

So why don't you dump him? He clearly wants kids and is just hoping you will change your mind..

[fantasticass]

Leave him. Do yourself a favor. I have no kids, and never had the desire to have them ✌️🇨🇦😎

[Bubbatech24065]

as a couple, this issue is very important. what will you do to prevent getting pregnant. What will you do if you get pregnant? you need to have this discussion Before you get married. As this will break up your marriage eventually.

[LiamJHayden]

Two months and arguing over this? He's not right for you.

[michalpl00]

He wants a baby. Either leave or get the baby. Its hard if you care about him. But also having a baby is good. But it’s up to you

[kaucky1]

Not right kind of father it knows it not worth hassle

[OddBeMe]

Know he doesn’t feel the same way right now, so probably not the best parenting partner.

[Anonymous]

Your better off breaking up. Your baby killer anyways.

[MasterKS]

Just tell me you won't be pregnant to just go out of this, kick the ass out!

[noohair]

He thinks he will change your mind.

[RedInnocent69]

Get knocked up and tell him the time is now

[jahaims]

Break up

[In_Trance]

Stop arguing