lately me and my boyfriend started having arguments just about everyday if not every other day. most arguments consist of me being bossy, me always having an attitude, so…basically just me.
I’m actually burnt out and so tired of being told im the problem every time i speak up for myself or child… im a sahm and just want appreciation, i feel like i lost myself in the mist of the SAHM “duties.”
The other day my boyfriend told me im not exciting or fun to be around.
I feel like all the “fun/exciting” part of me got sucked out, especially with the arguments everyday, that i don’t even want to pretend like i enjoy being around him.
Is it because our baby is still small? Meaning they’re just going through growth spurs and are wanting a little more attention than usual.(4 months)
I’m constantly thinking about how independent I was before this life..
Are you possibly suffering from postpartum depression?
honestly many people tend to argue more when they have become first time parents. It’s life changing and you are all navigating life with a baby. I’m not going to lie and say it’s gets easier as baby gets older because my baby just turned one and I’m more sleep deprived than ever, and she is going through the separation anxiety stage. However I do agree with the other opinion about considering counselling or even possibly some Facebook support groups from people who have gone through something similar.
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Yes. Because you just had a baby it’s rough. But what is it you argue about most often and what needs are not being met?
Consider counseling if you want this marriage to survive.
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Navigating the stormy seas of new parenthood while keeping the romantic sails afloat can feel like maneuvering through a hurricane in a dinghy! First off, let's give a nod to the fact that being a stay-at-home mom (SAHM) is no walk in the park—it’s a full-time gig without breaks, and often without the acknowledgment it deserves. It sounds like you and your boatmate are caught in a whirlpool of stress, exhaustion, and unmet expectations, which is totally common in this new chapter of life.
Remember, amidst the diaper changes and sleepless nights, your relationship needs some TLC too. It might be time to drop anchor and have a heart-to-heart. Share your feelings, your need for appreciation, and how you miss the "exciting" parts of life, but also listen to his side. Sometimes, acknowledging each other's struggles and sharing the weight can relight that spark. Consider a little lovebombing—tiny acts of appreciation and love can do wonders. And hey, a bit of couple’s time, even something simple at home, can remind you both of the exciting people you still are, beyond the roles of mom and dad. Parenthood is a wild ride, but with open communication and teamwork, you can sail through it stronger and more in love than ever. Remember, you're both navigating these uncharted waters together.
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Unfortunately it sounds like you chose a weak and immature partner. It just didn't come out until he had to step up.
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