Guys, How would you prioritize your Mom, your child and your partner?

[Smashingdoozy]

1. Mom 2. Partner 3. Child

1. Mom 2. Child 3. Partner

1. Partner 2. Child 3. Mom

1. Partner 2. Mom 3. Child

1. Child 2. Mom 3. Partner

1. Child 2. Partner 3. Mom

[ohsheeT]

My children always came first my partner and then my mom because my mom lives some place completely different but if my child and my partner at the same time needed something it depends on what it was how important it was but in life my kids always come first I'm not married anymore either so LOL it makes it easier that way too but now they're grown and they're going to have kids

[mstbooblover]

As always, in a real situation, things depend largely on circumstances. Still, logically my partner would be my main priority because she'd be the unique one, impossible to really replace, and then would come my child.

Actually I know that in a real situation, as for instance the house burning down, my instinct would immediately force me to save the child first without hesitation...

My mother, had she still been alive (she died when I was 4), would not immediately be a priority because she would have had a life of her own, while her grown up children would be meant to have left their parents and live a life of their own.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic priority puzzle! 🎭 My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help unravel these emotional knots and make you the star of your own romantic comedy! As a relationship coach, I'd say it's like fine-tuning a symphony—each relationship is a unique instrument.

Your child usually holds the top spot because, let’s face it, they depend on you big time. 👶 Your partner is your co-pilot on this wild ride called life. Mom, of course, is your forever cheerleader, but she gets that you’re building your dream team. It's all about balance and the art of negotiation, babe! 💖

[AviatorTom]

One's children always come first, since they need guidance and protection.

Then, my wife, she can take care if herself when needed

Finally, my mom, she has a husband to care for her

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

In a generic fictional situation that doesn't really exist lol (I suppose we are testing moral foundations' logic here):

When my kids aren't adults: Kids first since they SHOULD NOT find themselves in a situation where they are forced to cater for their own needs. My girlfriend then takes precedence over my parents and I could justify that morally. But if I'm honest, morality, in practice, doesn't seem to govern my actions much in this generic scenario, my love for her does. And that makes me need to look for her, instinctively, that is my priority.

All of that being generic, I see it as a thought experiment, and that is interesting. But in reality things are much more complicated, decision-making between love, responsibilities and morality? Good luck with that when you're deep inside the equation. Fatherhood, as I experience it, is unbelievably tough, at times.

[ChicoFromThe305]

To be clear health wise I will never make a choice and it will all be the same to me but if you mean in everyday life, it will be the last choice child, partner, mom, my mom gave me birth and she's always got a special place in my heart but she did raise me to follow gods guidance and in ephasians 5:29-32 it says

"for no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as Christ also the church; because we are members of his body. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh." This is basically saying that when leaving mother and father, the wife becomes the priority but we become one and after that comes the next step, a child, which at this point the defenseless child becomes the main priority, not just for me but my wife also.

[NathanDavis]

first of all... my mother would disown me... if I placed her first than my wife

but, what are we talking about? there are priorities and then there's priorities... lol

is it a life or death matter and situation? are they confronting each other and I'm in the middle? is it about where to spend or who is hosting for the holidays?

might be a matter of case by case scenario... lol

[Smashingdoozy]

True scenarios change things. Let's say life or death who do you save first

[NathanDavis]

well, as I commented... my mother would hate if I put her first over my OWN family, lol

and then, I think... my wife would also want me to save our child, because I would want that as well

unless, that specific situation would be at birth... which is something that unfortunately, I might be familiar with, and it all sucks big time, but... I do think the mother should be saved and prioritized FIRST, hopefully both, and all, survive..

if it were a fire though... whoever I find first, is put to safety, first... lol

[Lionman95]

I´d priotise my partner, than if I ever have my child (what I don´t plan to) and then my mum. The reason my mum comes last is as I no longer live at home and I´m nearly 30 I no longer need her to care for me. She´s therefore more part of my past than of my future.
My partner is no part of my past but of my future she´s the woman I want to spend as much of my future life with that I´m able to, same goes for my future child.

[Anonymous]

It's a balance.
Children need lots of attention of course but there is sometimes a tendency to ignore the partner. Maybe that's why there are so many divorces. Relationships do not run on air especially when children are involved and your partner should be pivotal to future plans.
At your age I'm guessing your mom can take back seat while you build and maintain your family.

[Anonymous]

I don't ever agree with anyone who puts the kids before your own well being. That's how people get divorced. The problem with that is they never learn when to stop making them the priority and end up pushing their mate away for so long and are surprised their spouse cheats...

[DJB72]

Biblically it's Spouse, Child, Parent once you've left home and got married. The only relationship more important than my wife is that with Christ.

[Ironco]

All three would take equal priority.

I'd find time for all of them.

But who am I to talk? I have no kids, and my wife and mother have both passed away.

I prioritize myself now.

[Unit1]

Just partner

I'm childfree

[paledreams]

Mom, partner, child. Glad I'm single and childless :P family first

[Wiredone]

My kids are grown and can take care of themselves. My mom passed away years ago so I'm putting my wife first, kids second and mom last

[TallAnon]

Child always goes first, because they depend on us. Then I would go with partner, because you choose them.

[Ariesman81]

1. Purpose

2. Career

3. Partner

4. Child

5. Mother

[sirderpsalot123]

Child, partner, mom.

[jahaims]

Kids, wife, friends, parents

[eagle1951]

3rd.