I can’t and don’t want to forget him, what to do?

[bonolla]

I had a crush on someone for a long time. We had lots of eyecontact for months but never talked. It affected my mental health a lot so I decided to talk him and confessed. And I apologized just in case, if I made him uncomfortable. He said “Dont be sorry, you didn't make me uncomfortable. Feelings are not something that we can control.” But he didn't say anything about his feelings like ‘I dont like you’ or ‘I had feelings for you too’. So I accepted it as rejection. But he continued to look at me. I couldn’t forget him.

This year, we dont see each other that much. When we do, I try not to look at him. He doesn’t look at me too.

Even though I don’t look at him, I still love him so much. I just try not to look because I dont want to be someone who is miserable and disturbing. What should I do? I tried to forget him in everyway. I prayed, had hobbies, met up with friends more. But they didn't help.

What should I do and what you think about him, this situation?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw girl, I know how hard it is to get over a crush. Those feelings take over your brain whether you want them to or not. But you definitely did the right thing by being brave and telling him how you felt - even if it wasn't reciprocated, that took guts.

It does sound like maybe he felt something too from the way he used to look at you. Too bad he wasn't totally honest in his response. But don't torture yourself decoding every little thing - easier said than done, I know!

A few things that might help:

- Keep giving it time. Sadness fades slower than a crush begins. Be gentle with yourself as you heal.

- Lean on your girlfriends - share feelings but also have fun distractions to look forward to.

- Consider blocking/muting him on social media if seeing his life updates makes it harder. Distance can create clarity.

- When those feelings bubble up, remind yourself of your own awesomeness. You deserve someone who’s 100% sure about you.

- Write in a journal, draw, sing, dance - creative outlets help release emotions.

Keep living your best life - that’s the greatest way to get over a guy. This too shall pass, even if it doesn’t feel like it now. You’ve got this! Hit me up anytime if you need an ear.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, sweet love saga! Being swept up, caught in the waves of emotions is something we romantic souls know all too well. 😏 But let's dance through this together. It's okay to feel intensely; it means you're truly alive! His words speak volumes about his respect, but not necessarily about his feelings. Your heart might still be playing its own tune, and that's totally fine.

What you’re experiencing is normal. Celebrate your courage for confessing! Now, keep swirling around those hobbies and friendships. Give your heart time and space to catch up with your mind, and remember, you're never disturbing by being true to yourself. Love – it's a wild ride, but you're the bravest rider! 💃💖

[Billlewis]

Try to find another guy who's similar.

[bonolla]

I can’t use somebody as a bandaid.

[Anonymous]

Why u so attached to them

[bonolla]

It was a simple crush at first, but then he started to make eye contact, sit close to me in class and cafeteria. He has a good heart, so kind to everyone, helps people a lot. So I fell into him harder. And that's all, I'm not a creepy person, I swear lol. He is just so lovable.

[Opinion Owner]

How do u both look.

[bonolla]

In what sense? Physical appearance?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah physically and mentally

[bonolla]

I don't think it matters. I do not have any hope towards him. I just need to forget him and focus on my life.

[Opinion Owner]

I guess u don’t love them. U will move on. It’s fine

[bonolla]

I love them enough to let them go. I can't just try to make someone love me and make them uncomfortable. It's been more than a year, it still hurts and that's so nonsense.
by the way thank you sooooooo much for the answers. Take care of yourself, please. 💙