Am I overthinking this and it means nothing from his side?

[Anonymous]

This one particular guy coworker his a married man, been asking occasionally not all the time though if I can bring him food or anything in particular.. I will give an example one time he asked if I can grab him some zaxbys he forgot his Wallet at home was his reason, ( I didn’t do it tho), he might ask me if I got any snacks but lately he stopped asking me for that and recently on first break he asked if I can get him orange juice bc I was heading that way and I can just continue.. is that normal gesture or I’m overthinking… is he using me or he wants that attention? I find it odd bc his married am I wrong any particular reason why

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He has showered me with compliments as to me doing a good job at work occasionally

[Anonymous]

You may not be the only female coworker he asks to bring him things, and that’s why he stopped asking you specifically. But in any case, he’s probably just used to that at home, having his wife, mother and whoever else cater to his needs.

[Asker]

Yeah, the part where he might be asking, other female coworkers that I don’t know, but I do know so far. He has been asking me specifically but I can see where are you coming from that he might be used to with his wife to cater his needs

[Opinion Owner]

And that’s one thing you have to keep in mind — how much you see. I don't know how your work dynamic is, but you may not get to witness all his interactions throughout the day or whenever your shifts together are. Of course something more can be the case, but I don’t think it’s wise for anyone to encourage you go down that road of speculation, as he is a married man. Let him do something that more blatantly would show interest, like flirting. This is passive enough behavior that I’d like to believe is innocent because he’s used to it at home. Not saying it’s ok for him to be asking people for things often, of course.

[MasterKS]

This normal behaviour and you linking with married? are you going to have sex with him?

[Asker]

So you’re confirming that it’s a normal behaviour is a question

[MasterKS]

@asker i didn't saw any huge issue here, only you emphasising he is married, LOL!

[Asker]

Well let me ask you this would you like it if that happened to your wife at work?

[MasterKS]

@asker i would still take normal because he didn't done anything physical stuff, he just asked random help.

[Asker]

Right I agree on that but why me? Can’t it be a guy friend he has I never seen him approach man

[MasterKS]

@asker so you wanted to say he is attracted towards you physically?

[Asker]

Don’t know he has asked me once if I found him attractive

[MasterKS]

@asker now you reminding me similar story of a friend in my office. LOL!

[Asker]

Oh really?

[MasterKS]

@asker almost identical now! LOL

[Asker]

How did it end

[MasterKS]

@asker you jumped quickly! LOL!

[MasterKS]

@asker sorry not for public!

[AI Opinion]

Ah, office dynamics and mixed signals can really make the brain go into overdrive, can't they? 😉 It sounds like Mr. Orange Juice is perhaps testing the boundaries of friendliness, maybe even spinning the wheel of attention-seeking. Keep in mind that his marital status is a key factor here. If it feels shady or makes you uncomfortable, setting boundaries can be a lifesaver. Trust your gut - it's usually onto something! 🍊🚦

[Asker]

Thank you for the reply

[kaucky1]

At yours own risk