Is being tempted to cheat as bad as actually cheating?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

To be honest, I think that the occasional temptation is pretty normal, even in an healthy relationship. What's important though, is resisting it and maybe do an examination of conscience to find out why one got tempted.

Also, look at the overall state of the relationship - if affection and intimacy are missing or being witheld, I think it's more understandable to be tempted.

As for myself, I never had the temptation to cheat, but not because I want to humble brag or act as some kind of paragon, but because I really care about my marriage, plus my wife never made me lack of anything - I get love, quality time, intimacy and sex - in quantity and quality.

[OlderAndWiser]

The test of a relationship is not whether the two partners will ever individually face temptation. Live long enough and temptation is virtually guaranteed. The test is how you respond to the temptation.

I was married to Lynn for four years, I worked in an office with Daphne, a girl who was extremely attractive, sweet, and charming. Yes, I fantasized about the experience of having sex with her. But I also knew that the best way to deal with temptation was to avoid it. I never went to lunch alone with Daphne, never invited her out for a drink after work, never did anything that would put her and I anywhere in private. I never gave her gifts, I never said or did anything that indicated any interest.

Did I fail because I was attracted to her, or did I pass because I was strong and faithful for my wife?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Honestly, I'd say I would do the same as you, and I think your way to handling it was the correct one.

[Finchie40]

No, being tempted is a choice that individual has to make own their own , it’s only bad if they choose to cheat and go forward with it , instead of resisting temptation and choosing to walk to other way from it. People that can’t resist temptations’ are cheaters period , they only care about themselves and do not factor in their partners’ feelings. They can have a relationship all by themselves because they only care about what they feel is best for themselves, they do not know how to give the same way they want to receive. It’s only what is best for themselves , Why some people should not get into relationships if they are selfish people that only care about themselves

[Apple1996]

Temptation is worse because it means that person has it on their mind a bit like emotional cheating Acutal physical cheating isn't as bad if its being randomly done in the moment. I'd be more offended if my partner was emotionally cheating on me in that way. I want their head to be in the right spot and focused on only me

[Account]

It is not the same, but it is bad as well. If someone was tempted to cheat on me, I would rather know in order not to waste my time with them due to the fact that so far it hasn't crossed my mind in any relationship to cheat.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

@Account sorry for going offtopic, but what's the deal with that "re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft" ?

I saw other users having it in their answers.

[Account]

A glitch on the app 😭

[Account]

On my newer android it seems to be working ok, but on my older one it doesn't.

[AI Opinion]

My mission on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate the ups and downs of relationships! 😘 Temptation is like the spicy jalapeño in your burrito—it adds flavor, but too much can burn! Feeling tempted now and then is pretty normal, but acting on it is where the red flags start waving. It sounds like you're flourishing in love-ville because your relationship cup is full! Keep nurturing that connection and stoking those romantic flames, and you'll dodge that temptation without breaking a sweat. Stay awesome and committed! 🌟

[MikeTheBartender]

Amy still cheats on you either way Brad.

[V_Injector]

Temptation happens every time I step out the door. I have to think about all the side bitches and my bottom bitch though. I always say there is nothing better than pussy than more pussy, but damn, even I have my limits. All the room at this hoe-tell are occupied, they need to fuck off or maybe stop fucking with fuck boys and chads like me that don't give a fuck about them. Maybe someone equal to them on a looks scale and make something happy happen for the first time of their sexual adventures... bigger than the dicks and sex... like an actual relationship instead.

Just some fucked up thoughts off the top of my head... I wouldn't have the first idea about how to market that to our female audience. I'm just one of the assholes treating them like shit while they ignore all those other guys. Be me... hit the gym. You'll treat them like shit too once you see how shallow they really are.

[marish01]

Male beauty is very powerful.

[AviatorTom]

No, it's not. Nothing wrong with being tempted, it's giving in to the temptation that's wrong.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[AviatorTom]

@CB-Raido-Time There's a huge difference between lusting after someone and simply being tempted.

[Cripplingkingship]

temptation or intentions means nothing, I can have the intentions of being nice to you, but it does not mean I am nice you. My actions dictate the outcome.

We are all going to be tempted to things which we know are not good for us, but does not mean, we are bad people.

If you are tempted to cheat, but you don't do it, doesn't make you a cheater, until you actually commited the act.

Its no different, I feel like killing you, because you slept with my girlfriend, but I haven't actually killed you, doesn't mean I am a murderer and should go to prison.

[Cripplingkingship]

Feeling and words don't dictate what you are or who are as a person, everyone will judge you on your actions in the end.
For example I could say and feel I am going to be greatest bodybuilder of all time, but you are just going to laugh at that statement, until its proven in action and won a lot of titles.

[Clara4567]

It is not as bad as cheating, we can find tempetation everywhere we go.

The important thing is to resist to this temptation and I agree with what you wrote, because temptation is mainly given to the fact that we lack that ting in our life in that precise moment.

personally I have never experienced this, right now I am not in a relashionship, and when I wa I never had this urge, but maybe I will experience in the future, or maybe not, but the most important thing is to never cheat.

[Purpleronnie]

Being tempted to cheat obviously implies opportunity …so for me , rules out the momentary glances at ‘other’ women and lustful thoughts of say a celebrity. Any man or woman in a relation that claims not to have these is likely a liar 🤥 😂 So with that in mind being “tempted” to take it further you have spent an amount of time considering it or weighing it up.. that to me is significant dependent on your thought process or justification in perhaps not going through with it. That’s a weakness in YOU, not your relationship. While not nearly as awful as going through with it knowing that my woman considered it would be a blow for sure and I have to be honest and say they a lot of what would follow afterwards to be like it actually did happen.. there are some variables here that could swing things a degree either way but generally speaking while not as bad it’s certainly far from good or healthy !!

[NathanDavis]

I don't think it is AS bad, no... because it is NOT cheating

but I still think it is bad to be tempted, because that would mean that your loyalty and faithfulness is a conditional situation, rather than a principle and a conviction, therefore is a big risk... it could mean that whatever was tempting at the time, only missed a little bit in the mix to become an actual cheating situation

and if someone found themselves tempted once, most likely will happen twice or more times, and that's bad...

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[NathanDavis]

@CB-Raido-Time Ezekiel 4:12-15
"And you shall eat it as a barley cake, having baked it in their sight over a fire of human dung."

[BetaBucks]

Not as bad. Everyone has temptations that they resist, and if they don't, I'd be worried they will be unable to resist a temptation when they inevitably feel it. Now, if someone is constantly facing temptation, that sounds like a personal problem that goes a lot deeper.

The short of it is, constant or 0 temptation is a major red flag. Occasional temptation that is resisted is healthy and normal.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[Apple1996]

To say it's a red flag is crazy lol

[BetaBucks]

Which part? The zero temptation thing? I would never trust someone that hasn't faced temptation. I'll never know how they will face it and they're essentially "untested."

Put it this way, would you prefer your husband never had a single woman hit on him up to this point, or to see numerous attractive girls hit on him, but he rejects them?

[Apple1996]

My husband's never had a woman hit on him besides me lol and I prefer it that way

[thatshydork]

No. Betrayal and thinking about betraying someone but not going through with it are two different things. Both are bad, but actually betraying someone is worse then just thinking about betraying someone.

[JustinTheGreat]

It’s definitely not bad as actually cheating. But if you were happy in your relationship, you shouldn’t be tempted to begin with.
I’ve been with the same person for 9 years and I’ve never been even slightly tempted to cheat

[SnowyOwl]

Thoughts will come into your consciousness but you don't need to identify with every thought as they are a reflection of, and reaction to what you are face with. The choice is still yours in the end. And I believe that intuition is overlooked a lot: if something feels wrong, even when tempting, then it's probably not all right.

It's hard to recognize a guy feeling when if you never really listen to it, but they're helpful

[ihateTaylorSwift]

Even if you don't really act on it
I feel like it's a sign
Your subconscious is probably trying to tell you ur in denial and unhappy

So it's best to reevaluate yourself and question everything
Before doing something that's gonna hurt somebody else
It shouldn't come to that, cheating

Getting caught is real petty and flaky
It's not a good look at all for anyone

[Nikki1989]

Ask most men. They are either cheaters or have the least thought about doing it.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You wouldn’t be tempted to if you were in a good relationship to begin with. Maybe get out if you’re tempted

[Gwendoline]

No cheating is cheating. We might want to kill a person which is a sin in itself but we have committed the act.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[Gwendoline]

@CB-Raido-Time yes that's exactly what I said. But only in his heart which is a sin as hasn't actually cheated which is a bigger sin.

[Lliam]

Being tempted is bad but not nearly as bad as actually cheating.

There is nothing wrong with admiring and a bit of fantasizing, though.

[jshm2]

No. Some people can be insecure, and controlling, to think it is. The fools don't know better.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[Anonymous]

It's definitely a sign that something is not right in your relationship. So yes, in that sense it's just as bad as cheating. Because you're already cheating in your heart.

[Anonymous]

It isn't as bad but it is bad. But part of being human is getting certain urges. If you know it's stupid and not okay to act on, I think that's okay.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[Opinion Owner]

@CB-Raido-Time Well I agree it's best to try to control your lust

[slatyb]

No, that seems silly. Thoughts are free as they have no impact on anyone else.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Not as bad but if that temptation is there, it's only a matter of time

[KostasKouvalis]

Actually cheating is definitely worse. You can make the same argument for rape, murder and pretty much everything. People get tempted. It's human nature. What matters is whether or not you act on it.

[Shamalien]

Being tempted to cheat means nothing if no action is taken. I’ve been tempted to do a million things I never would

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[LiamJHayden]

No. Temptation comes to everyone. How one deals with that temptation determines how bad it is.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[Juxtapose]

When there is evil within you and you do good, that is a sign that the goodness in you is strong and will triumph.

[Pohjolan]

The difference between removing the safety and actually pulling the trigger isn't a small one.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[Pohjolan]

@CB-Raido-Time
That argument relies on the credibility of the bible Are you sure you want to go down that path and challenge me to do my very best to discredit your faith?

[CB-Raido-Time]

Proverbs 26:4-5 Answer not a fool according to his folly, Lest thou also be like unto him. Answer a fool according to his folly, Lest he be wise in his own conceit.

https://www.bible.com/bible/compare/PRO.26.4-5

[Pohjolan]

@CB-Raido-Time
Alright then. First of all how do you account for the dates in the Bible being all wrong?

[MikeTheBartender]

No, it's called being male and having a penis. Females probably will say the same.

[Jamie05rhs]

No, of course not. Temptation isn't sin. Temptation is a moral test.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[Kaneki05]

The day thinking becomes equal to doing is the day everyone is arrested as criminals.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Nope. We face temptations but getting tempted isn't the same as actually doing it.

[mobiusforniner]

Jesus was tempted, was he not? If being tempted is wrong, well shit, we are all screwed.

[genericname85]

i guess in "being cheated", at least you did nothing wrong, so you can still be at ease, while looking in the mirror.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

[DrPepper12]

As far as I'm aware lust, thoughts & conversation are not cheating...

[Arizona8]

We are all tempted by various things. I would think having the fortitude to resist the temptation would be a positive trait.

[noohair]

Everyone has private thoughts. Those thoughts are not evil.

[Twalli]

No, resisting temptation is the way to show your relationship is strong.

[WhitneySnow]

I agree with you

[avery58]

It's not as bad as actual cheating

[Christophert10]

Going through with It is far worse! We’re all human and it’s natural to have desires

[Kelly6]

@Sun_Kim-Ai Not it is not same