Is romantic love as special as it's made out to be?

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I am starting to think that the romantic type of love is not special, and I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. More than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, and the couples who are still together are usually not happy being together.

In my opinion, romantic love should not be on the highest pedestal. In my opinion, parents and siblings' family love is the strongest. Family knows who you are. Romance is fake for lots of people, put on a false persona and romance on most parts gets ugly real fast. For the reality of romance is no Disney love story.

Parents and siblings' family love is one of the strongest types of love there is.

If romantic love is actually real, would it be one of the weakest types of love there is?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Unconditional love is the most powerful when two people can become one and be romantic sensual friends lovers teachers guides with each other and they know how to communicate and they both want the same thing it's very powerful but with all the above it just happens it flows that's who you are because you want that other person to feel what you feel

And family love should be the strongest and I guarantee it's not in many many families because there's always some kind of drama going on

That's kind of love that you're talking about is what we're supposed to feel for each other we're supposed to feel it for ourselves become one with ourselves become one with others and one with this universe that means you have become the best you can possibly become you are there for other people unconditionally are because you're at the right place at the right time and become one with the universe that is God that is everything in a positive way no drama no ignorance no hate no lying no cheating you're one you're happy that's love the people who get divorced look at the drama they create drama is a hold back no matter what because it always has to be a right fighter somebody has to be right nobody could admit the wrong that's sad

the people that are in marriage and at last it's because they don't have drama they don't have blame they don't have trust issues they don't give their partner a reason to doubt them or to think something that's not true

And if there's a problem it gets fixed because it's a simple solution is a simple misunderstanding and in time you don't have to worry about anything because you know that your partner has your back no matter what and vice versa unconditionally

Get a puppy get a dog and raise it you will see the true meaning of love the way that Dog loves You..

And we have to thank God for the dog because God created Dog

to teach man how to love unconditionally if it wasn't for that dog we would still be hairy ass beast pulling our women around by the hair probably or who knows nowadays maybe they might be pulling us around by our hair good question thoughre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

The_Confusion · Accepted Answer

I'm starting to think that adding 1 + 1 is a special ability.

You say that romantic love is fake and family love is the strongest.. for this you would have to define and measure love. You sure aren't love making with your family members. If as you wrote "not being happy living together" defines lack of love, then there's less love in families than in romance because most people excluding children don't live with their parents and siblings.

Then you ask if romantic love was real, would it be weakest form of love? - If those were 2 of the multiple forms of love, if love was a substance that we require to live, and if romantic love was the weakest and family love was strongest, then nobody would be even thinking about leaving their family to find this weak form of love. It's abnormal to find someone who does not leave their family for romance, so clearly there is a strong pull for it, and it's not caused by fucking disney. You've gotten confused over nonexistent things.

Even if you were right, you'd still need romance in order to breed and create a new family before you all die out. I'm confused as to how you could be confused about such a non confusing topic. Romance is required in order for 2 people of opposite genders to stick together long enough to raise offsprings. In other words there's no family without romance. Even in this world where single moms can survive, still, to get pregnant you need a moment of romance.

SnowyOwl · Accepted Answer

When people look for romance coming from a place of lack, then as you described it the romance they experience is 'fake', played out to satisfy the ego... But because people are looking to satisfy their egos, it's hard to create a real foundation for love to occur... Love is caring for the other and treating them as you'd want to be treated... To love someone, you need to love yourself first so that there is no negativity in you, no lack to fill up, no ego to satisfy..

Something I've realized tho is that to become selfless and to be able to love fully and deeply is actually a long journey, it only gets better with time... So while we are imperfect, it doesn't mean we should wait to be perfect to allow ourselves to start a relationship... I think that as long as you have a mindset of growth, then you can start a relationship, and love will grow stronger with time. Someone with a healthy growth mindset will also help you as you help them in this journey together

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I personally believe that romantic love has lost all its attraction in today's world because people are no longer interested in romance.

With social media and porn that tell you to get into the pants of your date as soon as possible, romance has no longer the place it used to have before that. People are gullible and believe that you need to be fornicating by the first date and that if it is not happening, you are wasting your time with that person.

Romance existed before the visual of the social media and the porn industry made it look obsolete.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Aiming to bring a sprinkle of charm to life and demystify relationships, here's a teasing scoop on love: It's like ice cream, baby, coming in all flavors! Romantic love is the fun, messy, sweet flavor that sometimes melts too fast. While it doesn't have the resilience of family love, it adds spice and teaches us about passion, vulnerability, and heartbreak. Embrace love's flavors, and enjoy the ride, my love critic! Life's no Disney tale, but that's what makes it thrilling and real. 💖🍦

Sonorous · Answer

Romance is just outwardly expressed love or lust. Love & lust can be fleeting. Novelty wears off. Whether or not it's special depends on an individuals view. I don't find it special because I'm not into that stuff. But someone else might.

HawkPerception · Answer

It can be. But the truth is, the majority of people don't get to experience true love. Only the luckiest people get to experience true love.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Nah, it’s not that big of a deal. It’s not bad, but it’s not worthy of the societal pedestal that says it should be held above all other forms of love. Loving someone for who they are is not limited only to romantic love, but society acts like the only way to experience “true love” is in a romantic relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I think internally, yes it can be.

I still reflect on how I felt sometimes holding my partner, how good that felt, how content I could feel doing nothing which for me is usually driving me insane to work work work. I think about that but amplified, imagine if the person was my wife, imagine if there were little kids too (even though I'm a guy I always liked and wanted to have children and a family). I think about how good that must feel, in the small moments. Those are the movie ones in my opinion but it's easy to go past them in the moment and only appreciate them as the past.

morganherrel · Answer

most people never get to experience real romantic love

and that's ok

when it actually happens (and it does happen) it's a special thing

again, no one should feel entitled to it

especially not people who do little to deserve it

SolitarySolace · Answer

No, it's merely an illusion. People need to believe it's as special as it's made out to be in order to keep the human race moving forward into the next generation. But that's all it's for. Love always dies. Never lasts forever. Not anymore

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It is special but more often than not the person you are with either isn't your first choice or you aren't theirs.. that is why most relationships fail.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is more special than you can imagine. Until you actually have it, you will never know how wonderfully powerful it really is.

Caroline91 · Answer

I don’t know how it is for other people but my husband and I have been married for 11 years and it was and has continued to be a deep, satisfying romantic love. Ì

HellGeist · Answer

I am starting to think not at this point, but I am pretty jaded. It really depends on the context in which the romance is taking place. Romance in the modern Western world is quite hollow in my opinion.

paledreams · Answer

I like realistic love in my daydreams is far superior to reality 🧠 👀 ☁️re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

sawno · Answer

For me its very special and as special as it was made out to be, even more than I had imagined.

genericname85 · Answer

how you feel is up to you. it's subjective. the entire thing. so it is not objectively "special". but you can decide that it's special to you. lots of people do that.

RageBabe · Answer

Yes, it's as special; it's just not a script from a Hollywood flick.

Avicenna · Answer

With the right person it is

LiamJHayden · Answer

If it is based mutual on commitment, yes. If it is based upon "feelings" then only as long as that high remains.

Shamalien · Answer

It certainly can be, but it is arguably the lowest form of love when speaking of higher spiritual perspectives

TheCoffeeisHot · Answer

It depends on what the relationship prioritizes

Anonymous · Answer

If it's real. Most of the time it isn't. Most of the time one or both people are just acting.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Fear is holding you back.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

Romantic love is beautiful.

In_Trance · Answer

Fuck around and find out

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

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